Being a stepmom to multiple kids, thoughts on day to day life?

Question

I am curious to hear from other stepmom's to multiple kids, how you adjusted, and your thoughts.

I am 24 years old, I have a son who is 5 years old. Last August I married a wonderful man who is 36, and he has 4 kids, ages 14, 12, 11, 8. Out of our Motley Crew of 5 there are 4 boys and 1 girl, all very different personalities. From oldest to youngest we have The Basketball Star, The Skater, The Loner, The Princess, and the Whiz Kid.

I personally love the big family life. I had to have a hysterectomy at age 21, due to cervical pre-cancer cells, and I thought my dream of having the big family was crushed. Then along comes this great guy with 4 great kids. I will admit it took quite a bit of adjustment, to learn their personalities and most of all to learn how to run a household with that many kids. I am a full time stay at home mom/stepmom, full time jobs are not compatible with this many kids!

Now for YOUR story and thoughts about being a stepmom to multiples.........

Just a note: I am not looking for advice on how to adjust to being a stepmom, I am handling very well, and loving every minute. I am interested in hearing other peoples stories.

Answer 1

Well, I am not a stepmom, but I will share my story about our family, which is a stepfamily. My fiance' and I got together 2 1/2 years ago. Shortly after, his mom and stepdad (not his real dad, even though he's raised my fiance' all of his life and considers his stepdad his real dad) split up. With my mom being a lonely, single mom and his stepdad being crushed from the unexpected divorce, we decided to fix them up. They were introduced and fell in love immediately. Not long after, my fiance' moved in with myself, my mom, my 14 year old brother, my 12 year old sister, and my 5 year old brother. THEN, a couple of months later, things got extra serious between my mom and my fiance's stepdad and he moved in with his 15 year old son and 13 year old daughter! They are planning to get married in a few months (after my fiance' and I, we made sure to let them know they were NOT allowed to get married before us! :) There is never a dull moment with 9 people in the household, 4 of those being teenagers! There is never a bathroom free when you need it and there is never enough food in the pantry. There always seems to be some type of drama between the girls, or someone picking on the now 7 year old because he stands out like a sore thumb. And I can't speak for everyone living here, but I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world! I think big families are better, and anyone part of a big family (stepfamily or otherwise) should be grateful! Good luck to you as you continue to learn about your newfound family and to your family as you continue to grow and love!

Answer 2

I had one and was a stepmom of 4 at about the same age. Unfortunately, it did not work out in the long run. I did, however develop a wonderful relationship with some great kids, and one not so great one. It was very difficult for me in the beginning, but with time I learned how to manage my time and money. I can say that I would not have traded the experience for anything in the world. (All five were girls from age 15 to 7)

Answer 3

Hey!
I'm a step mom and having allot of problems with the mothers kids. She's been giving me a hard time since me and my husband hooked up 5 years ago. The kids are really nice to me(in my face) but apparently not behind my back. I always been nice to those kids ad even tried with there mom but NOOO! Personally I think she's just jealous that my husband WANTED to marry me and have a family with me. We just had a little girl 3 months ago.

The story between those two( my husband and her) is that they met in high school they dated and she's one of those girls that wanted to have kids at 17 years old. My husband did not want to have kids he wanted to go to college. She was pretending to be on the pills and got pregnant 2 times. My husband left when he found out she was pregnant with the second one. I know I 'm not blaming her 100% for getting pregnant, but she lied to him.

So that's the reason why she don't like me. Now he's kids are 18 and 15. I love my husband and his kids very much but if I knew that would come with all the grief I would have not married him. I know that seems really mean but I when through
allot with that women.

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Answer 4

My son is divorced and remarried to a lady with a son and my son has a daughter by a former marriage. Now they have a son together and I admire them both so much! My daughter in law takes his daughter a day a week and they do girly things together, like a pedicure or shop, swim or something. He takes her son and their son and goes riding 4 wheelers and things. They are both such great step parents! I am so happy it is working out so well for them, not the case in many marriages!

Answer 5

I just want to say that you guys are blessed, you for having the big family you always wanted and them because they have somebody that is not their mother but that loves them like if you were. God bless you!!!

Answer 6

step moms are always bad when you consider you are not the mom... kids may be kids but they know where their heart is and that is with their real mom. you can't adjust to this. kids are smarter than you. they don't like you, futher more than love you. i'm sorry, but you have alot of adjustment to do in your life and it won't happen over night and not here just wait and see, if you care. .

Answer 7

wow.. you're doing real big. sounds like you have a great man and family. :-)

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