I'm 13 and i am bi idk how to tell my parents.i plan on keeping it a secret until i am like 17 or 18 when i realize if iam really bi straight or gay bu if you have any advice then plz feel free to tell me it...
Thx,
Matt
2007-07-31 20:56:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ok, from personal experience, you should give yourself time to figure it out.
You feel what you feel, i know that, you know that... but honestly... your parents wont right now. since you are only 13, your parents will most likely see this as a 'phase' and try to control who your friends are and try to figure out which friend "makes you act like this"
it took years of heartache convincing my mother that it wasnt a 'phase' and that i really did like both guys and girls. i had my first boyfriend at 6 and my first girlfriend at 7. thats how early i knew.
whatever you decide, good luck with it and i hope that when you tell your parents, that they support you 100%
2007-07-31 21:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Stevie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Matt.
I'm 16, and I pretty much knew I was gay at 13. I waited a year or so before accepting it, and I told my parents at 15. They always thought I was mature for my age, so they accepted my explanation. The only thing my dad was concerned about was that since I am Joe the 4th in my family, that I would not have a son to carry on and be Joe the 5th.
At 16 and almost 17, my preferences for types of guys I like are getting more defined, as will yours as you mature.
2007-08-01 00:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Gnarly Surfer Dude Guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're 13. Wait a little while to see how things turn out. As others have said, don't start defining yourself, the best time for this would be in High School, which is a little while away. Just give it time, you don't want to screw your life up by telling your parents you're something you MIGHT NOT BE!
2007-07-31 21:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi, high five =) I came out at 14, so yeah, prepare for the worst by the way. It'll get better though. Now you're out, lots more people will come out too, and then you'll know who your friends are etc. People will ask questions, so prepared, and stick to 1 story =)
2016-05-19 21:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sexual orientation was determined at birth....you just haven't discovered it yet because of numerous things, including peer pressure and all the garbage we take in everyday. Just be yourself and it will come naturally. As for your parents, when you finally have discovered who you've been, then just tell them. If they love you, which I am sure they do, then they will still love you. It's sad but true that many parents of gay or bi kids get upset or even hurt, but it's sad and ridiculous but they will get over it. The parents who don't get over it ever are the ones who never really loved or cared about their kids in the first place.
2007-07-31 22:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by nothing2express 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait untill you're certain that you are or are not gay/bi/straight. When you're certain of you're sexual orientation and comfortable with it, then you should tell you're parents. Don't wait untill your mum asks you what your sexual orientation is, like I did. It was an odd way to come out, but in the end she still loved me, because I was still her son.
2007-08-01 03:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by E.Q. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to the other ppl on this post
because u may be sure that ur bi
i was sure when i was 13
it is possible
and telling your parents isnt that hard
go ahead and tell them now that way you can avoid the drama later. what i mean by drama is that they will be shocked and want to talk 2 you about it.
just tell them that ur pretty sure your bi and that your telling them that because you love them and things "should" go smoothly from there. Good Luck :)
2007-07-31 22:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Brian S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To the first person that answered this question- You can go to hell because first age doesnt ***** matter. ppl can think wutever the *** they want ok. And to answer ur Question I think that if ur ready to tell ur parents then go ahead and just think about if they are nice and accepting because if u kno they are then they will be ok with it. But if u kno that they find things confusing u should wait or at least give them signs.
2007-07-31 21:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Dez 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Like you said yourself, give yourself time to figure out whether or not you actually are gay/bi/straight.
But if you are coming out, just do it. Sitting there hmm-ing and haa-ing doesn't help you in anyway. If your parents really love you, they'll accept you no matter what.
2007-07-31 21:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think at 13 you are to young to really no
and all i can advise is as you get older follow your own instincts
2007-07-31 23:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by ikerro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋