I was just wondering why some men seem to be so full of themselves at bars/clubs. It doesn't happen everytime I go - in fact, it only ever happens when I haven't paid any particular attention to my looks (ie. after work to grab a few beers with my girlfriends.) It's not that it even matters to me as I have a boyfriend, and I don't like dancing so I'm rarely within "flirting distance" when it comes to most of these places, but out of curiosity, why is it that when I went in all dolled up, the guys were acting normal like any other person in a bar, but tonight, when I was wearing jeans, a t-shirt, no makeup and a ponytail, the men didn't just NOT look to me -- they had these attitudes like, "You have no business being here." It was such a turnoff and even my friends picked up on the vibes. It was even worse the first time I went to a stripclub! I realize I haven't spent hours on my looks like the dancers have and that women are rare in those places, but the rudeness ... agh.
2007-07-31 19:32:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
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2007-08-03 05:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by wormfriskie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the answer to be simple: Men are pigs! This might seem a bit odd figuring I am a male myself but I can't tell you how many times I have heard stories from women about men they have dated or men they have come across in a bar/club/restaurant etc, etc and they have a bad (if not disgusted) opinion about them. I firmly believe 80% of men are pigs. They have no class, no loyalty, and certainly no manners. Sure, some of this can be attributed to booz but most of it just comes from upbringing and the sad fact that most men actually believe they are acting "OK". Lets face the facts here, most men only think about one thing when looking at a woman or meeting her for the first time: SEX. I too have been guilty of this trait every now and then. Believe you me when I tell you that no man is interested in a woman's personality the first time he meets her. That might happen later, but certainly not at first. Like I mentioned earlier, not ALL men are like this though. Unfortunatley those ones are far and few between.
2007-07-31 19:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by katzenbachnyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a man gets a few drinks he makes most of his decisions with his second head. Remember that you start looking better at closing time.
I use to visit clubs with a lot of my drinking friends. I didn't drink, I was the designated driver.
I hardly ever got real dressed up. And never danced much. Men would get mad at me because I wouldn't dance with them and fall all over them.
But I met a lot of nice people there, I was having a problem with a guy one night, and left the table and went to bath room to get away from him. Whee I came back to my table a nice guy setting at the next table got up and ask if I could like set with him.
I said sure and , I would while my friends were dancing , And guess what he was a song writer out of Nashville music city. i had a companion from then on I helped him with his songs.
You just have to did miss those few guys that think they are it.
Queen Bee
2007-07-31 20:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ambience of a bar / club is (through social expectancies) that of a meat marketplace. human beings go there to hook up. So, in case you appear dressed down (except it extremely is a dive bar), you're truly committing a social pretend pas. it would be like anticipating to debate the end results of Nietzsche's philosophies on our postmodern international, with somebody at a monster truck rally. they had look at you like you have been from yet another planet, and rightly so. ;-) At strip golf equipment, once you're a woman, you're merely inquiring for it. Any women folk at a strip club recommend much less interest (examine: money) for the strippers from their customers, except you start up making out with between the strippers. so as that they are not going to welcome you with open hands. the adult men will unavoidably be much less fascinated in you, as you have clothing on, are not as warm (in all probability) , and in case you have not made your self up besides, then you definitely are actually not likely to get the time of day from them. Sorry, yet them's the breaks. =
2016-10-01 04:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little darlin'
just in case you haven't noticed it
lately there is a lot of male AND female folks
that are simply "full of themselves" !!!
They are so pumped up on the ME factor
that they simply are a pain to be around
and it seems to be a growing phenomenon --
add this to a couple of drinks and ZOWIE !!
Now, when you're all dolled up -- you become
an "enhancement factor" for them -- so adding
you to their present "scene" is seen as "desirable"
to bring more attention to THEM !!
More than just a little sad to say the least !!!
2007-07-31 19:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men who go to bars/clubs are looking for a quick piece of @ss. If you aren't attractive to them, they have no use for you. They don't care how nice, kind, funny, and intelligent you are, they have one goal: to get laid.
Many of the women who hang out in bars are looking for the same thing men are looking for (a one-night-stand) so, with men knowing this, they are rude and arrogant. They are used to chicks with little or no morals so why should they be respectful to them.
These trashy men aren't worth your attention anyway. You wouldn't ever want to get into a relationship with one of those kinds of guys so don't fret over their lack of attention. Instead, rejoice that they're leaving you alone. They're dogs. (no offense to real dogs)
2007-08-02 18:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that one is EASY to answer. If your "all Dolled up" you appear to be looking for attn whereas if you go in looking like you just got up or just got off work and don't care how you look it says "hey i don't need or want your attn so piss off", thats why they were rude to you. In a nut shell they were rude because they couldn't delude themselves into thinking they had a chance to "Score" with you.
2007-07-31 19:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, normally what you have described comes from women. So, I am stumped. However, I will say that I think mostly bars and clubs have less than desireable people in them anyway. I wouldn't give it another thought.
2007-07-31 19:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by beenthere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats too bad. Dressing down sometimes can be a big turn on for me. I would think that ego might have something to do with it.
2007-07-31 19:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by dewhatulike 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because THAT's where rude & arrogant men GO- to "strutt their stuff" ! If THAT surprises you- then you've been going to the WRONG places! :)
2007-07-31 19:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋