does having a baby really make relationships stronger?

Answer 1

In my opinion, having a baby either brings a couple closer toogether or drives them further apart. It is a wonderful experience, but can be very stressful. If the relationship is strong beforehand, then most of the time having a baby strengthens it even more.

Answer 2

Babies aren't band aids. They can't fix a bad relationship. A child is a serious strain on a couple, and often times it can cause a break up, and then the child has to either be passed off from one parent to the other, or will never get to see one of it's parents and that's not fair.

I have a friend who was a 'save the marriage baby'. It didn't work, and now she thinks she was a failure from birth.

There are some cases in which having a child made the relationship stronger, but in order for that to happen, both parents have to be very patient, and love children a whole lot, because sometimes, the sweet little smiles and giggles don't mean much when the baby wont stop crying in the middle of the night.

Answer 3

Most of the time, absolutely not. Having a baby is by far one of the most stressful things you can go through. The only thing more stressful is the death of a spouse or child. If you have a strong relationship then you are more likely to be able to survive the birth of a baby with an intact relationship and then,a s the baby grows, you may be able to feel closer as you become all parts of each others' lives. That takes a huge committment, a lot of work, and being able to go through a lot of stress together. Having a baby does not make anyone stronger. Time and committment and trust make relationships stronger.

Answer 4

Actually, having a baby puts a lot of stress on even the healthiest of relationships. Having a baby is not all moonlight and roses - it's hard work. The sleep-deprivation alone is enough to break your relationship when you find yourselves arguing about who is more tired when your baby is screaming at 3am. My husband and I have been together for 5 years. Our baby was planned and we have the strongest relationship ever. But still, in the early months of parenthood there were times I wanted to run for the hills! We fought a lot. Our marriage was on the rocks for a while. But we got through it and everything is great now. Our son is a year old. Don't believe anyone who tells you having a baby to make your relationship stronger is a good idea. Get married first and be together and enjoy each other for another few years before thinking about babies.

Answer 5

I don't know if I would say that exactly. If you have a strong relationship to begin with then maybe. Having a baby changes everything, but there is a lot of stress to overcome before you see the "stronger" part of it. Your hormones are wild, you're tired most of the time. It's really exhausting at first so if your relationship is on the rocks it can tip it either way. You have to think about it realistically, not in fantasy.

Answer 6

If you relationship is strong, it will only make is stronger. If your relationship is already on the rocks, it will only make it worse. Having a baby is such a beautiful and wonderful thing but it IS a ton of work and can add a lot of strain on a couple if things aren't already going well. That is what I have found to be true for most people I know.

Answer 7

if its not already strong i wouldnt advise having a baby. I know plenty of people who think that a baby will make everything better and thats not the case. If u have a strong relationship its just what u need because there are times when having a baby aren't easy. A baby will make the two of u glow and just add to your realationship but dont rely on it to make it stronger.

Answer 8

Actually it can go either way . You can have a really good relationship and the baby comes along and things get bad or you can have a bad relationship the baby could make it better. Amajority of the time if your relationship is good then things will be good, but if it is already bad a baby won't make things better and can just put more financial burden on a couple.

Answer 9

It depends on the relationship before you have a child. If you have a good strong relationship then I think it makes it stronger. If not it could even make it worse. Don't get me wrong though with a strong relationship and does still have ups and downs. Good luck!

Answer 10

It can go either way. Sometimes it makes the relationship stronger, sometimes breaks a relationship, and sometimes the relation does not get better of worse. It all depends the two in the relationship.