The first time u moved out of you're parents house, how did u do it?????

Question

Im planning to move out and with my sister but not sure cuz she's so inresponsible. And truly can't trust her and by myself im nervouse. Shoot i can do it, but im only 18 i won't get pay to afford an apartment by myself. I don't have to move out but is that my mom is moving really far and i want to finish school in my neighborhood. Just give me some confidence cuz im the first one to do it by myself.

Answer 1

I was 20 and saved about 3 thousand. I put that down on a mobile home and mom co signed for me. that's about all it took. I left home BECAUSE of my sister.

Answer 2

Well, this is good. And what your mum is saying about leaving her baby girl behind (your sister) in the care of an 18 year old (you)? You are damn right. Your sister is irresponsible. And trust me, you are too!!!!! You are right to be worried. Both of you are in the age of imagining that you can solve everything, and everything you do is right. You have no idea how many things could get wrong because at your age now, you are about to take up far much more responsibilities than you should. This solution should come from your mother. She is the mother of yours. If she chooses to move far away, she must think about a good solution for all of you, as you are not adults yet. No matter how mature you think you are or how mature she thinks you are, that's her responsability. She should ensure that if she needs to leave her 2 babies behind, at least you have some sort of adult supervision. I would seriously sit down and talk to your mother. Leaving you behind because maybe she trusts you, maybe you are tougher and you can survivie it's a risky deicision by itself, but whatever, if that's the decision. You are in your own. But putting your sister's concern on your neck as well, boy, that's very immature from her! What if she gets sick and dies on you? Or she gets into the wrong crowd and she gets beaten up or pregnant? Or she will do something stupid in school. Are you willing to take that one up as a full responsability on your shoulders? Moving out from your parent's house it's not just sharing an apartment and the bills. Other stuff is needs to be taken into account like: responsability, moral and physical support and protection.

Answer 3

Minnie I was 16 when I first moved into an apartment with my best friend who was 18 at the time. Well we thought we were mature enough to make it on our own, we still both returned to our parents/grandparents many nights a week for meals and/or care packages. The apartment soon turned into a large party house and before you knew it the police became regular people knocking on our doors. Sure it was a fun but it didn't last long and then we were both back home for another short while. Best of luck in your move and please do not follow my poor example of living independently.

Answer 4

Minnie, you're taking on such a huge responsibility by taking the step to move out. It was easy for me to move out because I simply got married. I had finished school, college, and had the job I wanted. You, on the other hand, have a completely different situation ahead of you.

By choosing not to move with your mother, you are loosing a tremendous amount of security that you would have if you moved with her. You don't mention having a job, but I would assume that it's something part time seeing as you're still in school. Depending on your sister's financial situation, that may make moving in with her a bit hard on her.

The biggest point that sticks out is the fact that you feel as though you can't trust your sister. Why on earth would you want to move in with someone you don't trust as is irresponsible?

There are a lot of questions you need to ask yourself. If your sister's irresponsibility caused her rent payment to be late, would you be able to make a monthly payment? Would the stress of being "on your own" affect your performance in school.

I understand your wanting to finish your senior year with your friends, especially if these are people that you've grown up with, but is all that worth the possible tough times facing you if you chose not to move with your mother?

Regardless of what you decide to do, I wish you all the very best!

Answer 5

The first time I moved out it was to the university dorms. I was about 17. After that, I returned for 2 or 3 years, then I moved out again, and haven't returned since then. I do miss them, specially because once you move out, life is not the same. Once out, you'll have worries, and things that you can not avoid ignoring.

Answer 6

IF you want it bad enough you'll do it. I did. I was 13, and I never went back home. I lied about my age, got a job, stayed in school and even put myself through college. All depends on how bad you want something! Oh yeah, and put a roof over my head without even a roommate! You go!

Answer 7

Too soon to move out.... you'll only be back. And the last thing you want to do is move in with your sister.....

Personally I moved away when I joined the service. I never moved back home... Thank goodness.

Answer 8

I was 16 when I moved out. I got an older friend to co-sign with me and rented an apt. It was the BEST move I ever made!

Answer 9

I cant compare myself in moving out because i ran away at 15. but i cantell you this

My sister asked me to move in with her a few months agon . she begged me and begged me to movein with her because her ex was threatening to kill her.

So i decided ok ill help out my little sister who i had a decent relationship with. It was the wort decision of my life. it wasnt the little sister i knew. she was a total ***** and acted like she owned the apt i paid for. she did a lot more but i wont get into that

anyway after 3 months i left and havent spoken to her since. so my advice is to think about it because living under your parents roof with you sister is one thing but sharing an apt is another. and i could ruin your relationship ith your sister

Answer 10

Get a job so you can pay rent. If you can't afford your own place and don't want to live with your irresponsible sister, go to craigslist or roommates.com and find someone to share a place with. Or rent a room in someone's house.