How can I make friends if i Dont have friends ?

Question

I don't have friends to communicate and I am wanting to make friends can you all help how to make friends ?

I know its a stupid question... Sorry for asking this. I just wanted to say suppose if i dont work or drink or smoke or go to college then what shall i do. In my complex most of the boys or girls are kids. I want to make friends like you all and consider myself to be one of you all

Answer 1

If you want to make friends, you first need to meet people. No matter where you live, this should be fairly easy. Just in case you're stumped, here are just a few suggestions.


School or work. If you're in school or have a lot of co-workers, you're surrounded by potential friends for a large portion of your day. A way to make a friend is to not be shy; go up to that person ask questions, like "what is your name?" Act friendly and be honest and trustworthy.
Join a club with people of common interests. You don't necessarily have to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them--in fact, some of the most rewarding friendships are between two people who don't have much in common at all--but if you have something in common with people, it can make it a lot easier to talk to them and plan activities initially. Whatever your age and whatever your interests, there is a club or organization for you.
Join a team. Especially if you're in school, joining a sports team can be great way to make friends. A common misconception about this is that you have to be really good at playing a particular sport in order to make friends with others on the team, but this isn't true. As long as you enjoy the sport, try your best, and acknowledge that you're not a pro, your teammates will usually be more than happy to accept you for who you are.
Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way for people of all ages to meet others. By working together you build bonds with people, and the fact that you're devoting your time to something free of charge shows that you're compassionate and unselfish, two traits of good friends.
Get online. In general, the internet isn't a great place to make real friends, the kind who will be there for you when you really need them. If, however, you use social networking sites, forums, or other online communities to find people in your area, you can introduce yourself online and then meet people in person. If you live in a really isolated place, the internet can also help you find other people around the world that share your interests.


Talk to people. You can join a club, go to school, or go to church, and you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to talk to people, and any time you talk to someone, you have a chance at making a lasting friend. You can talk to anybody: the clerk at the video store, the person sitting next to you on the bus, or the person in front of you in the unemployment line. Don't be picky. Most conversations will be a dead-end of sorts, in that you may never talk to that person again or you'll just remain acquaintances, but once in a while you'll actually make a friend.


Introduce yourself early in the conversation. Your name doesn't necessarily need to be the first thing out of your mouth, but if you're looking to make friends, knowing each other's names is a good start. Once you introduce yourself, the other person will typically do the same. Remember his or her name, and use it later in the conversation.
Make small talk. Friends can talk about just about anything, but you don't want to get too personal when you first meet someone. Just make good, inoffensive small talk at first.
Open up the opportunity for another meeting. When you meet someone whom you think might make a good friend, try to exchange contact information. This is especially important if you meet someone who you aren't otherwise likely to meet again. Seize the day!


If you've discovered that the person you're talking to has a common interest, ask him or her more about it and, if appropriate, whether they get together with others, in a club, for example, to pursue this interest. If so, this is a perfect opportunity to ask about joining them. If you have a club, band, church, etc. that you think they might enjoy take the opportunity to give them your number or email address and invite them to join you.
If you're new in town and just looking to meet people, don't be afraid to mention this. People are often excited about meeting new people, showing them around, and introducing them to their friends.
Be fun to be around. You don't have to be a superstar to be fun. You don't even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good when they're around you. From the very first conversation you have with someone, you should use body language to convey that you are affable, non-threatening, and approachable. Smile frequently, laugh often, and make eye contact. In your words, be confident, but don't be cocky, condescending, or mean-spirited.
Be a good listener.. Many people think that in order to be seen as "friend material" they have to appear very interesting. Far more important than this, however, is the ability to show that you're interested in others. Listen carefully to what people say, remember important details about them (their names, their likes and dislikes), ask questions about their interests, and just take the time to learn more about them. People love to talk about themselves, and the easiest way to be likable is to listen. You don't want to be the guy or girl that always has a better story than anyone else or that changes the subject abruptly instead of continuing the flow of conversation. These people appear too wrapped up in themselves to be good friends.
Be reliable. The steps above are great for making acquaintances, but how do acquaintances become lifelong friends? One important trait of a good friend is reliability. When you say you'll do something, do it. Be someone that people know that they can count on.
Be trustworthy. One of the best things about having a friend is that you have someone to whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide from the rest of the world. The key to being a good confidante is the ability to keep secrets, so it's no secret that you shouldn't tell other people things that were told to you in confidence. Before people even feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust. Be honest about yourself and your beliefs, and don't gossip about others or spread rumors.
Be there. You've probably heard of fair-weather friends. They're the ones who are happy to be around you when things are going well, but are nowhere to be found when you really need them. Part of being a friend is being prepared to make sacrifices of your time and energy in order to help out your friends. If a friend needs help with an unpleasant chore, or if he or she just needs a shoulder to cry on, be there.
Be true to yourself. A good friend sometimes does things he or she doesn't want to do, such as helping a friend move or going to see a band that you don't really like, but you should never feel pressured to do something you think is wrong. Stay true to you convictions and beliefs, and if this causes you to lose some friends, you're better off without them. You'll also find that your integrity may help you win a lot of other friends, and if you just be yourself you'll make friends who like you for who you are

Answer 2

Do exactly what you are doing now! Ask questions! Make friends by asking questions.

How do you feel today? Do you enjoy the rain we are having? Have you read any good books lately? Can you recommend a good book for me to read? Please tell me all about your vacation last week.

People love to talk....and they really like to talk to someone who is interested in them and someone who is a good listener.

People look to find friends who are interesting. Can you think of something that makes you different from other people that will make you interesting? ARe you from another country? Can you speak a foreign language? Do you like to eat exotic food? Can you recommend an unusual restaurant?

Ask open-ended questions. Ask questions that require long answers.....not just a "yes" or "no" answer.

Remember people's names. Use the other person's name often. People like the sound of their own name.

Hello Julio! It is so good to see you! What are you going to do today now that it isn't raining? Can you tell me of the website where you bought that pair of cool shoes?

Start the conversation and keep it going with more questions.

Do you see what I mean? What other ways can you continue a conversation? Explain a time when you met a person and kept them as a friend. Describe what you two had in common.

Good Luck!!

Answer 3

"Choose friends wisely, the portrait they paint
Is who you are and who you ain't.
Friendship is life's great support
When friends are of the right sort.
For all your dreams do they make room,
Or bring you down with doom and gloom?
You will know a friendship is true
When it brings out the best in you."

It's true. You can tell a person by the company she keeps. Our friendships not only tell a lot about who we are -- they make us who we are.
The friendship poem above says it all. You will know a friendship is true when it brings out the best in you.

Take a look at your friends. Do they bring out the best in you? That might seem like a silly question. We all tend to think, "Of course they bring out the best in me. I wouldn't be friends with them otherwise."

How true friendships are born
But stop and think why you are friends. Here are a few common reasons why people become friends:
Common background, sharing a comfort level in company from "the same side of the tracks".

Common current situation, being able to discuss parenting, home renovations, or some other major life circumstance.

Common interest, such as cards, bowling, hunting, etc.

For shy people, a person who actually approached you is a candidate for friendship.

For leaders, somebody who seems content to follow is a likely candidate. Somebody you spend time with anyway, such as a colleague, sibling, etc, often becomes a friend.

Somebody you see frequently anyway, such as a neighbor, store clerk, etc, could become a friend.

These are just a few reasons people choose friends. It is the easy, natural way, but it is not always in our best interest. Sure, we should always want to get along with colleagues, neighbors, siblings, and anybody else.
But we should choose our friends, the people we open up to, very carefully. For instance, even a sibling can bring you down, pooh-pooh your dreams and load you up with negativity. "Ha! You think you can teach? What do you know about teaching?"

Even well-meaning friends can be dream-slashers. "Oh, do you really think you should go into business for yourself? I mean, what about security?"

On the other hand, some friends have a way of building up your dreams. "Go for it! You could really do well. And at worst, you'll at least have given it your best shot!"

Friends will often lend a hand. "Gee, I don't know much about fitness, but is there any way I can help you reach your goal?" Dream-slashers usually don't. "Hey, if you insist on pursuing this crazy scheme, leave me out of it."

As the friendship poem says ...
A true friendship should:
Encourage you to live your dream.

Support you toward your goals.

Sympathize for your losses and help you find a silver lining.

Build your self-esteem.

If happiness and life-satisfaction are your goals, your friends should be chosen on the basis of how well they can accomplish those four goals.
Happiness is a personal choice that comes from within. But, as my short friendship poem says, it sure doesn't hurt to have supportive friendships that help us achieve our goals. For more personal growth articles check the menu to the left.

Answer 4

Don't do things to attract people to be friends with you, it doesn't work that way.
It takes some time to build friendship.
But you can speed things up.
When you say "trust", it isn't something minor.
In fact, a friendship is not real one without trust. You have to have faith in your friends. They also have to have faith in you. You have to gain their trust in you. To do that, make sure you know how to keep secrets. Whatever happens next, do not reveal your friend's secrets. Sometimes, there may some kind of a test on trust. Anyway, just be careful of what you say. Make sure you don't spill the beans. And don't betray any of your friends for someone better.
To build up love is a different thing.
To care and love your friends are somekind of feelings and thoughts that you'll eventually have within you. Love that comes from inside you. You can love your friends by helping them when they need you most, do your best to care and protect them. At the same time, you have to tell them off if they do somehing wrong. That's also call love, wanting them to change their ways by talking to them nicely, lead them to the correct path in life.
Treat your friends equally, you may love one better than the other. It's not wrong to do that. But make sure that person doesnt feel left out. Try to spend time with them. If you are destinied to be friends for life, of course, the bonds between you and your friends will grow stronger and stronger each day.
Try to avoid conflicts too. Peace is always the way out.

All the best.
FriendShip Connector

Answer 5

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Answer 6

While making friends, age doesn't matter. you can make friendship with any age. I have friends from a 4 year kid to a 88 year old man and I am very comfortable with all of them. Its worth sharing with each age group the different things.

Answer 7

I dont know ur age sooo....
-in school
-at work
-sports team
-through family

take every oppertunity u have and put urself out there - u wont regrett it when u have friends to show for it =]

good luck<3

Answer 8

if you don't have any friends well just start with a simple conversation whuts your name, how old are you, if your still in school or something like i know is not that easy to talk to some that you don't know like me im working at a grocory store and this two guys bearly came in and i told them whuts their name and since their i have been talking to them. just void you nerves because with your nerves you won't go no where with them

Answer 9

Join a club that interests you. Friends are usually interested in the same things.

Answer 10

First be good to yourself,involved with the people say hi/hallo with smiling face (one cant make Friends it happened)

Answer 11

Attend functions seminars and visit publicly where you are formally been invited and have some association with persons whom you are able to contact there. Introduce your self.