ok i havent seen or heard from my ex boyfriend in 2 months...last night i went to some lounge by me with my friend and i saw my ex kissing some girl...im not going to lie, even though i moved on, it did bother me a bit...after he hooked up with her he was by the bar by himself so i went up to him and said hi and we started talking...after that i saw some guy who i knew and we started dancing and flirting with each other...i saw my ex staring at us that he even came up to me while i was talking to the other guy...after that i walked out with my friend and that guy and his friend and i kno my ex saw it bc he tried getting my attention by grabbing my waste...then he calls me and leaves a message on my voicemail saying "i want you" but ur with another guy" i mean seriously, whats his problem??? its ok for him to hook up with other girls but not ok for me to flirt or dance with other guys? i mean what was that all about?? what do u guys think?
2007-07-31 15:15:54 · 8 answers · asked by kat5634foru 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think an ex is an ex for a reason and niether of you should forget that.
Its normal for people to be possessive and jealous. We often think that the world revolves around us and are a bit upset when we see an ex moved on. Its like " HEY! Why aren't you at home, pining for me and alone for the rest of your life?".
Besides, something often becomes more attractive if we can't have it. Forbidden fruit and all.
You both reacted because you saw each other out enjoying life, its no reason to resume a failed relationship.
2007-07-31 15:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol.. ya'll both played the ulitmate game.. although it doesnt seem like his was intentional since he just happened to already be there with someone when u showed up.. u saw him with someone else, and got jealous.. "territorial".. so then u decided to do it urself.. u flirted urself with another man to get back at him.. and it did, u made him see what he's missing and what he gave up, and that other men do take an interest in u.. u BOTH played the game, and now u have him thinking and wanting u back.. so to say "What was that all about" .. ummmmmmmm u did it urself so answer ur own question cause ur just as, if not more so guilty of playing the "jealousy" game.. and it worked , so its ur choice, do u want him back or no, if u dont, tell him right away, and dont string him along.. if u are still interested, then i suggest u take things slow, and try to figure out what went wrong the first time to fix it before getting to serious with each other.. if u just dive right back in , then whatever the problems where that caused the break up will just happen again..
And if u just hop back in the sack with him, then he could just use u as a "booty" call.. so if ur going to do this u need to take it slow and make sure that he's actually realize what he had..
2007-07-31 22:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's always that way. They can do what they want but they don't like seeing that the other person moved on. I think that they would like to know that your over there missing them and dwelling on the break up that you don't move on because your still hooked on them and then when they see that your not it pisses them off. Just remember he's the ex for a reason and keep remembering why he is the ex and that should help keep you from going back.
2007-07-31 22:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by babieshay27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me he is just playing the jealous card to see if you will try to take him back. I say throw the card back and just keep moving forward with the guy you met at the lounge or anyone else that catches your eye. The ex sounds like a real jerk and you deserve better than that.
2007-07-31 23:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't waist your time with that loser it happens they have something good then they treat it like crap and when someone else show that person some interest then that is when come back leave it alone he is no good
2007-07-31 22:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by jessi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your calling it right...its a double standard...he can do it but he doesn't want you to....and he calling was just to reassure himself that he can have his cake and eat it too....it probably bothered him more than it bothered you to see him with another person.
2007-07-31 22:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt really want to be one on one with you .he just doesnt want anybody else to touch you or be with you.its his ego and wanting something he doesnt have.let him go and have fun with your new guy friends.
2007-07-31 22:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him behind.
2007-07-31 22:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋