...based on personal experience..but my role is the ex!..lol ♥..^_^..♥
2007-07-31 19:53:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
..had a terrible fight because of it..lmao..♥
2007-07-31 19:53:58 · update #1
lol, fuqaree, ive been trying to hide as far as i could from him..i dont even want to go near him again...
2007-07-31 19:57:42 · update #2
I do not think my way is the right way, but here it is: usually before starting a deeper relationship I like to build a solid friendship. For some reason sometimes they just stay that way, I mean friendships, but if they change into something deeper and more physical I feel like I gave up the chance of a real friendship gambling and trying to get more out of it. After all I do not think the pure meaning of friendship should involve anything physical. If by any reason the attempt for a deeper relationship fails, I feel like the friendship has been damaged someway by all the things that happened afterward. If I start a relationship is not just because I need a temporary change in my life, it's to build something steady and longlasting. Anything causing a failure in that process affects also the friendship. I realize many guys and girls stay friends after breaking up, but I know some of my friends do that just to leave a door open on a possible once in a while "visit" to the ex with a possibility for a night spent on the "memory lane"! The sneaky phone call every 2 or 3 months just to say hi and to ask how's going (meaning: anybody in your life yet? Any chance for us for a date?), the e-mail to talk about the wonderful 2 weeks vacation he/she had, naturally in the place he/she knows you always dreamt to go (and that never really happened)...honestly? I find that a little bit hypocritical! And manipulative! It's like trying to keep a net of many ex and their places to crash into in case of emotional need. I find that arguable. When I break up something involving betrayal or misrespect happened and that affects my friendship as well. So, once the fat lady sings that's all, time to move on. I keep the good memories inside me, but I avoid any further contact with my ex. Just my opinion...I'm not trying to convince anybody this is the right way. Maybe I'm just too old fashioned. See ya'...
2007-08-01 14:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Eddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all...he is not going to lose custody of his kids simply because you stand up for yourself to this woman. The courts are not interested in such petty stuff. If I were you I would say something to her. But, don't be mean or even angry when you talk to her. Be just as sweet and nice as you can, but be straight forward and make sure you get your best points in because she is more than likely not going to listen too long. Your story is so common in the sense that the ex is always jealous of the new gf and it's amazing how they use the kids as leverage against the exhubby. OR, write her a letter, again sugar coat it and make a copy of it. But.... no matter how you do it, DO IT. Let her know that you are "there" and not happy the way she is acting because it is going to affect the kids..... I went thru the same thing and it really bugged the ex that I was so "nice".. good luck!
2016-05-19 21:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by lu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a monogamous and I must be always calm when I give my judgment in this matter... I am friend of a couple ex who keeps respect for me... but never go back in bed with any of them. Those who made the mistake to fade away from me must hold their choice.... I am not a silly idiot and I avoid especially those ex who make fake approach just to use me again to satisfy their own egotistic motivations. The good and the bad of any person is inside and sooner or later the real aspect comes out. We all must learn how to recognize the real friendship at the beginning, without wearing pink glasses. Bye
2007-08-01 13:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by bianco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. It's quite sensible, and it's mature.
As long as the parting wasn't acrimonious, why not remain friends. Since there were obviously things about the person you liked, there's no need to have them be completely out of your life.
My partner and I are starting to drift away from each other, but we've talked about this and are fairly certain that the relationship is just changing to that of good friends. I'd be heartbroken if he wanted to just disappear from my life.
However, if one's current partner were to go away with their ex for, say, a weekend, that would be very odd.
2007-07-31 19:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not stay friends with EX's...not sure why others do. My husbands ex is deceased so I am lucky. Whoa! That came out wrong...I mean, I do not have that problem.
2007-07-31 20:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by Evil Ejade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, because I'm in the same boat. I love my ex to pieces, I just couldn't be his partner anymore. He's still one of my best friends... and my fiancee, God love him, tolerates it well. LOL
2007-07-31 19:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never "just" the X. You know that as well as us. Leave that boy alone. You will find someone to fall in love with.
2007-07-31 19:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by fuqaree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope doesn't bother me at all i'm friends with my ex - maybe it's because we are all comfortable and happy with our decisions and don't suffer from confidence issues. Good question :-D
2007-07-31 23:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girlfriends ex is my best friend so i don't have to worry at all but knowing him i definately know my girlfriend jess won't go back to him
2007-07-31 20:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong to be friends with your X I am married and I am friends with my X my wife are with her X. nothing wrong with it unless we are fooling around thats another situation which is very wrong.
2007-07-31 20:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Ricky666 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋