a while ago my husband cheated on me with a "friend" of mine twice before and denied it at first then came clean. now this "friend" has come to me again claiming that last weekend he tried to kiss her but she turned him down. But my husband swears to me that he didn't try to kiss her. i don't know who to beleive if she is telling the truth then obviously i will leave him but what if he is telling the truth?! Please help
2007-07-31 18:06:32 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, well you should believe the "friend" because your husband cheated on you twice so you can't trust him.
I would move on from your husband and find a man who will treat you better. Oh, and do the same with your "friend", block her out of your life since she isn't a friend.
2007-07-31 18:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Alyssa 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hun, This is a hard question to answer. What does your heart tell you? Remember that yes your husband did have an affair with your friend twice and came clean about it. But remember that the person that is telling you this is the one who had the affiar with your husband. So you really dont have a reason to believe either one. Both of them are guilty. Why should you trust your husband? Why should you trust your friend? Just follow your heart. Are you and this girl still friends? If not maybe she is just trying to ruin your marriage. I hope all works out for you. Just follow your heart. Follow what your gut is telling you.
2007-07-31 18:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by who knows 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
idk.Too little info. in spite of the shown fact that, are you able to attempt observing it from distinctive angles: Why did your pal do such loopy issues so which you will hate her? as she is shifting away quickly? Why did she get indignant with you plenty merely on account which you give up going to the golf equipment together with her? Does she often a sort of a drama queen? Why do you think of you're greater ideal than her? (Sorry, yet i've got self belief that.) Being depressing does not make her a liar. A flirt does not ought to be conscious of female nicely to flirt. What if she informed the reality? What if she thinks your husband cheated and could cheat back and tried to guard you? something are like your husband and different posters reported: She might desire to be depressing, lonely, desperate that she is loosing you as a chum so she lied approximately your husband. Who do you have faith: your husband, your pal, your self or us????
2016-10-01 03:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA!
Perhaps it's time for you to reevaluate your definition of friendship.
Anyone whose slept with your husband -not just once but twice- is no friend to you.
If that's your friend, get some Kevlar & chain mail in the event of an enemy.
If you want your marriage to work, I would suggest some counseling - both together - and invdividually for you - so that you might bump that self-esteem up a notch and insist upon friends who actually behave as such.
2007-07-31 18:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mytmel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a f***ed up situation. You know he cheated already so u think y wouldn't it b true again 4 the third time. But then again ur friend could b the 1 after him and all she wants is 2 brake ya up. Damn i trully hope u make the right choice on who 2 believe cause i wouldnt know what 2 do either. All i can say is guys come n go n true friends will always b there. I trully dont think that u should consider her ur friend, if she really was ur friend n care 4 u she wouldnt have messed with ur man from the beginning ... good luck trully
2007-07-31 18:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband admitted to you that he has cheated in the past. Your friend on the other hand is not your friend, but your enemy. Just don't let her ruin your relationship with your husband, because she might just want to brake you guys up. She is a cheater as much as your husband. Don't let "trying to kiss her" loose your husband. Tell your friend to stay the hell out of your relationship. Good luck
2007-07-31 18:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a very difficult situation, I would not believe either one of them. They both lied and made a fool of you,(once), don't let it happen again, where were they that he could have "tried" to kiss her anyway? Your friend probably wants you to leave your husband, but oh well, if you do, they deserve each other, and you deserve a man who will respect you and be there for you. What they did was very cruel and disrespectful, like I said let them have each other that would be punishment enough!
2007-07-31 18:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by pattycake046 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to start over!
One problem you face is that he has already cheated on you with your friend twice, so a third time is possible. I would think that he has shown himself not to be faithful or committed to your relationship to do it twice. You can stay in your marriage and hope that he doesn't do it again, but you are going to be stuck with having to put your trust into him again, and in the mean time that will be challenging. You might find yourself questioning everything he says or does and I am sure you don't have time to worry if he is committed and trustworthy.
The second problem that you face, is that your husband went to your friend. That defaces your friendship. For your friend to know that you were married and he was your husband and to continue to "interact" with him. That is very wrong and disgusting qualities for a friend to have. You are going to have a hard time trying to trust her also. She has already had your husband twice - at least that you were told. She came to you and told you he came back for some more "buddy time". Is she trustworthy to know that she didn't deny him the kiss? They have already "interacted" together twice, what is a third time going to hurt?
You have to evaluate the situation and decide if you can trust either one of them regardless of what is going on now. It is going to be hard to decide who is telling the truth. Time tells all! You have to decide if you are going to wait for the truth to reveal itself and then what are the chances that there is going to be a 4th opportunity?
If you leave your husband and keep your friend you face the issue of whether or not she will be willing to have "interaction" with the next man that you meet. They are both guilty of the same crime. They are both going to have regain your trust. It is a matter of whether or not you are going to let them stay and try to put your trust into them again and hope this doesn't happen again.
My personal opinion, I couldn't sit and contiune to hold my breath.
It is your choice!
2007-07-31 19:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by busyliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do i believe my husband or my friend?
2014-12-16 00:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is what you need to do so listen well: You have your husband call her while your on the other line just out of the blue and have him confront your so called friend. make sure she does not know your listing. Put him on the spot like that if he says he does not want to do that then you will know that he is the liar. You have to know for the sake of your sanity and your family. when you have a he said she said you must be sneakier. Outsmart both of them. then you will know exactly what do do.
2007-07-31 19:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋