my question is, i was brought up in a time where people got married and had familys. why are people not doing that anymore, is it cause of no role models, lack of disipline, or lack of moral rights? just curious about what people think.
2007-07-31 15:28:13 · 8 answers · asked by Linda B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you have addressed most of it. People want everything to be easy and not to work at things. Marriage is an effort and quality people do stay married because they work at it. A disagreement or difference in opinion is not a reason to get divorced. Nor is realizing that the other person is not perfect.
There aren't many statistics about marriages that is favorable anymore, either, so younger couples are thinking that it is not a good idea.
What will happen to our society if people continue to remain single? We have more singles today than married people! If you are a parent or care about children, it says to your child that the chance of them staying single is very high. That sucks! Many single people are very lonely and depressed. Life wasn't meant to be lived by yourself. Don't get me wrong, there are many single, happy people out there, but, generally, people laugh and smile more when they are around at least one other person - ya know?
Do you think we are going to be a stable country when those statistics increase? There is a need for relationship development in this country - people actually on a campaign to support marriage and stability, trust and committment. I am not on a soap box, just hoping that our future becomes brighter.
2007-07-31 16:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by LaraLara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many different reasons:
1. People don't have to marry and/or have children to be happy any more.
2. For many women, marriage was also about financial security. With women being better educated and working, they don't have to marry to be financially secure.
3. Maybe it was their role models that make some decide against marriage. If you saw a parent being abused, or if your parents always argued, then maybe that was enough for you to consider not getting married.
4. Discipline? I don't get it.
5. Moral rights? What are those? Just because you choose not to marry doesn't make you immoral. In fact, I think people who chose to marry for reasons other than love and mutual respect are immoral. If you make expections for cultural reasons...well, that's your option.
6. Some people, like my husband and I, choose to marry and not have children.
Also, consider that marriage and children aren't for everyone. It doesn't mean that people who choose differently are lacking role models, discipline or morals.
Well, that's what I think.
2007-07-31 22:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Times have changed. The thing is, kids are getting pregnant. Some make the mistake of getting married because of this but a lot don't. The thing isn't about people getting married or not anymore, it is about them having kids to young. if it was still a stigmatism on their name to have children out of wedlock, there would be many more marraiges so that people could have kids. but with sex everywhere in our society kids are expected to lose their virginity at a young age, which then leads to kids, and really what's the point of getting married if you already have kids?
2007-07-31 22:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by aliciamichelle06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because times has changed and people is not at patient as they use too. I was also brought up the same way as you but the man that I married had force me to file for divorce because of all the screwed up things, he has done to me. I am not going to stay with a person because it is the right thing to do, I need my sanity..
2007-07-31 22:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of morals and a change is social structure. Women have to work just as men as men do so I think having a career and being independent is the bigger focus.
2007-07-31 22:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because marriage is a myth. People automatically think that the only thing that can make you happy is a ozzie and harriett lifesytle and even though the package is pretty on the outside...it could be down right ugly on the inside.
Society is blind to what goes on...on the inside.
2007-07-31 23:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of the above people have become lazy and not want to work for what is real imported in life and yes you hear all the time in Hollywood oh she dumped him then 1 day later he done married someone and then got divorce 2 week later it's sad but true
2007-07-31 22:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by jessi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Times change so do people.Its to ad that people think about work,money,Most of them had forgot about culture
2007-07-31 22:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by june 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋