Why do women become highly successful and then complain that they can't find a good man?

Question

I don't get why women ignore traditional roles, become highly powerful, independent, educated and finanically successful and then complain that they can't find a good man or a man "up to that standard" because men are intimidated by successful women...or they don't messure up to the same level of success.

Just because women have started outshining men that doesn't change the fact that most men want a women who is below them in one way or another. This is something that will never change... Men are not going to change what they like just because women no longer want to be in the roles men have always found attractive. Men are not intimidated by powerful or successful women.. just turned off and not interested. No decent man wants to be with an Alpha woman. Don't believe me? How many men are pounding down the door to date Oprah? Then ask who whats to date Eva Logoria.

You women know what your getting into every step of the way, so why act surprised when men look the other way?

Answer 1

"Actually, REAL men are turned on by successful, powerful, independent women."

LOL, like you would have any clue what being a 'real man' is. As a woman, it is impossible for you to know what being a 'real man' is. Therefore, you cannot judge when someone is a 'real man' is or not. What a glaring logical fallacy.

Sure, these women have a great resume to impress the corporate world, and perhaps herself, but honestly, what normal, hard-working, devoted man would want such a narrowly ambitious woman as a wife? Given this, it broaches the question of what type of mother she would actually be; one who challenges men on their traditional grounds and who despises her traditional role, while mimicking male accomplishments.

But anyway, for the record, men don't give a sh*t about a woman's career or financial status - women seem to delude themselves into thinking that men size women up on the same basis they size us men up on. By the time these "career women" become successful, educated and highly powerful, they're most likely in their 30's, w/ their looks fading and their biological clock ticking down. Why would a man want to start a family w/ a woman of that age? Men PREFER younger women; it's a biological trait (men are predisposed to healthy, fertile women; such women are indicative of producing healthy offspring. .Which is why, in a real-world application, you won't see many men starting a family w/ a woman in her 40s etc). Further, having children w/ women whose ovaries are running out at that age has an increased risk of birth defects - another reason why men avoid such women, or any woman, irrespective of her career status, for that matter.

Also combine this with the fact that 'career' women raise their standards too high - they, like most women, choose to 'marry-up' - thing is, given their degree of success, it will be much, much ,more difficult to find the "right" man that suits their criteria. On a side note, studies have shown that successful women who do actually 'marry-down' eventually become discontent w/ the marriage and thus they initiate the divorce - primary reason being that they prefer a man of higher status than them; they prefer him to be the breadwinner, seemingly.

Finally, men choose to avoid these career women, b/c they would much rather prefer a young woman to have their kids and take care of them; in other words, they want a wife who has TRADITIONAL VALUES - they don't want some career-driven women who would most likely stick their kids in a daycare centre having them raised by some strangers, and who also places her career above you. Understand this: YOUR CAREER IS IRRELEVANT. All these excuses these insecure women have are rubbish - men are 'intimidated' by 'strong, independant and successful' women etc. The real reason is b/c men are turned off by you, hence why they avoid you b*tches. End.

Answer 2

Because when women become successful, they see men as losers even if these women only makes 10k more. But men tend to keep the job longer than women, so it's all about women ego. I feel sorry for the women who wait long to find a good man. If other women are smart like me, they will marry who they love and build a life together.

Answer 3

I was thinking that one reason a successful woman would even *want* a man is because society says she's supposed to have one...

Then again, I think both sexes go into a relationship hoping that they are going to be cared for the way they were (or wanted to be) when they were growing up...fed, fussed over, praised, comforted, thought of, brought gifts on special occasions, spoken to affectionately, treated specially, hugged for no particular reason. This fantasy, abetted by all those courtship promises, appeals to anybody, most especially to people who are working their buns off in a hard-bitten world.

(Need I add that the woman usually ends up in the nurturing role, with only the occasional man reciprocating in kind? The whole marriage thing seems very off-balance to me; in the marriages I've known, neither partner seems to be enjoying it, and for the woman, especially, there's no percentage in it.)

Answer 4

Don't really care... if they can't find a good man thats not really MY problem is it?

Answer 5

A lot of women wait too long ...

Evolution has taught us to view younger women as more desirable.

Answer 6

Actually, REAL men are turned on by successful, powerful, independent women.

Answer 7

your argument is invalid . most successful women want successful men.

Answer 8

I agree. Many of these women that constantly broadcast that they are "strong" and "independent" and "proffessional" don't realize that their constant berating of this issue is a turn-off for men. Men are not intimidated by a proffesional woman. That notion is absurd. As long as she loves and cares for him, as he does her, and the sex is good, what she does for a living and how much she makes is irrelevant.

Seriously, when it comes to men that make more money and have a better education than their wives or girlfriend, you never hear about them constantly rubbing it in to their woman's face that he makes more money, he has a better education, and that she's "intimidated" and can't handle him because he's a "strong" man. LOL! Such a notion is absurd!

Answer 9

Man you are SO intimidated and sexually frustrated. Go suck a sausage, cos you obviously aren't getting any Lotus flower.

Answer 10

because all the good guys are taken while the successful chicks are busy and when they get to that stage it has passed them by.

Answer 11

I think women tend to respect men as possible mates who make significantly more money than they do which reduces the possible number of men they will take seriously as they become more successful. It won't be enough for the man to simply be responsible in the world....he has to be successful enough where from a financial standpoint the she could continue her present lifestyle even if she stopped working which becomes a very tall order to fill if you dealing with for instance a woman who is a very successful rainmaking attorney and the male is "just" a successful associate attorney. While things can be comfortable enough if the situations are reversed....I agree with the person who answered that women will just typically straight out see men as losers who less more money then they do even if she is very polite about it. Chemistry that leads to relationships and marriage need more than simple polite tolerance for being in the same space as someone that is seen as being of a lower social-economic status. Not saying all this is right...but it would just appear that this is just how it is. So perhaps men do not want to be put into situations where they will be disrespected right from the very beginning in dating relationship even if they are just fine with the woman making more money and fulfilling her full career potential. Some women can become even disdainful of dating men that make the same amount of money as if those men have totally lost their manhood from the standpoint of chemistry. It can work for a woman to make more money than the man in personal relationships but it takes a huge deep uncommon paradigm shift. If a woman keeps her standards reasonable and does not rub it in a man's face as if he is doing good to be breathing the same air then she should be able to also be successful both in finding/keeping a good man and having a good career.