what do you do when you dont want to sleep in same bed as you hubby?

Question

since he cheated i dont want him to touch me are sleep in the same bed. i forgave hin yet i cant let him touch me

it been since dec and we talked about it alot. but i cant over. he was overseas meet her om the internet had her come down when he got back. on the days for me and are kids. but he told me got no time but was with her. i want to make it work but i still truly feel he wants her not me.

Answer 1

well first things first... NEVER under NO circumstances forgive someone for cheating on you! That shows that your weak... Be stronger and dont let people walk all over you. Secondly, you might have said that you've forgiven him, but your sub-conscious and heart will never truly forgive him, thats why you dont want him to touch you. You've got yourself inbetween a rock and a hard place now, because u not letting him sleep in the same bed as you will make him want to go out and get it from someone else...knowing that he can, coz you will just forgive him. You have to end it...theres someone out there who will treat you right. Remember, you only live once :) Take care, and be strong.

Answer 2

Don't confuse the word forgiveness with the word acceptance. Especially in marriage. In marriage, the word forgiveness means you forget about what happened and start anew. Sounds like all you have done is accepted the fact that he cheated but are not willing to move away from it.
If you think you are going to feel this way forever, then why waste your life, or his. Divorce.

Answer 3

If you can't sleep in the same bed, you haven't forgiven him.

Get into marriage counseling - you two have a long road ahead of you before things can truly be normal again, if they ever can. Until then, sleep somewhere else.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say this but it will take time to deal with the betrayer
and that the problem if you truly have forgive him then time
to be honest with your self why you still feel as you do, may
you both need to talk to someone if you truly want to save
the marriage.

Answer 5

You obviously dont forgive him because with forgiveness comes trust, you are having these negative thought because you do not trust him and I believe still feel yuck because you know he has been with another naked body. I say once a cheater, always a cheater. I think he has to respect that you are not ready to be lovey dovey all over again and that he has to earn your trust before he gets to share your bed.

Answer 6

Move out, file for divorce. Get your own place and your own bed, because you haven't forgiven him, if you won't let him touch you.

If you ever do forgive him, better make him get VD tests, before you let him touch you, he may give you a deadly disease if you don't.

Answer 7

That was normal but as time goes by if you still can't forget what he did then the forgiveness you gave him is meaningless.
Go and get a divorce instead.

Answer 8

that is completely understandable...it think u should take all the time u need and when ur ready for him to touch u again then u'll let him. maybe u should let him knw, how u feel... good luck =]

Answer 9

dear frnd,as ur thinking is right but how long u do like this,so 4r give him give him 1 chance nd make nd see him if he change mind its ok,or u punish him again it repate the same.try 2 control nd under stand.ok..u can do it try 2.take care....

Answer 10

I hope everything is ok.. You two need to talk about his cheating more and then some more, until you have all yourquestions about it answered sufficiently.