i will admit that i Am shy...
but i HATE being called shy.. that is like the worst thing ever...
i mean, What good does it do a person to just blurt out.. after like five minutes of meeting you.. that "You're shy" DUH.. captain Obvious bluntly stating facts here.. i mean.. people don't say "You're LOUD" .....i just don't get it... because all i know is that once someone calls me shy or says something about it, then that just makes me Not want to talk around them even more. i'm sick of people judging. i don't understand what good it does.. i ALREADY KNOW i am shy... i don't see why those things can't be kept to yourself... do people do it just to feel superior because they can 'talk'... or what? i just don't get it at all.. what is So Bad about being shy? Why do people have to state it and mention it all the time... in my mind it does No good. i've been called horrible things and "Mute" even... and it really just hurts. if people would wait more than a minute and give me a Chance...
2007-07-31 22:49:15 · 4 answers · asked by sweetaction 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
THANK YOU TO ALL WHO ANSWERED!!!! all the answers are so good i can't even choose between them! Thanks again! :)
2007-08-02 18:29:43 · update #1
Introverted or shy have negative connotations for no reason. As you have found out, there is a lot of pressure to be "out-going". Your shyness is a problem to extraverts.
If someone is rude enough to make a comment like "you're shy" you could always agree with them: "Yes I am, and I think I need some alone time right now." Let them find someone else with whom to interact.
2007-07-31 22:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by orderly logic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have been called shy and quite too since i was a kid. Back then, each time someone tells me that, in my mind I agrees with them. Now, 10 years on, I look back at it and I realize I was never a quite person. I just had nothing to say to them =)
People will always be this way, judging others by setting their own benchmark, which is themself. Anyone who's different from them will be labeled with all kind of stuff. Some people are just that shallow, they thinks they are the paragon of mankind.
It's just unfortunate that you had to meet those shallow airhead who had to call you mute. I understand how it hurts, but you know, its just their opinion and others doesn't necessarily have such negative opinion about you. In fact, a mature person wouldn't even have such negative thoughts about you.
To be honest, there's nothing wrong being a shy person. I'd rather befriend a someone who's shy rather than some egoistic big mouth person.
2007-08-01 06:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Hornet One 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Ive been called shy and mute and everything else related to that. I don't know why they would blurt it out. If they see my face turning red they make sure to point it out which then makes it that much worst. I don't know why they do it but I know how you feel. You are not alone. And yes if you will give me a few minutes to warm up then Iam fine it justs takes a little while. I understand completely!
2007-08-01 05:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Shy2 1 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I was completely shy/reserved 10 years ago. Now I'd walk up confidently. Shy is usually a word that means "be gentle and don't attack me". So calling someone shy just means they think you wouldn't handle things well, perhaps you should make it necessary to make yourself seem older so they dont call you shy?
2007-08-01 05:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋