How do you help your wife feel loved, needed, wanted and secure? No games just real life an swers!?

Answer 1

Beofre he died, my husband used to leave me little notes just saying he loved me. Sticky notes in the car or in the freezer and sometimes written with a dry erase marker on the bathroom mirror. A hug or kiss or just a light touch without anything attatched is the kind of thing every woman wants.

Answer 2

From the nature of your question I'm assuming that your a hard working man, trying your best to make a life for you & your wife, maybe even a child or two. Much of the time, inwardly, at the subconsciece level, were not that thrilled with the work situation that were in at the moment, however, you cant make a living without it! Our minds get caught up in the every day drudgery of everyday living & we have a tendance to forget the simpler things in life that matter the most. Like a loving wife at home at doesn't understand the complexities that her mans going through right now because he doesn't either, so you can't talk about it at all!!! Reality can suck some times, but we make the best of every day that we can. No one promised that life was going to be fun all the time. If your going to be able to keep your wife interested & active with you then your going to have to learn to focus your attention on her, instead of mopping aroung about every day living! You've got to fighjt for your right to have a great time with the woman you love! You've got to make it happen! Look to the little things! She's no bodies dumby either, & she probable feels the same way thqt you do. Jus work it out together!! You'll be fine!!! Remember, its the little things that count the most!!!

Answer 3

Its always the little things that matter. Not all women like to be bought nice things all the time. What some of us like is to snuggle up on the couch every now and then and watch a good movie. We love it when were cooking dinner and our husband comes in and kisses us on the back of the neck and says "I Love You", or "your beautiful". the small kisses and pats on the rear in passing, or winking across the room, lets us know that we mean something. Offering to help with dinner dishes (even though you worked hard all day, she prob. wont accept, but still offer) Try to coax her to bed early one night and cuddle and tell her how much she means to you and how much you love her, make it special ( from the heart, not store bought) Have you heard the song by Jeff Bates- Long Slow Kisses? If not, Google it and read the lyrics. I hope I could help.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Little things mean a lot and work better than an occasional big gesture.

Kiss her in affection in the morning before you leave, at home in the evening and when she is doing the dishes.

Hold her hand for no reason.

Tell her often that you like the light in her hair, the way she smiles, her sense of humor or whatever it is about her that you are into.

Take her out for simple walks and have conversations about whatever, just that kind of time together means a lot.

Show sincere interest in her interests and tell her about what you are into.

Do NOT forget to share your feelings with her...hopes, dreams and fears.

Do NOT lie to her, cheat on her or give her any reason to distrust that your feelings are genuine.

Answer 5

Tell her that no matter what, you have her back and nothing will come between you. Then show her by saying you love her and spending quality time with her - no interruptions, even if the kids, mom, etc. call of knock on the door. I don't care if you have no money nor home, just that you will always be there for her. We NEED to feel secure and marriages suffer because individuals don't say and show how much they care.

Answer 6

Show interest in things she likes, make sure to spend time with just her and that means paying attention to her completely, small surprises, like flowers for no reason, help her out around the house, kiss her, without needing anything more, lol. Cuddle with her on the couch, tell her you love her, everyday. Tell her she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Listen to her, pay attention, so that when you get a gift it is exactly what she wanted even if it is small and inexpensive. Remember important things, like anniversaries and birthdays. always get a card and always write more inside than Love, me. :-) Hope that helps!!

Answer 7

Honestly, I think the easiest way is to really get to know her: get to know what she likes, what she doesn't like, and then do something based on that. What are her hobbies? For example, say she likes to paint. If you went out and bought her painting supplies and gave her compliments, you are making her feel loved and appreciated. Or perhaps *You* do a task around the house that is usually hers. For example, she does most of the cooking. One night, you tell her you have a surprise for her and tell her not to cook dinner. Maybe make her think you are taking her out somewhere special. But instead, you cook up something nice (that requires a little work) ... you know, make it romantic again-put out the candles, buy her a rose (or better yet,a dozen) and make the day about her.
If you do things like this once a week, you will make her feel very loved. If you show her that you appreciate who she is, she will feel wanted. If you show her that you will stand up for her in times of crisis, then she will feel secure.

Answer 8

Thank her for doing something for you...or when she makes a particularly good dinner, make sure you tell her. Help her vacuum or with the dishes. Make sure every day you leave for work you give her a kiss and tell her you love her. Write her little love notes....they don't have to be sappy, just a little note saying have a great day, I'll miss you.....etc .It's the little thoughtful things that mean more than expensive gifts.

Answer 9

You answered your own question really. Don't play any games on her head. Tell the truth, be accountable for your doings and where abouts. Take her out. Ask her where she would like to go and what she would like to do. Talk to her and listen to her. Help her with the house work and if you have children, help her with that too. Take time for yourself, don't get too caught up in her. You both also need your own space.

Answer 10

well to be honest you start by showing it to her and what i mean by this maybe open doors or getting her coffee ready in the morning or holding the door for her giving her a kiss on the cheek or a hug for no reason holding hands complementing her on how she looks and what nice perfume she is wearing buy her a single rose every once in awhile or a nice card or if she a favorite movie she likes to watch if she is at work have a nice dinner and her movie on " on pause" of course and sit with her and watch it with her ,bath her with nothing in return in lest it happens theses are the things that i love when it happens to me i am very spoil and i return spoil him