I'm 7 mos preggo. My bf and I were together for 2 years. We had our issues but I really loved him and we talked about having a baby for a while. Then i got pregnant and everything seemed ok. I know he was a little overwhelmed and he had just opened a restaurant with his family. He decided that he didn't want to have the baby b/c he was too busy. He's 32, I'm 34. I'm a very responsible person and I would have never let this happen had i known he was gong to abandon me. This happened 3 weeks ago and he also sent me a horrible e-mail saying he had another gf. I don't know what to believe anymore. He's immature and selfish and I can't believe he would do this. I haven't talked to him but I need to. He said his piece and I feel like I should say mine. I still love him and miss him and yes, I know I made a mistake in trusting him. But I really believed in him and that he would do the right thing. Man was I stupid. I'm mad at myself, even though I'm happy about the preggo. What do i do now?
2007-07-31 17:00:47 · 7 answers · asked by pussnboots333 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe I'm naive. i just can't believe someone who wanted a baby so badly would back out like this.
2007-07-31 17:01:52 · update #1
You said it! "He's immature and selfish" You know? he is never going to change, I live with an immature and selfish man, trust me, you are better alone, teach you baby the importance of being a responsable person, this is your job in this earth, also mine.
2007-07-31 17:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men find that "Wanting " and Having are two different words. You can have the baby and he will be forced to be a daddy. But for some men, that is all they are. Daddy's. NOT FATHERS.
I will pray for you and your baby. I hope only the best for you. How do you feel about the baby yourself. It is your decision in the end anyway. There are many wonderful single parents. You say that you are a very responsible person and I believe you will make the right decision. Some men get cold feet right before the baby is born. Wait it out, I say.
Good Luck
2007-08-01 00:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Aggie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one of the reason's sex is only for married people. People who are committed to each other. Looks like you and the child will be paying for your fornication. You should make sure the birth certificate has his name as the father. Have DNA testing to prove he is the father, then take him to court and get child support. After all he is responsible financially even if he wants nothing to do with the child. I would stick it too him, for all the support you can get out of him. Of course file for full legal custody of the child right away. I would consult a lawyer and find out your rights before the child is even born. He should have to pay for anything to do with the child. Other than the financial, looks like you are on your own to raise the child and that will be no easy task. It is hard enough when you have two willing parents. It is very expensive too, so don't be the martyr who says, I won't ask anything from him. BS, get all you can, for the child's sake. Hope the best for you, be brave, it won't be easy. Don't lay down and let him walk on you any more. Go for all you can get.
2007-08-01 00:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's just scared right now, he talked about having a baby before but it wasn't really reality....now that it's really happening he is scared and confused, i bet over time he'll be back, alot of men go through this stage when first finding out there gonna be a father, they are in shock, but over time, he's gonna realize how much he loves you and as you show more and more he's gonna realize how real this is and that the baby is his and i bet he'll be begging for you to take him back, i'm sure of it, give it some time, in the meantime try talking to him and explaining you know he is scared and all but no matter what he is gonna be the father so he might as well step up.....i know things will go well for you girl, just hang in there.
2007-08-01 00:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this sad story. It's terrible to hear a person in his 30s does immature things like this. People should be grown up at that age adn now I have doubt if I ever going to meet some mature in the future. Well, let him pay child support for 18 years.
2007-08-01 00:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of, forgive yourself - RIGHT NOW. Second, forgive him. I know that sounds crazy and you feel hurt; however, it won't help you to be angry at either yourself or him. He has his own journey to go on and find out how his actions affect other people. As for you, you've got a baby on the way and you have a wonderful life ahead of you. From this point onward, make your intuition and your inner voice your guiding light. Trust yourself to make the right decisions, look at the positive side of life and you will conquer fear.
2007-08-01 00:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by whatif 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow!! He has proved to be less than a man...You can force him to be with you or be a good father..all you can do is ask for child support. Learn from this and next time don't get pregnant before marriage..have you child with pride..
2007-08-01 00:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Na 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋