Okay, I posted a question about 'dating' and about how I'm afraid to get back into the world after everything has happened and the such in this section. Anyways, first a little info about myself.
I've never found a female attractive, I've been homosexual my entire life. Now, onto the real question.
So, I'm out with a few of my buddies, we're simply hanging out, nothing else is really going on. It's hard to explain, but I'm talking with my friend and in a few minutes, I realize that I've just hooked myself up with a girl. So I go to meet her, and surprisingly, I'm completely in love with her. But the problem is that I've NEVER been attracted to them, I've NEVER really done much around them, undoubtedly I'm nervous, but the problem is, the current situation does not fit in with who I am, I have no idea what to do and I have no idea who I am any more, could someone provide some insight?
2007-07-31 21:34:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
And yes, I do like this girl, I like her a lot, the problem is that this isn't how I ever have been.
2007-07-31 21:57:27 · update #1
maybe she's special and maybe she's right for you and maybe your not gay. all maybes but good valid points to look at while you ask yourself "OK self I've never been attracted to girls before but this girl I seem to be attracted to and she seems attracted to me, is it really worth possibly screwing up a great relationship with a woman to continue saying I'm gay and worrying about the fact that I'm attracted to a woman though it's never happened before?"
2007-07-31 22:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi!
I don't think you LIKE this girl, but more so connect with her as a really good friend or feel as if she is a sister type. Just because you are close to someone doesn't mean you have to like them in that way or even think that way. You've known you have been gay since you can remember so why try to persuade yourself that you are not gay now....you are and there is no doubt in my mind or you would have known you were bi years ago. Just tell you're gay but you'd really like to be her friend. Personally for me, that is why I don't think straight and gay people should really be good friends or close at all plus it's just too different. But if you feel the need to be close to her or are connected then, bottom line, just tell her the truth of who you really are and don't be scared! Good luck!
2007-07-31 21:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by nothing2express 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me last August. We ended up having sex, and it really threw me in a serious depression for a month. My whole life was a lie, or so I thought. Then I realized that I didn't feel as strongly as I was making myself believe.
Here in August, we are two of the closest friends that either of us has ever had.
2007-07-31 21:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by nr347 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How fortunate to have found another side of you. Don't worry about labels and the fact that you have never had a straight relationship...just enjoy life for the moment...Don't worry about who you are or what you are ..You are enjoy being YOU.
2007-07-31 22:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual interest in one sex or the other (or both, or neither) is probably more like a sliding scale.
We are all probably bi-sexual. The amount we slide to the right or left is just a little different.
2007-07-31 22:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth!! If you really like her, you can still be friends... but you know there's no way it could work if there was a serious relationship...
Honestly, just sit her down, and tell her... She needs to know.
2007-07-31 21:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by Alex J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋