i went thru the history on our computer and my husband has been getting on porn alot,should i have confronted him when i was so angry or should i have waited for a better time?he's making it look like i'm the bad guy and he's the onr that's on the f'n porn sites i feel very hurt and angry should i feel this way,is him looking at porn concidered cheating,should i end my marriage?please help if you ever been in this situation.married 13 years help!?thanks
2007-07-31 17:47:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would have.
Porn is very corrosive to a relationship, but it gives a great opportunity to reconnect and discover why he feels he needs the porn
2007-07-31 17:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not a crime and not cheating watching porn. A lot of men do it without their wifes knowing about it. You need to let him know in a calm manner, that you feel like it is cheating and that you are hurt by this. Let him explain the reasons he is doing it. Ask him, what is missing in your relationship. Ask him to please stop, if he loves you. Make a compromise and watch some movies together instead. It must hurt you, but in reality he is only looking at pictures and he is not touching any other women. It could be worse, he could be going to strip clubs and really having a good time.
2007-08-01 01:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Porn is DEFINITELY not a reason to end a marriage. A lot of women watch porn nowadays, even if they don't admit it. And sometimes it's not even with their husbands. Watching porn is like watching an R rated movie where the sex scenes actually show everything. It's fiction. I'd rather my husband watch a hot girl have sex than have sex with a hot girl. I know some women don't like it, but try to decide if it's worth giving up the man you love.
2007-08-01 02:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by katherineleigh4 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure why, but for some reason when husbands know they have been caught doing something wrong, they get mad at the wife.
Yes...you should have confronted him. To me looking at porn is the same as cheating. I know a lot of people disagree with that and say "its just a man thing", but I don't buy that. A husband should only be lusting after his wife!
2007-08-01 01:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
don't let it stick in your mind it doe-sent mean he don't love you.my husband looked at porn for a while and i explained to him how it made me feel and it took a while to kick the interest but he stopped.and i think it is considered cheating but not in the sense to end your marriage . if he hasn't physically cheated i would just put a stop to the porn ,every man needs to have some boundaries set.
2007-08-01 00:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some people considered it cheating but I don't. Neither one of you are a bad guy but you did a stupid thing on one hand. When we go looking for things we tend to find things that make us upset. If you never thought he was cheating on you before now why would you end a marriage? Talk to him and discuss why you are so upset and figure out if there is a compromise to be reached.
2007-08-01 00:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most guys look at porn cuz their ladies have let themselves go. the ladies have excuses, but in the meantime what are guys suppose to do? Lie to you and say your'e hot? Guys are wired visual beings. so whatever catches our attention, that's the object of our desire. So it is not cheating if he was alone by himself.
2007-08-01 01:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by Bone Daddy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's no harm in looking at porn and as the old saying goes........"Look But Don't Touch". If you are looking for some sweet revenge, start looking at some male models with great biceps on the net and when he complains or moans about it, that's when you have your say.
2007-08-01 00:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I do think it is very respectful and it does get on your nerves, maybe try explaining to him your reason for not liking it. I don't think this calls for divorce unless it goes along with other problems.
2007-08-01 01:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by dark star 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all and for the last time...PORN IS NOT CHEATING!!! Why were u snoopin? Do you not trust him. Who cares if he was lookin at a lil porn. Maybe you should start so you can loosin up!
2007-08-01 01:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋