2007-07-31 14:17:51 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well thats sounds like the begining of a wonderful relationship
I would advise you have lots of kids and fast too
2007-07-31 14:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
MEN OR WOMEN should not be hit on each person is just that a person an individual with feelings. When he hits you than he is taking all of that away from yuo there are also the psycological ways of abuse as well. Leave while you can for one hit may turn out to be to many. Even if he had a bad day at work or was mad whatever the reason he had right or wrong does not give him the right to hit you. As a firefighter I have seen countless times where I the spouse ended up in the hospital or worse becasue she thought it was her fault or he would change. Guess what they very seldom do. Pray to God that does not happen to you and I wish you the best
2007-07-31 14:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by brian C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That you should end it with him now, that he will always hit you, and it will get worse. No one has the right to hit you like this. No matter what he says, it is his responsibility to control his temper and not lash out, no matter what you say to him. Chances are you will never say the right thing, because he is a bully and a coward and will verbally back you into a corner or even physically and then hit you. Who does he think he is? No matter how sorry he is, and how many promises he makes that it won't ever happen again, even if he means it at the time, it will happen again, and again, and again. Maybe not for a long while, but it will happen, and bit by bit, it will happen more regularly, until the abuse is daily, be it verbally, emotionally or physically, to the point that you are scared to talk to anyone in case he kicks off, scared to go anywhere, scared to say anything when he's in "that" mood, just plain scared, scared, scared. Whatever your background or life history, whether you have been cherished and respected or put-down and beaten all your life, the cycle of abuse that you are entering is harder to get out of the longer you leave it. He is breaking the law by hitting you, and breaking your trust, if you stay, he may break bones, or even your spirit, possibly your will to live. If he says he loves you, and you want to believe him, fair enough, but ask yourself this, if you loved someone, would you want to hit them? If the answer is no, then why settle for less yourself. Sure he loves you, when the hate fills his eyes, sure he loves you when he's yelling at you, sure he loves you when he pushes you around, grabs your hair, forces you to have sex, punches you in the face. Oh? He's not that bad? He will be. He loves you on his terms, leave, learn about yourself, and find someone who loves you on your terms, and who gives you what you need, not only what you want. If you do stay, and he does it again, call the police, but please, do not stay with this man, it really will get so much worse, Why would he stop hitting you, if you let him? The only way to stop him, is to end it with him, there is no comeback from this, really. I am sorry you are going through this, I know you want to believe in him, and love him, and maybe even heal him, but you cannot fix this man, not only is it not your responsibility, it has to come from inside him, and he dosn't have enough back bone for that. Good luck, and God bless.
2007-07-31 14:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Tefi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, are you ok? Ive been waiting 4 this.
Ive been there, so im not gonna tell you to leave or call the cops. Do you love him and what was the circumstances? There is no justifying him hitting you, its wrong, but is it something that yall can work through? I would love to explain my situation and see if I can help any. Maybe a day or so apart to chill out will help. Email me if youd like to talk.
2007-07-31 16:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Amy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been in this situation I can empathise. I decided to stay as it was very unlike my partner and I had been pushing him to his limit. He was also deeply ashamed afterwards and we have both learned a lot from the experience. However, if you think or suspect that this isn't a one off then you seriously need to think about moving on. Its entirely up to you - its easy for people to tell you to leave but only you know exactly what happened and only you can make that judgement. Go with your gut feeling.
2007-08-04 12:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think,kick him straight back in the nuts and see how he likes it.If he doesn't get the message shop him.If you really want to fit him up,cry rape.I have no respect for women beaters no matter what the provocation.A man and i mean man not a coward should never hit a woman.
2007-07-31 14:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think,"This guy is a jerk. He's abusive. I'm not putting up with it. I have my whole life ahead of me. I'm not wasting one more minute on a man who hits me. I'm breaking up with him right now".
You should know; There are options for abused women. Call a support group and get some counseling, right now!
You should feel; proud of yourself for leaving a men who hits you.
2007-08-01 05:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to a friends house and stay (if you live with him) or just refuse to see him if you still live at home or on your own. STOP and think now, would you want to raise children with this man? Do you want the rest of your life filled with the fear that maybe you, the cook at a restaurant, a stranger who smiles at you or even your children may set him off and he'll explode? Please believe me, life is a gift. Get help and get away while no one else is involved.
2007-07-31 14:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you should be thinking is leave. What you should know is this is not appropriate behavior and will continue. You should feel hurt and urgent to walk away from this relationship. There is help for people in abusive relationships. One last thing, don't think for a second you can change him or he can change. If he changes he'll do it on his own.
2007-07-31 14:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether you have wronged your boyfriend or not, he should not raise his hand on you.
If this is the first time he has done this to you, you must let him know how you feel and that you must set an ultimatum on yourself that if he ever hit you again, you will leave him. And you must keep your promise to yourself. Because if you don't, he will just do it again and again and again.
2007-07-31 14:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by cris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I answered this question in your other posting of basically the same question.
You should think that (even if he loves you) it is WRONG for him to hit you, and you should know that it will escalate into something far worse, possibly even your death. And you should know that you need to leave him, because no matter what you do you do NOT deserve to be hit.
Now go read my other answer in your other question.
2007-07-31 14:36:58 · answer #11 · answered by Lady Raven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋