backstabbing friend?

Question

A really good friend of mine was having a lot of problems with her family, so i told her that if she wanted to she could move in for a while.my family treated her like she was a part of our family. everything was fine until one night we wanted to go to a party that my parents didn't let us go to. we both decided to go anyway and say we were baby sitting the whole night. my mom found out and got mad at us and lectured us about it and just said not to lie again. when i walked away from the room and was waiting her outside the room i overheard her tell my parents it was all my fault that she tried to talk me out of it but i wouldn't listen. i was furious but never spoke up waiting to see if she would tell me. she ended up moving out b/c things were awkward and left without thanking my parents for anything. she text my mom, even though she was in the next room to say she was leaving the next day and that was it. no thank u or anything else. no good bye. should i try to talk to her now?

yea i said forget her...when she left. the only reason i ask is kuz other peole been thinking i kicked her out and i did kind of miss her but i did alot for her as a friend and i think she took it all for granted. she was really not who i thought she was. my mom also text her a week ago telling her that she had some mail and she text her back saying that she had text me but i didn't respond which was a lie i never received anything and if she cared she would have tried harder than that. but thanks i knew i should just forget her dumb ***.

Answer 1

Your "so called" friend sounds like she really isn't much of one by throwing you under the bus like that. No, I wouldn't try talking to her, she's the one that made the gap between you two and she sounds very unappreciative as well. What kind of person TEXT messages someone, "I'm moving out". That's so immature. Why would you want a friend like this? If she can backstab you in your own house what about out in the real world??? Good ridance to bad rubbish I say. Unless she comes at you with honesty and a big apology fuhget about her!

Answer 2

If you value your friendship, you should talk to her. Obviously, you care about her enough to let her move in with her.

If she was having problems with her family, then that might've been the reason that she lied to your mom, as a defence mechanism to keep the family that she just gained. That's just speculation, but it's a possibility. People do stupid things when they're panicked.

If I were in your place, I would talk to her, definitely. I don't recommend getting on her case or anything, just see if you can have a calm discussion with her, and using logic and reason. She's obviously troubled right now, so the key is to be as calm as possible with her. If you can't get as close as you used to be, at least you could probably get an apology or a thank you for letting her stay with you.

Answer 3

That is really rude, but people do foolish things all the time. I would tell her that she could have handled the situation better and let her know how you feel. Depending on how she acts from there is whether I would talk to her or not. If she doesn't seem sorry that she lied to your parents I wouldn't remain friends,and I definitely wouldn't let her stay with your family again.

Answer 4

If she was having a lot of problems with her family she might have some issues going on with her self. You should talk to her. If you guys were really good friends you should try to work things out. Just see where her head is at at least. If you dismiss the friendship completely, you might regret it later on down the line.

Answer 5

hey babe listen i read a little bit of your details but it sounds like drama so if you don't like drama don't get around people
that are a source and if you do that you want have this kind
of problem, so to answer your question no , im sorry that people are so cold in this world and i hope that when the kingdom of god is a hand the people like this want be there and or not like this, it sounds like the girl has some problems and she sounds to weak to speak of it and time will help in this case. but listen i hope your doing well and good luck in your decisions and let god guide you

Answer 6

No you at the instant are not.... there are a number of human beings available who declare to be acquaintances to somebody and the 2nd the guy turns their back the so stated as buddy is there to adhere the knife in the persons back that's existence.... some anybody is in basic terms messy that way... Myself i attempt to circumvent thems style of human beings... One confident thank you to comprehend if there'll be issues in a friendship is to tell the potential buddy a secret and if it gets out... Theres your info they cant be depended on.

Answer 7

shes seems like she didnt want her parents to think bad about her but i still think she was being selfish and she shouldve been more grateful. shes probably is acting like that because shes stressed out from family problems and if you truly think she deserves a second chance you should have a real talk with her and see what she has to say. good luck :-)

Answer 8

No wonder she was having problems with her family?

What did she gain by blaming it all on you and leaving?

A classic run away and not deal with your problems or take any kind of responsibility for your actions kind of personality!

Answer 9

Unless you want to spend all your time trying to figure out what she said about you behind your back, bail and run now

Answer 10

Just say to her that you dont care & then never talk 2 her again. Simple as that.