does having sex before marriage make you a bad person?

Question

i mean can you be a good christian but not save yourself fo r marriage? im not talking having sex with every person you mean. but does it make you a bad person to even have it once before marriage?

Answer 1

Holy crap what gave you that idea? You're missing the point, no sin will ever make you a "bad person" if you are in Christ. Thats not what its about. Whether you tell a lie or have sex outside of marriage sin is sin. So no it does not make you a bad person.

But is it the life that God wants for you? No it's not. Are you hurting you and your partner, emotionally, pshycologicly? Yes. God has something better in mind for you then all that, it's so worth waiting. Christ isn't about following the rules and getting it right, the rules are there to show you that you can't do it on your own. So that you go to Him and find out what He really has in mind for your life.

Even though you have given away your virginity (which is a precious gift) you are not any less a person then any pastor or pope.

Hope this helps
-Red

Answer 2

This question is more complicated than some of the answers make out. I don't think sex before marriage is anything bad or unusual, but I am not bound by the code of your religion. If you are devout and believe that it makes you bad then I would say this is something to consider. I know that the excuse that all people sin allows you to ask forgiveness if you have made a mistake, but that does not allow you to go and do the sin and then go ask forgiveness, that would be an abuse of the confession. I know many good christians who have a more pragmatic approach to the rules set out in the bible, which is the imperfect word of man (don't let anyone fool you). The short of it is if you think it is wrong then don't do it! Some people will think less of you for having the sex and others for letting yourself down. I believe sex is so great because nature wants us to have kids and people spend far too much time thinking they are above nature, and can ignore reality. Good luck with your decision, either way there is a place for you and those you love on this plant.

Answer 3

Of course not. If you have a close, loving relationship with someone, sex can be an important part of that. You just have to be responsible, that's all. Pick your partners wisely. Don't jump in the sack with everyone you like. Be careful not to get pregnant or get an STD. That kind of thing. Moderation in all things.

We have a 'moral' standard of women being virgins when they got married. But remember that goes back to a time when girls got married at 14. In those days babies were thought to come 100% from the dad, the woman was thought to be just an incubator. The ancient Greeks (and Jews and Christians) believed a man's sperm contained a tiny, fully-formed person, called a 'homunculus' and it just -grew- inside a woman. A man marrying a woman wanted to be absolutely sure that if she had a baby it was his own! I think that whole mode of thinking is obsolete.

Sex has a very strong emotional component, especially for girls, and especially when you're young. You can really hurt yourself, I mean emotionally and psychically. So just be careful! Be good to yourself! I mean don't just do it 'cos -he- wants to do it. If he really loves you he should want what's best for -you-, not for -him-.

Answer 4

I personally choose to wait for marriage and a commitment. I'm 23 now and really want a family, but based on a solid foundation and trust and respect for marriage.

Answer 5

Hi there!

Good people sometimes make bad decisions. Don't let one decision (good or bad) rule your life. Once you find your true soul mate, that person will love you for WHO YOU ARE, not things you may have done in the past.

Answer 6

no,it doesnt make you a bad person. but God did intend for sex to be a holy thing,something reserved for the married couple,according to my beliefs. now,it wont make you a bad person but it will cause you to lose out on what sooo many people view and had experinced-a beautiful thing

Answer 7

having sex, at any time, does not make you a bad person
as long as you approach it in a good way, meaning safely and with a open mind and heart, it is fine
it is wrong if you are hurting someone or allowing yourself to be hurt, emotionally or physically , whether married or not

Answer 8

You probably wont get the blessings of God if you do. Also you may loose your beloved. They tend to take and run. I would save yourself, you will feel better about yourself and it is considered illicit sex and not recommended in any scriptures. If you already did. Ask God to forgive you and just wait until Marriage again. Sex is actually for Procreation and if one has it for sense gratification only they will not be able to understand that we are not this material body, but we are eternal spirit souls. Illicit sex and even sex for sense pleasure in marriage brings one bondage to the material conception of life. Read the original Gospel of the Nazirenes. (the original teachings of Jesus before king Constantine changed the Bible. google gospelofthenazirenes.com Very enlivening and enlightening to know the truth.

Answer 9

no, but according to God it is a sin. He intended for sex to be reserved for marriage. But you must remember that there is forgiveness, and we all sin, we are only human. If you would like to talk further feel free to contact me.
God Bless!!

Answer 10

The main message of Jesus, and the New Testament is to love thy neighbor. Whatever else other people have added to it is merely their own interpretation. However, reasonably, sex can not make you 'bad' because the action itself does not hurt anyone.