This year has been the hardest year for my husband and I and many people are telling me that it is the 7yr itch but I don't really believe in that stuff. Besides what is the 7yr itch?
2007-07-31 17:40:33 · 7 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously you aren't talking about the movie "The Seven Year Itch" starring Marilyn Monroe and Tom Ewell. (It was good by the way)
I have heard it said that if a marriage survives the first seven years the sailing will be smoother. A little rocky, but smoother.
I have known a couple marriages that split up at the 7-year mark because of various reasons.
You know how the government is... they keep stats on everything. (Like, red cars get more tickets than any other color - go figure.)
It's good that you don't believe in it. That way you won't use that as an excuse should something happen.
Every marriage has their ups and downs. Hang in there. It only means that things will improve. Good luck.
2007-07-31 17:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by ahnikarose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The seven year itch refers to an inclination towards infidelity.
The Seven-Year Itch is that tendency, syndrome, or commonality where men begin to look at other women. See, the common belief is that a man will be faithful right after a marriage begins. He'll continue to be faithful even after the honeymoon is over. But at seven years, other women catch his fancy. In the 50's, when this expression was more common, we didn't quite understand "mid-life crisis." No one had crises- you just kept plugging along in whatever situation you found yourself.
Seven years into a marriage, men might begin to think, "Have I made a mistake? Well, it's not too late; I could bail now and still be young enough to start over."
Seven years into a marriage, you ask yourself, "Could I do better?"
You didn't say what sort of trouble you and your husband are having. Is he seeing other women? Are you floundering financially? Do you find sex a bit boring? Troubles come in many flavors and sizes. The seven-year itch refers pretty much to him being unfaithful. I hope that's not it, but in any case, if it bothers you, you might want to see a counselor, a marriage or couples counselor.
2007-08-01 00:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the story goes the "seventh" year of a marriage is when most couples find themselves in a rut and have kind of tired of each other... most likely you become so comfortable with your spouse that you begin to take them for granted. The old wives tale is that men become susceptible to cheating during this phase... people have told me that if you make it past the 7th year itch phase you will cruise through the next 10 years of marriage... of course there was the Marilyn Monroe movie that helped to stereotype the term. The itch has to do with a man's desire to "scratch" feelings that he may have suppressed because of the joy of marriage... that is my 2.5 cents anyway.
2007-08-01 02:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An excuse by men who get caught cheating in the 7th year of marriage.
2007-08-01 00:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the excuse spouses use if they happen to get caught cheating in the 7th year of marriage. Its only good for that one year. All the other years have to have the "devil made me do it" excuse.
2007-08-01 00:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by jaydubb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the guys here keep saying its all the guys who cheat but my husbands ex-wife was the one who did all the cheating he was always faith full until the end (the divorce) so it can be guys or girls cheating or just having problems
2007-08-01 19:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably correlates to how many couples had kids soon after marriage(9 months I guess) and that child turns sixish around the 7th year. 6 year olds are tough to deal with, which in turn strains a marriage.
In your case, I would say it is just a coincidence. Work it out, if you can!
2007-08-01 00:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋