How to forget the pain and live my normal life.?

Question

I have lost my love forever.Until now i didnt face any problems in my life.Im unable to bare this pain of losing her.Always thinking about her and recollecting our memories.How to overcome this situation.she got married to another guy by her parents force.She wont love him.But she is not feeling the pain as i was.She tells me that i want to adjust with him.But how i have to come out of this situation.I love her a lot.plzz helppp.

Answer 1

Either run away with her, or confront her family. if she see's this as a weakness coming from you, leave her. Despise her if you must just to get rid of that feeling. If, however, she does stand by your side, then you know what steps to take. just dont kill the guy >_> smack him a little but dont kill him

Answer 2

You are obsessing over her and your pain which will ONLY bring you more obsession and pain. You want to obsess and feel pain right now. When you are tired of that, this is what you do. Think about the good things you had with her, and more importantly, ignore the bad. Then think about the things that you would like to have in addition to what you already had....AND be completely selfish (it is your life and no one else knows your thoughts but you). Then obsess on that, the way you are obsessing on your pain. It will take practice because you have a powerful emotional tie to your loss but it can be done. Promise, the pain will go away...

Answer 3

I hope you feel better soon. Yours is not the first loss like this.

I can only say that time will heal your pain. Look at the good things you had together and strive to carry your capacity for loving into the next and (hopefully) most significant love of your life.

Answer 4

You Can Be Happy Despite Problems:

YES, you might well ask yourself, ‘How happy am I?’ Social scientists are trying hard to find out how you or others would answer, but their task is not an easy one. Measuring the happiness of individuals might be likened to attempting to quantify the love that a man has for his wife or the amount of grief that is caused by a death in the family. Emotions do not lend themselves to precise measurement. However, scientists do recognize a basic truth: All humans have the capacity for being happy.

Despite that built-in capacity for happiness, serious problems have brought a plague of unhappiness. Consider this example: In some cities, AIDS victims have filled the cemeteries. Authorities are reopening older graves in order to bury those recently deceased. In parts of Africa, coffinmaking is a major means of employment. And no matter where you live, you have seen that there are few smiles among those suffering from serious disease and among those who have lost relatives and friends.

What about more prosperous places? A sudden turn of events can snatch financial security from the unprepared. In the United States, many retired people have had to go back to work because they lost pension benefits. Medical bills often consume all the savings that a family has. “You see these people come in with huge costs and health problems and it breaks your heart,” says one legal adviser. “A lot of times you have to tell them, ‘You’re going to lose your home.’” But what about those who have no financial worries? Might unhappiness affect them too?

Some individuals are like the famous composer Richard Rodgers. It was said of him: “Few men have given so much pleasure to so many people.” Even though his songs contributed to others’ pleasure, he suffered from chronic depression. He reached the twin goals to which many aspire—money and fame—but what about happiness? One biographer observed: “[Rodgers] became extraordinarily successful in his work, enjoyed a privileged life, and shared two Pulitzer Prizes. He was also unhappy and depressed much of the time.”

As you may have observed, looking to wealth for happiness is often deceptive. An investment reporter for The Globe and Mail of Toronto, Canada, described the “isolation and emptiness” that many well-to-do people endure. According to one financial adviser, when wealthy parents shower their children with money and the things it can buy, “often the seeds are being planted for misery later on.”

Any Solid Basis for Happiness?
Like a flowering plant, happiness needs proper conditions in order to grow
To flourish, a flowering plant needs good soil, water, and a proper climate. Likewise, researchers recognize that certain conditions contribute to happiness. These include physical well-being; good work; adequate food, shelter, and clothing; fulfillment of creative desires; and true friends.

You would probably not dispute the effect those conditions have on a person’s prospects for being happy. But there is a more important factor. It is knowledge of “the happy God,” whose name is Jehovah. (1 Timothy 1:11) How does that knowledge help? Jehovah is our Creator, and he gave us the capacity for being happy. Logically, he knows what can make us truly happy. The following article describes his way of directing people in any location or circumstance to a life of enduring happiness.
A Sure Guide to Happiness
“THE pursuit of Happiness” is the right of all men. That was the view of the framers of the Declaration of Independence of the United States of America. But pursuing a goal is not the same as reaching it. While many young people pursue careers in entertainment and sports, how many do you know who have actually attained the success they so desired? “You probably won’t make it,” says one famous singer familiar with the struggle to become a successful musician.

If you have felt that way about finding happiness, there is good reason for you to take heart. If you pursue happiness in the right way, you will attain it. Why can that be said? The preceding article made reference to “the happy God,” Jehovah. (1 Timothy 1:11) In the Bible, God provides guidance so that your pursuit of happiness does not lead to a dead-end of disappointment. Jehovah can help you to overcome common causes for sadness. As an example, consider the comfort he offers to you when someone you love dies.

Answer 5

If she's your real love, then fight for her. I know it will be tough but families who still practice this need to see the error of their ways.
See if she can get an annulment. I'm sure if the guy who married her can see she is in love with someone, he will let go of her.

Answer 6

oh god

pull yourself together
find a new friend
change city
work longer hours
and go wipe that look of defeat from your face
cheer up and see 'friends' 10 times

Answer 7

Time will help you to heal. You need to get your parents to find you a bride of your own.

Answer 8

i'm sorry... i feel your pain. once in our lifetime, we experience that true love but always remember, whatever happened, it happened for a reason. you guys were not meant for each other. maybe not in this lifetime. be strong and move on.

Answer 9

let me guess, arranged marriage...? it's going to be ok, maybe your parents will find you someone cool that you can adjust to as well.