i feel ready to leave my husband i'm tired of his crap the only problem is i don't have my own job,i feel like he's robbed my life away from me and i want it back do i get my **** together then drop him or do i drop him now,what do you think?
2007-07-31 18:21:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a job...quick...and as soon as you get your first paycheck,
drop him!!!....and start anew !!!
2007-07-31 18:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set yourself some goals with a time frame for yourself and work towards them. Concentrate on yourself first and on your well being. Find a job first and get your own credit card as long as you are together. This way you might get a better credit score. Go to work for a few months and have a plan when you are ready to leave. You need to rent a rental space for your stuff and you need to have a place to stay. Start moving your important and personal stuff into storage, little by little. Once you have accomplished that and you are ready to move, wait til your husband leaves the house and then have the movers come and pick up your furniture. You can leave him a note saying that you loved him very much, but things have not changed and he is not interested or committed to your marriage. Let him know, that somebody has to have the balls and move on and make an end to that nightmare. Wish him good luck and all the happiness in the world and leave him your cell phone number where he can call you in an emergency. Don't ever tell him where you work or live. Good luck and you can do it. May girlfriend did this and she was staying with me for a while.
2007-08-01 01:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right, here's what i think, i've been in your situation before, what i think you need to do is confront him and say that you want some indipendance from him, tell him your sick of the 4 walls with only you and the TV for company, go out, get a job, go to bars and meet people (in a platonic sense at first) just to see how you feel, if you have a job and some independence and you still feel the same after say 6 months, then start looking for somewhere else to live, before you leave him, so that you have somewhere to go when you do leave. But if you are dead set on leaving (and it sounds like it when i read your question again) then definitely get all your badgers in a row before you go or you will be stuck on the street with no where to go and no money coming in
2007-08-01 01:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not as easy as people say it is. I've been in a relationship like this. You need to find a job and start a network of friends that way. Save us some money and when you are ready pack up and leave.
If you are financially unstable then, you should def. stick with him a lil bit longer til you get on your feet.
Good Luck~
2007-08-01 01:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by XX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best laid plans are the ones we think out before we jump in head first. Get a job and start saving your money because you need to support yourself, do you have family that will take you in and where you going to go? All these things need to be thought out. But good luck!
2007-08-01 01:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the sooner the better. The road to recovery from a relationship is time, and a lot of it. The longer you are with him, there is no progress being made on getting your life back. You can find a job.....just have faith in yourself.
2007-08-01 01:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan it out. Get a job, save some $$$, have a place to live when you move out - then pick the time to move. Tell him and leave him - or leave him then tell him. If he's abusive and violent leave him then tell him (via text message).
I'm glad to see your strong to make this big move! Well done!
2007-08-01 01:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by ms_stolli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him now. You shouldn't subject yourself to an unhappy life. You can ask for help from friends, family, any organization you're involved in. Leave him, and everything will fall into place.
2007-08-01 01:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by love_to_knit! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find a family member and stay w/them for now. Kids? Think about them first. Get a job, a good shelter, and through time you'll pull yourself together.
-Good luck, Miley
2007-08-01 01:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how misserable you are with him. You can get a job fast. do you have anywhere to go? any one you can stay with until you get a job? do you have kids? if so you need to think of them first. if you are being abused then it is better to leave right away. if so there is help for you at shelters.
2007-08-01 01:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are in physical danger, I would not leave until you have a job and can financially support yourself. Divorce costs money and takes time. You can't count on him to support you once you have left.
2007-08-01 01:27:29 · answer #11 · answered by J T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋