My wife and i are seperated. We live in tow different houses, and i have custody of my four children. My Ex-wife is living with her boyfriend. One day after the kids vist with their mother, my oldest daughter said something happened. She said her moms boyfriend showed her something and asked her to bite it and her mom was their and all she said was oh stop it and walked outside with the guy. She never called the cops or anything. So the kids went to a counsler and talked to DFS workers and they all think something happened. Then the police detective thinks so to. So they say they will do something about it. The kids mother said she has nothing to do with the guy anymore and that she didn't know anything about it. She wants the kids to start comeing back over again. Well i found out that the guy is still liveing with her. She never made him leave or anything. But nobody wants to beleive me..Im affraid their mother is going to get them hurt. What can i do to make the state listen?
2007-07-31 15:24:04 · 7 answers · asked by chriswh90 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Get proof he is living there and report it to the courts. When she goes to try to get more visitations show the old reports when the man was reported before and show your proof he lives there.
To get proof, you can go over there with someone and see him there and you have a witness, or I would think even wait around and take a photo of him going in and out. Or you could hire a PI.
You can't just make the accusation. You need to have proof to back it up.
Good luck.
2007-07-31 15:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Willalee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! If you've talked to DFS workers, they should also have a report from the police detective that something is going on. I know it must be upsetting to you, but please see this through. If you can get your child to talk about it to you , then do so. Also, you may want to take her to a professional and maybe they can get her to talk about it. It sounds as though something is going on. While this man is in the house, don't let your children go there until this matter is solved. If your ex-wife wants to see them, then let her come to your house to visit. Let her know that you Do Not approve of what is going on and check with the police to see if he has a record of molestation or of some other type of abuse. I pray this helps you and that you & your kids will be ok. Keep in contact.
2007-07-31 16:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by Duchess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have sole custody or is it shared?
If you have sole custody, ( even shared) you can approach the judge who signed the custody papers, and maybe the attorney. ( If you had one)
Tell them what is going on, and have the proof of EVERYTHING you say.
I can assure you, in this day and age, the Judge WILL do something about it.
Until then, keep the children from being put into ANY harmful environment.
If you get lucky, your ex will complain to the courts that you are not following Court orders.
Do not let this worry you.
When they contact you to see what is wrong, they initiate the process, and it should not cost you a dime.
Good luck, and keep the children from harm.
2007-07-31 15:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need, of course, to go to family court and either have her visitations withdrawn or at least restricted to supervised visits. But you need some proof that the boyfriend is still around or still in your ex-wife's life. The only thought that comes to my mind would be to mail an empty envelope addressed to the guy at your ex-wife's address and sent with a return receipt. His signature on the return receipt would prove that he is still there. Even if your ex-wife were to accept it and sign for him, that would prove that she still anticipates seeing him...or has just committed a federal mail crime.
A private eye could probably determine for you, but that's expensive. Why spend that money if a $1.35 (or whatever) piece of mail would accomplish the same thing.
Hope someone can give you some good advice. Good luck.
2007-07-31 15:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Tom K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as they all seem to think something took place how about going to the courts and request that ALL visits are supervised at a safe place with an independent viewer as a witness............also maybe have some one other than you take pictures of him entering and leaving her residence.
Maybe DFS operate different but once you child is on the "at risk" list in the UK they can and do come around at any time and will act upon info given to them [especially as your was spot on last time] WHO is not believing you that he is still at the home.
am grateful that the kids have at least one "sane" parent and that YOU have them...........
what state are you in ???
2007-07-31 15:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
visit the internet internet site of your college or extreme college library, and get into the indexes and databases. seek "newborn and sexual and abuse" in a proper database and you gets a ton of study. I particularly have a textbook called "kinfolk Violence around the Lifespan" (Barnett, Miller-Perrin & Perrin) that has a good 40+ pages on newborn sexual abuse. you could desire to probable discover something comparable in a campus e book shop to in undemanding terms breeze with the aid of, or at a library. good luck!
2016-10-13 07:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do WHATEVER you can to keep those children AWAY from that mother and that pedophile boyfriend
let me tell you something that man WILL do something to your beautiful children and it will be all your fault if you let them get sent over there
stay strong and protect your beautiful kids from this nasty pervert and get him behind bars!
2007-07-31 15:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♥INTENSENESS♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋