Is it because I'm a black guy with glasses that don't dress like a hip hop guy? I mostly wear
t-shirts and slacks. They pass right by me like im a ghost.
2007-07-31 16:34:28 · 32 answers · asked by Lonewolf 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
BTW Im 28 years old, and im not looking to date or anything. This is just something I've notice over the years.
Sometimes I think I should start dressing like Tom Baker, Just to see what happens.
2007-07-31 16:57:28 · update #1
At this time, Black women are attracted to the rough gangsta Hip-Hop guys. Once they start entering there late 20s and so on, They will want a stable,intelligent and kind guy to spend there lives with. But as of right now, they all about having fun with those dangerous Hip-Pop men that don't want nothing out of life.
2007-08-01 13:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dot 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im the same boat (minus the glasses)..But the difference is I get alot of looks from women but for some reason only the white ones approach me, black ones NEVER say anything..Id perfer if black ones spoke up sometimes cause Id rather have a black women.
If they just past you it may be your looks or confidence, because I dont dress hip-hop either.
2007-07-31 16:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please don't classify all woman into one group (aside from skin color, since you seem to want those within your own culture)- you will do yourself a disservice and frustrate yourself more.
Yea- woman have the same tendencies around the world- but you have to ask yourself what kind of woman you want.
If you want the booty-clapper in the videos, then YEA it's going to take the hip-hop guy.
Not all woman want the flash and bang. Believe it or not- they do like the secure guy. Everyone is guilty when they are fresh to the dating scene to THINK they want the flash and bang- but they will soon find out how empty it is (most will)
Yes- some woman want the guy with the money- BUT there are LOTS out there who will take the Faithful hardworking guy with PROMISE.
Have you thought your "Tshirt and slacks look" might look tired? like you don't' care? like you have no drive? no goal?
what woman would not take a 10 foot detour around someone who screams lazy LOOOSER. An out of work guy who sleeps on the couch and plays video games while SHE is out working?
That is what she is trying to avoid. Make sure you don't look like THAT guy. and you may do better.
2007-07-31 16:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Funny the same thing happens to me with black guys; I wear glasses and not that fashionable and I'm skinny; they pass right by me like I'm a ghost
Why black guys why?
2007-07-31 17:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cuz I dont have a preference for them. They never talk to me like a lady, their either always saying AYE SHAWTY.....or saying HELLL NAWW. Its like omgossh......those stupid long shirts the dumb old hat and only get their knowledge from videos. Since the videos say omgosh I want a REDBONE they are only gonna look at REDBONES, if the video says look at a girls a$$ their gonna do that too. So im like why even bother with them.....
Ok im not saying I dont like black guys its just that most of the ones I encounter are rude to me and don't talk to me like a lady. Ive met some high class black men and their cool.
2007-07-31 16:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't pay any mind to to those girls, they just judge a guy with whatever he looks like on the outside. You seem like such a nice guy, dont ever change yourself to appeal to someone else because when you have to do that to make someone else happy then you know that that person isnt for you. So keep being who you are, lots of women like a guy who actually dresses nicely instead all sloppy with the pants sagging down to their feet. :)
2007-07-31 16:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Buттerfℓyεїз 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well.. honestly they probably think you are nerdy, you sound like a description of my husband. I was out with some girlfriends when we met, and we all thought that he was cute... but they kept saying he looks like a lame, like he wasn't tough, and at first being stupid, I was listening to them.... but we kept running into each other and I wised up... some of the girls who were saying saying he was lame and boring have pathetic men, and my husband is now a chemist... so I won hahaha , you will meet the right woman when the time is right
2007-07-31 16:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by micheleh29 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its because so many people nowadays are super judgemental. for no apparent reason, seriously! I meanm so what if you wear slacks and not jeans 10 sizes to big that fit around ure knees, if that. Just be confident, and forget the stupid girls that don't look at you becasue they have issues. the right one will come along!
2007-07-31 16:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You sound crazy,why would care for someone who doesn't want you? There has to be plenty of girls who would want a guy like you. maybe the girls you speak of, don't want to be bothered w/ you because you have no confidence. Why else would you come to Y!A to the culture and society section to ask for help in love matters--this is also the wrong section. No one here can help you, you've got to help yourself, go find girls who like what you do and stop worrying about people who pay you no mind you don't need to bothered w/ them.
2007-07-31 16:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♥S0uNd 0f InSaN!Ty ♥ SS 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im sure ur handsome. I dont like guys who dress baggy all the time. A guy who dresses in neat polos and khakis can look very nice.
2007-07-31 16:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋