the man that i am with has a long history of cheating, basically all his adult life and unfortunaly that didnt stop when he was with me, he says his life was all messed up anyway and just a lie and he couldnt love me the right way because of that. but it all stopped when i was getting ready to leave him. now he loves me completely, with everything and as right. he says that he could never be unfaithful again, now that he knows what real love can be like. i have many doubts. can anyone help me understand? or maybe relate??
2007-07-31 14:41:31 · 11 answers · asked by not this way 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not going to happen.
He's already proven to you that he's a cheater that can't change.
You have to ask yourself: am I ready to be cheated on. Sure relationships are supposed to be built on trust, but be honest with yourself--how many times do you think he's given that line to some girlfriend?
You deserve more.
2007-07-31 14:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you did by getting ready to leave, was turn the tables on him. Instead of you being the insecure one, he became the insecure one. He is not a good candidate for a husband. You want a man who has no problem being committed in the first place. You are inviting heart ache to accept a man who has a history of cheating. He can and will be unfaithful again. If you and he really want to know what love is, read 1st Cor Chpt 13 in the Holy Bible, get a New Living Translation which is written in plain modern English.
2007-07-31 14:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i don't really know how to start to tell you ,but i will ' its very hard when your the one dealing with the problem and don't know what to think, its a hard life to live and very depressing ,
go with your feelings ,he will promise you the world ,and before you know it he will be doing the same thing over and over again, he will not change over night. there will always be lie after lies and this will eventually drive you crazy.
i am serous this is not only a problem in your relationship this will also affect your life ,please think, is he really worth it????? no one really knows how it feels until it happens to them, look you really need to think what you need to do , you not in a healthy relationship, I am hoping that you do the right thing.
Good Luck
LEENA
2007-07-31 16:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by leena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe a word the guy says, I've got a used car I want you to buy. He is a cheat, and and liar, and a manipulator. But I think you aleady know that, and you're hoping that someone will give you a fresh perspective so that you can fool yourself into thinking it isn't so.
Don't look at me for a fresh perspective.
2007-07-31 14:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry but I think he is lying to himself....with such a history and having already cheated on you...he is likely to cheat and continue to lie about it...some just become better cheaters ...some go as far as beleiving the lies they tell their significant others but still continue with their cheating ways.
2007-07-31 14:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a guy so not sure you wanna hear this... but i think he may have more than on other f that he is seeing. sorry but most men have the attention span of a brick. his record of cheating before should have drew all the red flags... be careful and keep your heart safe.....
2007-07-31 14:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be one terrific lady , or doing something right, I think? Or maybe he reach some milestone in his life?
2007-07-31 14:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More of the same lies, piled up higher.
Don't be fooled--it's what ALL the cheaters (and ABUSERS!!) say when their women are leaving.
Close your ears & keep walking.
2007-07-31 15:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes I can relate......each time was the last time and he swore on his mother's grave etc......I ran out of patience and he ran out of grave to sware on.
2007-07-31 14:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will you be able to trus him but if you dont you are not going to be happy and he will beacuse he will have you
2007-07-31 15:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by june 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋