I don't know what's wrong with me? PLEASE help!!?

Question

I am 13 years old, and going to high school next year as a freshman. My life is going good...but this summer, especially these few weeks, are going relatively bad. I can't fall asleep at night because my mind is always racing with thoughts and I can't seem to clear it and relax and fall asleep. Every day, I have to cry about something, whether it's because my haircut looks horrible, or because I feel as though I'm wasting my time doing nothing. I know I'm supposed to relax this summer, but I can't! I feel as though every day is going by wasted, and I also feel stressed about everything, including my haircut and how I'm starting a new school this fall. What should I do? I feel like my whole life is just falling apart!

Plus, I'm being much more emotional and sensitive towards my mother and everything else.

Answer 1

Oh, sweetie...welcome to the teens. I have two teenage daughters and both went through the very same emotional issues around 12 and 13. They would cry at the drop of a hat. Sleeping was extremely difficult. I talked to their doctor about this and he assured me there was nothing to worry about. Girls begin maturing and things change inside our bodies. Hormones begin raging and causing all sorts of things to rush through our minds and thoughts. And yes, they resented everything I told them and to be honest at 15 and 17, they still do. You'll begin thinking you know more than your mom, but believe me moms still know more. Don't be so hard on yourself. Relax, take deep breaths, and prepare yourself for a new chapter in your life. Don't worry about your haircut. I'm sure you will look great on that first day back to school. Your life is not falling apart, you're just beginning a new chapter.

Answer 2

Sounds to me as if you are growing up, it's difficult for everyone when they start high school and if you're only 13 you are a little younger than most of the other freshman.
I know it's easy for me to say don't worry so much, but you should try to realize that everyone else is having the same kind of worries.
Your life isn't being wasted by spending the summer relaxing, be thankful that you have the time now because in just a few years you'll probably be working during the summer.
When you feel like crying, sit some place cool and quiet and breathe deeply and slowly to help you relax. Some of these feelings are probably hormones, they are rushing through your body making you grow and they can make you feel very out of balance. Deep breathing is a very good relaxation tool. Try it when you go to bed at night too, concentrating on breathing can keep your mind from racing all over those other things and let you calm down and sleep.
But, if you have trouble sleeping for more than a month and you just can't get relaxed, have your mom take you to your doctor to discuss the problems you're having, you shouldn't "suffer in silence".

Answer 3

hi - okay you are a teenager what a confusing time it is ...half of you wants to be a girl the other a full blown adult ... there is so much pressure on teenagers and you are anxious re your new school, maybe you could listen to a relaxation cd or even better do something new if you dont do art sit and sketch do things for fun too dont pressure yourself into being/not being you.... talk to someone you trust if you can i remember turning a teenager yuk! one minute i would be listening to music the next someone would shake a fizzy drink up inside me making me want to explode...i'm sure your friends are all going through the same feelings dont be alone.... something else that might help you is a me book ..... write things then give a positive and negative eg. i dont like my new haircut answer a ...it might grow on me/ i can get another haircut and then answer b ... at least i can (answer to a) because some people loose all their hair and have to wear wigs or be bald!

try not to take life to serious good luck hope this helps!

Answer 4

Everyone is giving you good advice. Teen years are always the most difficult. Instead of staying awake with racing thoughts, try writing them down to clear your mind. Relax and enjoy "wasting" time. School will start soon and you'll be busy enough. Go places with your friends. Get some quiet time in a local library or museum. Life doesn't always have to be a mad rush.

Answer 5

Well one thing is for sure ---you sound like a normal teen -I wouldn't want to go through my teen years again it's hard Sweetheart.
You are too old to be a 'kid' and not old enough to be an adult.
You have hormones doing all kinds of weird stuff to your body and to your brain. Also this is a time in your life when you need your Mom but don't WANT to need her BTW she is your best friend in the world right now -not your pal but an advocate.
It is OK to waste some time /days. We cant't be productive all of the time -vegging is actually good for you sometimes.
Yep you feel like the world is falling apart -its not -it's just changing for you .
Go have a good run,a good cry , beat the crap out of your pillow and then give mom a big hug I send my love ........

Answer 6

It sounds like you're a little stressed about all the changes that you're going through. Don't stress so much about the new school--it's not as bad as the movies make it out to be! Also, if you haven't gotten your period yet, my guess is that you'll probably get that soon--the crying/being emotional part could be hormones. Talk to your mom or someone that you feel close to about the way you've been feeling lately. Just hang in there, it'll get better!

Answer 7

Wrongs can be different between cultures and can change over time. Some cultures believe that certain food must be prepared in a certain way and it is wrong to do otherwise. That wrong my have evolved before refrigeration was available and so may no longer be applicable. Even so, there will be some who follow the tradition just because it worked for prior generations. For people who believed in the necessity for racial purity some people it was wrong to have integrated schools, shared restaurants and bathrooms. For people who believed in male superiority, it used to be wrong for women to expect equal pay. For populations that were dying because of disease or loss of life in war and natural disaster, one can imagine that homosexuality was discouraged because it diverted sexual energy from reproduction. I suspect that if you check the 10 Commandments you will find that each was described to discourage actions that tended to have bad results for those societies at that time and probably still does. In many cases, just as you have described and to the developed world of the 21st century, these bad results appear quite logical. In Biblical times, only a few understood the logic or had the wisdom. Moses was very wise indeed and knew that the long suffering Tribes would never have believed he could personally have such wisdom but if he described these as the words of God, well . . . . . .

Answer 8

Once school starts, you'll start to have some clarity about your place in the world, and the stress will fade. If you're really worried, tell your mom your concerns and have her take you to a doctor. I know that it can be hard to go through so many changes all at once, and sometimes just diving into your future is the only thing that will help your fears go away. Good luck.

Answer 9

Talk to someone. A friend, family member, someone you can trust. If the feelings continue, talk to a doctor.
I just got OUT of my freshman year at high school. Trust me; you are gonna have a lot more problems then a crappy hair cut. If you think times are hard now, wait til you get to high school.
Things will get better, though. If you try to keep positive, things will get much better in the long run.

Answer 10

This sounds so familiar. I'm a senior now but this was me just a few years ago honey. For some strange reason girls go through this...most of my friends went through it and we didnt talk about it till years after because its a very personal thing. Highschool is tough to face but is going to be soo much fun for you and such a HUGE growing experience. you know this subconciously and it is making you stress. Just embrace it and let it pass and tell your parents that you're sorry for being a little on edge. Try to be with your friends and be open to meeting new people and embracing changes. you'll find yourself happy again soon. trust me!