My husband and I have always had a very active sex life, even up until a couple weeks ago, but since I hit 38 weeks last week and I'm 39 weeks today he won't have sex with me. He says it's because he's afraid my water will break on him while we are having sex. I practically had to beg for it the other day because I wanted it so bad, he's just so paranoid about the water breaking on him, he's like you do know you could pop at anytime and I don't want it to be on me...How can I convince him that even if that would happen it wouldnt' be the end of the world?!
2007-07-31 23:51:09 · 9 answers · asked by Torey♥ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sex is not bad during pregnancy....especially towards the end I'm not causing any harm to my child..
2007-08-01 00:17:56 · update #1
he goes to every doctor appointment with me and he knows it's safe, but he just don't want to risk getting anything on him....He's goofy and this isn't even his first child, he's got a little boy from a previous relationship, so he should know already.
2007-08-01 00:27:03 · update #2
LOL! Sounds like my hubby first time around until my midwife sat him down and sat just *f&%!! the poor woman (her words). She was a very cool midwife! He was so weirded out by the whole thing as it got closer to the DD.
Tell him that until the mucus plug comes out there is no chance that he is going to 'break the waters' or dint the babys head (this was my hubby's other excuse) but after you lose the plug I wouldn't be doing anything too energetic.
My midwife actually told him that there is a certain hormone in sperm that is the same hormone used in the gel to artificially induce labour. So tell him he has to have sex with you and then you have to lie there for 15-20mins to "bathe your cervix in sperm" (her words!!!) with a pillow under your bum and that may help labour start! Worked 2nd time around for me!
And tell him that waters breaking before labour is actually the least common thing to happen. 95% of waters break during labour or are artificially broken during labour. Its a tough sucker to break! Unless he has a very large you know what! LOL!!
Good luck, I hope you deliver a healthy baby very soon!
2007-08-01 00:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the complete opposite, he wants me to hurry up and have the baby so that I can stop being so miserable! Have your doctor talk to him about it, it is still completely safe. Even if you lose your mucus plug it is OK, as long as the water doesn't break it is OK. Only after the water breaks if you have sex then there is an increase of infection. The contractions of your uterus during orgasm, helps brings on labor contractions your full term so even if you went into labor the baby would be OK. I never had my water break on my husband, but with my last baby it did put me into labor. At first I didn't even know I was in labor because they started right after really strong and close and then after an hour of that I went to the hospital. I was only 2 cm and they hooked me up to the monitors and when they checked me an hour later my baby's head was already coming out. So it really does work to make you go into labor, but not break your water.
2007-08-01 07:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by Zahira B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be the end of the world for sure... i had my son at 34 weeks and he was fine mind me that he was under 6 lbs but he is a healthy 15 month old now... I'm 36 weeks prego and the doc told me anytime now... he also told me too have sex because it will help everything.... tell your hubby that you need to have sex too help you with your labor and the delivery. Good Luck and wow your luck you have a sex drive. Alot of women for example myself have none!!! Congrats and Good Luck again!
2007-08-01 07:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him if you have the baby now it is no big deal. At this point you are full term. Have the doctor tell him it is ok. You can also tell him that if he does not have sex with you now he will have to wait almost 6 weeks after the baby is born to have sex again that might help change his mind.
2007-08-01 07:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband # 1 and # 2 and I had kids I had kids with both of them and we had sex the night before I had my kids. My water did not break in fact the DR. had to break mine. Tell him to relax and if it does that the baby will not pop out and it will not hurt you or the baby. Remind him he will be with out it 6 weeks or longer after the baby comes. So he should get all he can get all he can get now while he can. :-)
2007-08-01 07:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Angalz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is how my husband is too. Don't take it the wrong way they do worry about hurting the baby especially when you are so close to being due. Maybe you should have your doctor talk to him and tell him it is safe I don't know if that will work though cause once they make up their mind its hard to make them change it.
2007-08-01 07:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you he's not going to be able to have sex with you for six weeks after you have the baby...see if it changes his mind :P That's what I told my hubby and he finally gave in.
Good luck! and congrats :)
2007-08-01 07:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way im almost 35 weeks and he is afraid of sending me in to early labor uggghhh so anoyong ......
2007-08-01 07:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by the_lovely_princess_serena 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
OMG you selfish ***** My wife wont have sex with me because she cares about our baby and that is fine with me...Shell pleasure me whenever I want but To think that you would endanger your baby because you want to get off really pisses me off. Your cant friggin wait a little longer??? Get over yourself...
2007-08-01 07:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 15⤋