My boyfriend says, "I don't have the money to support myself how can I support you? If I did have it it wouldn't give it to you." I say, "that's what makes me upset, it's the thought that counts. It's the fact that you don't want to." I'm clearly not in this for the money, been together 11 months. please help...what's wrong with me or IS IT HIM?
2007-07-31 17:03:48 · 24 answers · asked by Torn 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I would leave him in a minute. That isn't a man I would want to spend the rest of my life with, and have children. You deserve better, and so do your future children!! You can do better Sweetie!!!!!
2007-07-31 17:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by Greer 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I dont believe that we get our values from the bible or God as a human race. Many cultures on this planet have very similar values when it comes to family. As far as expecting your boyfriend to take care of you. I think that you may be a tad bit irrational, this is the 21st century after all and for better or worse women are in the workplace just like men are nowdays. If you expect him to take care of you financially are you going to make sure that he has dinner on the table when he gets home? Are you going to be subservient to him? Because these are the things that women did in the day and age of the man being the only provider. Im not saying that i think women should be subservient you understand, just that the world has changed our society has changed.
To mel above... wouldnt she be using HIM if he was supporting her?
2007-07-31 17:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow girl that exactly why I'm not with a girlfriend, it's because I would be really really shamed if I couldn't pay something to my girlfriend. It's difficult because you don't know if he or she is with you because of the money when you have some. I think you shouldn’t give up on him if he is trying very hard to do something about that. So the question is how much do you consider that he is doing something about it? And don’t you think that if he is doing not much but the pleasure is worth you should keep the relationship; otherwise someone can get hurt after you get tired of him.
2007-07-31 17:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by Rinaldi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the problem is with you. Irregardless of whether you are dating or married or other, you are being selfish, and instead of talking to him, you are bitching into cyberspace. Yes, a boyfriend has certain *limited* obligations, such as paying at least for a meal or for a movie once in a while, and, on special occasions, a gift. What you are complaining about is that your boyfriend is not fulfilling the role of the husband, which he is not. If you are living together, you should split the expenses. if you are still under your parents house, you should rely, only when necessary, on your parents. Your social beliefs aside, if you expect more from him than this, you are endangering your relationship. If he is making money, yet spending it on pot / video games, you should trade up. Look at his expendatures, and you'll see where his priorities lie.
2007-07-31 17:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by pobept 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to be able to provide for yourself so you don't have to depend on a man for support. Then you need to find a man who loves you enough to marry you and give you what you need and share whatever he has with you. This guy is a loser, and you shouldn't waste any more time with him.
2007-07-31 17:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No a man should not want to or half to provide for a girlfriend and in my opinion a wife. You need to work and pay your own bills. If you do get marrried work untill you have kids and see if you can afford you staying home if you stay home that means no day care and you take care of the kids and the home not make him bring home take out. That is still helping to support the house. He needs to cover his bills
2007-07-31 17:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are very, very wrong...You don't have 2 arms and 2 legs, a brain and some skill?
Look for a job, maybe he can need your support don't you think?
You are very wrong, even in marriage both has to do their best and go on, what if some of you get sick or else?, you are very bad educated, sorry for telling you...
2007-08-01 14:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by Revolution 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are living together, it is HIM but it is YOUR fault, a man needs to support his wife, you are giving him all of the benefits of a wife and have elected on your own to do so. Your boyfriend is now using you, if says that he can't afford to support you, how can you ever expect him to marry you. You need to take a step back and realize that something smells like a rat!!
My advice, dump his @ss and don't make the same mistake again
2007-07-31 17:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by justgetitright 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Why don't you get a decent job so you can provide for yourself and help support him if he doesn't earn enough? This is the 21st century, and women are now expected to meet or exceed the same earning expectations as men.
2007-08-01 17:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, you could dump the dude, get a job, and start posting these kinds of questions over in the romper room section of Yahoo Answers - not Politics and Government.
2007-07-31 17:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
why would yo stay with some one that talks to you like that, and its only been 11 months wait till 5 years comes good luck
2007-07-31 17:09:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋