Have you ever told yourself "I AM BETTER OFF ALONE!"?

Question

and what changed your mind?

Answer 1

Enki, nothing in life is cast in simple black and white. Yes, it is good that we would make the occasional visits to our own caves of solitude; just to spend some time in self-reflection or looking to understand ourselves better or even to recuperate from a certain pain. Yet, there are also times when we need to resurface from those depths, to heal, to swim and play with the swarm, to travel together to a certain destination, and to help each other along the way.

I don’t think I could go through this life with any sort of meaning without those who exist alongside me. That is the beauty of human relationship; it doesn’t matter what they represent in my life – friends, family or lovers alike. I can never be who I am without them, even those with whom I’ve had an unfavorable history. And that’s what life is all about. Relationships. No matter with what or with whom.

I appreciate and sometimes nurse myself in solitude. But then I allow others the opportunity to appreciate the person I have become after I emerge from it….

Answer 2

Yes, i did when my boyfriend of 5 yrs cheated on me with a supposed friend. we were dating exclusively and had been with each other for a long time, everything seemed to be going great until I found him and my friend (turned out not a friend at all) in bed together. Their excuse was that I worked too much, funny thing was I was helping both of them financially. Needless to say I got rid of them both. I thought to myself that I was better off alone after that but changed my mind when I had a party at my house and all my real friends was telling me how wonderful I was and how deserving I was to have somebody better. It really hit home when my best friend made a video asking all my friends to tell why they loved me so much, they all really had nice things to say about me and each had a different story to tell and what made me special. I never knew how much I meant to them until that moment. I thought to myself if they think I great and these are really smart people then maybe I am a good person and maybe I do deserve somebody special. After that, about a year later i met the guy I'm with now. I 've been with him for 12yrs and still going strong. =)))))))))))).

Answer 3

Yes. And what changed my mind. Well first of all 4 days alone for me drives me crazy and I begin to climb the walls.

Second, as far as my family is concerned, I can leave them alone if they want to be left alone for a time, however, then I need to be near them. Very family orientated and find it easy to accept my family members for who they are, making life a bit more comfortable understanding each of us has a quality uniquely our, which benefits each other in some way.

As far as being without people and being a hermit. Never, I love my fellow man, I love watching and learning from him. I have never met one person in my life that did not give me a gift from that encounter, be it a badly needed lesson of life's cruelty or a loving gift of some sort, that I could carry in my heart to pass along to others.

So...I may take a sabbatical once in awhile, to refresh and gather my thoughts, but I will always return to living, moving breathing people.

Answer 4

Yes. Parting from a lady I adored but couldn't live with. Realizing I was on the way to becoming addicted to isolation etc, changed my mind. Then, with a wife who was mad. Being determined not to leave my children changed my mind. At sea with idiots for crew. Nothing changed my mind. I just found a couple of friends who were absolute gems. And the First Mate, the lady I've lived joyfully with for more than 20 years. What luck!

Answer 5

I'd like to put it this way: Once upon a time, I needed to be away from people in order to come to terms with certain things that isolation in nothing but nature provided. It wasn't like, "I'm better off alone!" It was just that I knew I really needed it at that time. I needed the serenity to reach inside myself, to get to "know me" in greater depth. I "came back" when I knew I'd accomplished what I was seeking. (It wasn't a change of mind.) I still cherish alone moments, but I love people far too much to consider being alone on any long term basis.

Answer 6

Yes, there has been times in my life for one reason or another that I thought that I would be better off alone, but realized down deep that I and we has humans are really not meant to be alone. But I do live by these words Enki, "I would rather be alone for the right reasons, than to be with someone for the wrong ones."

Answer 7

There were more times were I was better off alone, to learn about myself, and develop into who God has created me to be now.
The last time I said it, that was a few months ago, and what changed my mind was finding the love of my life. Now my fiancee. It changed my life, my mind, my reason for being. I am so blessed to be alive.
Blessings and love,
BESS

Answer 8

HAHAHA I always say that Enki Binki better to be alone then in bad company............but that said I love people and life and learning from all the great people around me..............

What will change my mind to be with someone say a relationship haha I will know and feel it ............because that person and I will fall into place.........haha I am sending out the good positive vibrations and it is working already and I am already attracting many different forces and entities............its awesome.............................Happy day my buddie I have to bring my IPOD back my computer is so ancient its not compatible with the song downloads hahaha

Answer 9

nah not really. Being alone is kinda scary. I'm never better off alone. I'm only like being alone sometimes when I need too like rest no nose and stuff, nothing really changed my mind because I know that the world doesn't revolve around me and only myself. People think like that sometimes they never need help because they think they are better or depress you know what i mean.

Answer 10

Sometimes when there are a lot of problems with my kids Life's, is when I tell myself, I am better off alone. then reality sets in and I know that my Family is the World to me, and I guess without them there is no use in Living. i might have problems that I cannot handle sometimes, but the Good Lord is always there for us, we just need to ask for his help and some of the problems disappear.