2007-07-31 14:02:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when you absolutely dont love that person anymore, not even alittle..the lack of love for them turns into resentment, when u can ask urself can i see him in love and happy with another woman, can i live with the fact that if u have children together, that he will eventually remarry and my children will have another woman in their lives that will do "motherly" things with them.. when u can say that you can live with all of that, with out any sadness, or spite and really mean it.. then ur marriage isnt worth saving..
2007-07-31 14:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is the love you felt in the beginning still there? If so, then there is a fighting chance. However, here is some things you can look at:
Write out a list. Does the good qualities outweigh the bad? Has he tried at all to get counseling/talk the situation out? (because you obviously sound miserable and need to talk to someone) Can you barely find the strength to get out of bed and go through your daily routine? Do you cry a lot? What about friends/family? What is their take on the relationship? If all these fall under negative criteria, and you're really questioning if you should give it a go; then perhaps it's time to honestly end it. =P
2007-07-31 14:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by unique2477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask...I would have to say that you are obviously still in love with this person and you or both of you just got lost somewhere down the line. You seem like you want an answer that will make it all better and you really won't find one here but as long as there is no abuse or weird things going on, I think you still have a pretty good chance at making this work. Rediscover the things about this person that made you happy.
2007-07-31 14:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by ang1492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is artwork and struggling with is an illustration of a healthful marriage. After some years tough spots start to emerge and it particularly is a superb ingredient. You adult men ought to start up engaged on smoothing those spots. in case you basically began struggling with, then artwork on those subject concerns and notice in some weeks in case you may actual attain an contract. intercourse and money (procuring = spending) are the 1st issues that arise. Later you will hit some thing else. the key is is to artwork issues out particularly than sweeping them under the rug. in case you do no longer, the subject concerns will deliver jointly and one persons (or the two certainly one of you) will start up punishing one yet another for no longer getting your way - it particularly is the line to nowhere. it particularly is variety of a snowball. struggling with isn't a difficulty in itself if carried out in a healthful way. no longer resolving subject for an prolonged time is yet another tale. tough spots will continually be there - you will ought to artwork them out no count who you're married to, even the main sort and comfortable souls have them.
2016-11-10 20:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you don't have to ask this question !!!
When it's done and over with and there's nothing else you can do, you will know and you won't even have to ask yourself.
If you're still asking yourself this then you're not ready because you will always wonder if there was something else you could have done to save the marriage.
So you try everything and anything that you can think of to save it and when you're done and there's nothing left of you to give, then you will walk away knowing that was it.
If you have to 2nd guess yourself, then it's not time yet ;)
2007-07-31 14:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I went to a professional counselor and he told me "end it..." then I knew it wasn't worth saving. It's about what you have in common for life and love and happiness. You have to be fulfilled in so many areas or you'll be miserable. You have to make the choice to open the door and get out knowing you might fall or be lost but you'll heal. Do your best to save what you have if you can but make sure if you choose to end it, you do it for the right reasons and you'll know what they are. Good luck..
2007-07-31 14:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by david c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My answer is that you had better read Save My Marriage Today( http://save-the-marriage.info ) written by Amy Waterman first.After reading that you can decide whether your marriage is worth saving or not,
2007-08-02 03:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know most people say that when you fall in love with someone you have butterflies in your stomach and you are anxious to see them or talk to them but there is no reason those feelings should have to end if you are not sexually attracted to him, you don't look forward at all to seeing him, you see yourself not missing him when he's not around and you have to ask this question then you are probably not in love with him any more and don't continue with the relationship if you aren't happy. There are to many men out there for you to be living unhappily ever after .......go out and find those butterflies with somebody else!
2007-07-31 14:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by im whats up! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a marriage should try to be resolved, but if one person isn't wanting to resolve or it even try to work it out, then it is over. If both of you aren't happy, you have tried everything to work it out, and couldn't then it should end. So sorry if that is where your relationship is at. I hope that everything works out as it should. Good Luck
2007-07-31 14:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by Jilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start asking people you've never met before if your marriage is worth saving.
2007-07-31 14:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by helpful one 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋