I am a writer and photographer for a biweekly magazine, and it's true that i work with a tight schedule and gets very busy during the deadline week. But every now and then my friend would laugh at me, saying i live my life the wrong way, that i shouldn't live it around deadlines and that i am stupid for putting up with this job for so long.
Does he actually have a point or he's just being rude?
p.s : he graduated early this year from college, but until this moment he still freeloads with his parents and wouldn't get a job because 'he doesn't feel like it yet' and 'still want to take things easy in life'.
2007-07-31 16:24:53 · 13 answers · asked by dizzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Criticism can be good, but you also have to think about where it's coming from. Someone laughing at your job when they don't even have one is just silly. Tell him to suck it and grow up.
2007-07-31 16:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by pisceschica3589 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are times when we should shoot the messenger because they're being annoying. This might be one of those cases. :) However, there is a deeper issue that you should probably look at, which is how you choose to spend your time.
The job that you describe is typically handled by folks who really have a passion for what they do. A lot of people love the deadline driven fast paced nature of getting articles out under deadline. But as you get older (or even now) you might appreciate the fact that you are expending a great deal of energy on a job.
When folks are on their deathbed, most people don't say, "gee, I wish I had worked more hours at my 80 hour a week job." So if what you're doing is something that you enjoy, and it makes you feel alive, and gives you purpose then go ahead and keep doing what you are doing! But if it's making you unhappy, for whatever reason, you might want to consider taking a step back and reevaluating what you might want to be doing for a living.
It's clearly not about money because there are a lot of jobs to be had that pay better than writer/photog work. But if you want more money and possibly for less effort, there are plenty of other careers to choose from. Your friend wants to live life a lot more carefree and that's his right. He shouldn't ridicule you for what you are doing, but at the same time, to him, the fact that you work so hard for relatively little in the way of reward is probably silly to him. There are people on this planet who only work 3-4 hours a week who make more money in a week than either of us might in a month or even a year. These people have mastered the art of money management (and possibly been helped by an inheritance or something), and are living life as something to be enjoyed, where work is not a necessity. Now the guy who is just a massive freeloader probably won't get to a life like that, but he aspires to having an easy time of it. My guess is that you'll probably be more equipped to that easy life style in 10 years than he is, but I digress...
If you enjoy what you're doing then keep doing it, but look towards the future and recognize that the world isn't just about working a 9 to 5. Take a walk along the beach. Or hike through some beautiful mountains. Check out what the desert looks at in the night. Look at the night sky. Fall in love. Be happy. None of these things require that you work your *** off at a job with little reward. Don't get old and look back and ask yourself why didn't I look at other things besides a job?
2007-07-31 16:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by vincentp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're doing is great. I'm sure it's very challenging & interesting work. I'm sure it keeps you quite busy. But, good for you. You never know where you might end up. Keep up the good work. Many jobs have deadlines, he doesn't know because he hasn' been out in the working field. I think it might be a thing of jealously to be honest. He sure isn't going to get anywhere "taking things easy". He's going to have to face reality & should be doing it now! But, good for you & I wish you the best!
2007-07-31 16:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not a friend. He is a scared man who is scared of facing the real world and therefore hides with mom and dad. Let them take care of him. You on the other hand are a grown woman who should take pride the work she does. Not only are you good under pressure but from the sounds of it like the work you are doing. He is just jealous that you are becoming accomplished in what you like and he is a no-one with a degree which only decorates his wall if he is lucky.
Personally, I do complain about my stressful job and the long hours that I sometimes have to put in but honestly, I love what I do.
Good Luck....
2007-07-31 16:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of it when your friend is laughing at you once when you get a good job and I think this is a good for you when having and find a job as writer and photographer because some ladies like you they willing to work hardly because they want to earned and save to money and even to giving a financial support for their respective families and they want to send a school for their siblings and that's why they want to helped their families than other that they not things they needed.I think you should ignore to your friend about your work and this not for him and this is your life and this is a good decisions to life and someday your friend that he realized the you are working hardly than to him or having and finding their jobs is very important than they wasting of their time.
2007-07-31 16:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Clarisse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you'renot throwing your life away in any means. You're working hard to get somewhere. Too many people nowadays tend to think that good money and jobs land in their laps. Well, if Mommy or Daddy aren't helping, it most likely won't.
Keep up the hard work. You'll go far. Especially with both interrests combined, you're a good double threat
2007-07-31 16:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And why is this person called your "friend"? You have nothing in common. There is no one way to live your life.
Each finds out what works for them. You love your job, not because of the hectic pace around the dead line but because it allows you to be creative and express yourself in your writing and photographs.
Leave him to mooch off his parents. There is something wrong with parents that allow this... and he is a victim of their lifestyle.
2007-07-31 16:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm your so called friend seems jealous and ummmm hello he still live off mummy and daddy so who is he to tell you where and how to live your life he sound s like a loser and NO he has NO POINT at all!....oh by the way sweety the only thing your being "stupid " about is...still having him as a friend and letting him feel your head with crap!...... ignore him and hang oput with othe rfriends that support you and arent LOSERS!.
2007-07-31 16:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dizzy, it sounds like you on your way to being a responsible adult who wants to be independent, a self-starter and a leader of your own life.
This person who laughs at you is probably jealous of your job and your lifestyle. In my opinion, you shouldn't pay any attention to his laughs. As of now, you are somebody and he still a child under the dependency of his parents.
2007-07-31 16:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Rod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, he's just being rude. he's prolly just jelouse, too.
if he were a good friend and he really thought ur job was bad for u, then he would talk to u seriously about u
goo luck!
2007-07-31 16:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by Bella Latina, 22 summers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋