Recieving text messages from another woman on my husbands phone?

Question

My husband and I seperated a month ago. To take a break and see how things would end up. I text messaged him tonight to see how he was doing. Some woman started text messaging me back from his phone saying that that he is fine but he cant talk to me because they are eating. More and More text's came. What am I supposed to do about this? Why would he disrespect me like this? We talk nearly everyday. And then he pulls this!

Well either he plays a very good woman or it is one. I dont know. Im just really upset right now. I called him and he told me yes that he did have someone else and that was that. Hung up.

Answer 1

Ugh! I'm so sorry! Honestly, my first instinct would be to go to his house and just start pounding on him until the cops/ambulance showed up.

BUT, seeing that this isn't a movie and you have respect for yourself, you need to keep your composure.

Right now, you're going thru the first stage, which is shock. This week coming up, you need to get some good support near you and don't contact your husband AT ALL. No phone calls, NADA!

He has TOTALLY disrespected you, your marriage and your families. He does NOT deserve any attention, even the bad kind. He has moved on, but to a new low. He (like any 13 year old boy would) let a woman he is dating to text you, "Yeah, like me and you man here are like eating and like he'll like talk you later."

Who does that??! Not a MAN. A man knows how to treat a woman. This "boy" you are married to is still not ready to grow up. You, however, are grown. You know he has not only disrespected you, but has broken your vows.

Whatever you decide you need to do, please pray to God about it. Truthfully, in my darkest days, my prayers were always answered.

God bless

Answer 2

In marriages, you do not take a break to see how things will end up. You stand in there and give the marriage all that you have. What good is taking a break doing to the marriage? In your case, it has given your husband the opportunity to have his mistress in his life on a full time basis and if and when he's tired of her and wants to come home, the door will be open for him.

It's time to take off the blinders and put on your bifocals and concentrate totally on the situation at hand...

1. This is a hard blow to you but the best people have always found a reason to pick themselves back up and get past this situation to begin to get their lives where they want it to be.

2. If you need to cry, let it out. Get out all your anger and feel the pain that he has put your through.

3. Keep a journal so when you look back on this situation, you can see how much you've grown and how better off your life is without him.

Good luck

Answer 3

You definitely need to call him out on the situation .the whole text message thing sounds really childish point out to him that you feel disrespected he want you get the message that its over but he has to do it cowardly you know what a majority married couples usually don't separate to get back together that's just an easy way out to say let me get myself stable before the big divorce you do not have to be separated for any amount of time to figure out if you love each other and now somehow make things work just ask for a divorce and move on the fact is it was over long time ago that's why you to are separated move on and be happy don't let him string you along until he's finished shacking up wit her.

Answer 4

It's hard when you are a faithful woman and you have to go through with this. If you want to salvage the marriage, I say speak with him and ask him if he open to counseling. You love him very much and it sounds like you want answers. Try spicing up things in the bedroom. Based on what he said in the text, it doesn't not sound like he would leave you for this other woman. He has too much to lose. Definitely seek counseling. Remember you are beautiful and you deserve love and happiness. Take Care.

Answer 5

Ouch! I'm sure that did hurt...
I don't believe that a separation is a time to date. I think its to spend time away from one another, but no dating until after a divorce. Separation is still married, therefore dating would be cheating.
I wouldn't talk to him on a daily basis like you have been. If you are spending time apart, talking to him every day isn't really separating. Maybe if he doesn't talk to you for awhile...he'll miss you. Maybe he already does and he's just messing with you by doing these text messages.

Answer 6

YOU agreed to "take a break" which is totally ridiculous to begin with in a marriage. Children who are going together "take a break" to date other people. ADULTS who are married don't "take a break". "Taking a break" from marriage is immature, childish which only proves that neither one of you were old enough (think mentally NOT chronologicially) to get married to begin with. He hasn't "pulled" anything you didn't help set into place yourself. YOU have enabled him to disrespect his marriage vows by "taking a break". What your supposed to do? Grow up. Act like an ADULT and either end your marriage or get counsling and face it as two ADULTS would face it rather than playing house and "taking a break" when you get fed up with each other.

Answer 7

if you are seperated to see how things would end up, it's important for both of you to see. He may have had someone over and that's not easy to hear or accept so maybe you realize now that being seperated is not a good idea : )

Answer 8

He calls you almost everyday so why dont you ask him about it when you talked to him. Maybe he does not know that some woman is texting you using his phone. Maybe she is just making you jealous / angry so you will leave your husband for good.

Answer 9

What do you mean what are you suppose to do? You said when you called him he said he was seeing someone and hung up on you. What part of that click on the other end of the phone did you not understand?!

Answer 10

Well what all did the text messages say? and how do u know it wasn't a friend playing around?