My wife thinks you are all evil people & doesn't want me to listen to or ask you questions?

Question

She also doesn't want me to ride my motorcycle, spend time with my daughter, even accused me of having sex with my daughter thats 22, doesn't want me to go anywhere except church with her, doesn't want me to smoke pot even though I rarely do, doesn't want me to have any friends, I feel l am in prison at home she sneaks up on me all the time to see what I'm doing. I don't like this.

Answer 1

Can I ask? Are you allowed to breathe? We all do things our partners don't like....how boring would things be if we didn't piss eachother off! My opinion she needs to get "busy" finding things in her life so she can stop focusing on your life. She has too much time on her hands.


AND, the nerve to accuse you of doing whatever with your daughter. Case & Point! She needs to find some hobbies of her own!

Answer 2

Is there a question in there somewhere? You do know that simply adding a question mark to the end of a sentence does not really make it a question, right?

If you are asking what you should do, the answer is obvious.

Sit her down and have a reasonable conversation with her.

I say reasonable, because most people I know are incapable of Reason unless it is forced on them. Let's look at your complaints.

She thinks people on Yahoo! answers are evil and she doesn’t want you to ask or answer questions. WHY? Do you quote the answers you are given at every turn? (Be honest.) If so, then maybe you need to cut back a bit. If not, then she is being unreasonable.

She doesn't want you to ride your motorcycle. Why? Because she is afraid for your wellbeing? Then assure her you will be careful and be considerate when you ride. (meaning don’t ride every day, fine a middle ground) if the reason is because she thinks motorcycle are evil and bikers are hellions, then she needs help.

As for your daughter, why does she think you are having sex with her. If you are, you need help...and jail time. If it's because you have made jokes with friends that sound like you want to have sex with her, then maybe you need some help any way. IF it's just because she is over sensitive and paranoid. Then she needs help...FAST!

IF she only wants you to go to church with her and that’s it, then she is a church nut and she needs help. Then again, I think all Christians need psychological help, but be that as it may, you need to stop this NOW!

Smoking pot is BAD! It is 2.5 to 5 times more deadly then cigarettes (according to a European study released this week) Pot is a mind altering drug, it can cause brain damage over time, and it is illegal. This is NOT an unreasonable request on her part. She is asking you to STOP breaking the law and to stop killing yourself. If I were you, I would think about this one.

Why doesn’t she want you to have friends? Are your friends criminals? Are these new friends that you have made since you were married or have these been your friend even bore you were married. If these are old friends, then she knew about them when she married you and she has absolutely no right to complain now. If they are new friends, then you need to find out what the problem is. If it is something you can work out, such as assure her that they are NOT a bad influence or that they are ok then great. If not, find out why and work from there.

The bottom line is this. You need to tell her that the two of you need to come to some sort of equitable understanding about these issues. That means that you will BOTH need to give a little.

If either of you are unable or unwilling to do this, meaning that if she will not back don on some issues (and stop bitching about them after words) and if you are unwilling to make some concessions, and live up to your word, then just go get a lawyer and get a divorce. It's that easy!

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Well, first of all, all of us people are here, are normal people, just like yourselves....i think she is saying that because you may be spending more time on here than with her, the motorcycle thing sounds like she is scared you'll get hurt on it, the daughter thing, that is just so wrong, maybe you spent more time with your daughter than with your wife, so she got upset and said that out of anger, the only going to church with her thing must mean yet again that she feels your not spending enough time with her and maybe if you go to church you'll learn something, the pot thing i can understand, maybe she thinks since your not with her as much as she wants you must be smoking something, she may not want you having friends because they will take up more time that you already don't spend with her, i know you feel like your in prison but there must be a reason behind the way she is acting, this is just my opinion but i feel the main reason behind all this is she is feeling neglected, that's what it all links to, you must not be spending as much time with her as she'd like, so have a talk with her and i bet, if you start doing more things with her and making her feel more important again you'll get a little more freedom.........by the way, i'm a wife so i know how she is feeling and i hope this helps........God bless

Answer 4

It looks to me like she is either VERY insecure or very untrusting of you and wants to change you. Has she once been more like you but has now changed and become a different person? If so, you need to take her back to the good old days when you first met and get her to remember what and why she fell in love with you in the first place. IF you cant bring back those good times together then its time to seek counseling or seek a separation. You need to grow together and not apart. Try to involve her in things YOU are doing and regain her trust and respect. if she feels she has outgrown the relationship and you are too immature for her, then its time to pack up the pot and the bike and ride off to find someone who suits your style more.

Answer 5

She's working the cruel game of isolating you.
Insecure as she is, her objective is to cut off all
out side relationships and emotional support you might have, including your bike. That's the first phase of the plan
Once that is achieved. the second phase will be to
bellittle you and critizice everything you do. It will be constant
until you start believing it. With no support from anyone,
you will be her's, totally and at her mercy!!!
Do Not let this happen to you!!!
You are right, you're not supposed to like it. No one does!!!
Consider weighing your options.
If you trully love her and haven't yet lost your love for your-
self and self respect, you need to vigorously resist her
demands. This is not a healthy relationship due to her
unreasonable demands. I assure you, this is not going
to end well.
I implore you to take good care of yourself.

Answer 6

Are you sure you are married? Cause it sounds like you live with your mom. What's the deal? Are you whipped or what? If you are a grown man, then why don't stand up for yourself and ride that motorcycle, get friends.. whatever. If you don't like it, then you can always get a divorce and leave. Ever heard of "free will"?

Answer 7

i dont know how long you have been married, but do you want to spend the rest of your life like this? if you're old enough to have a 22 year old daughter, then you've figured out by now that life is getting shorter by the moment,,,take it from there

btw,,,do i LOOK evil?

Answer 8

Your wife has control issues that are in despertae needs of adressing. Listening to her every request will reduce you to less of a man statis. Your choice. Listen to her as her pet would or be a man and stand up for yourself. If it takes leaving because she is unwilling to except you for the person that you are, then leave.

Answer 9

divorce her , your a grown man with no freedom!!! who wants to live their life like that think of your daughter who cant spend time with her father. My dad is dead im 18 and hes been gone since i was 16 spend time with your daughter now cuz you never know what life has coming in store.

Answer 10

Counseling