problems being alone?

Question

ever since I can remember I have had trouble being alone, I've asked my family if they knew why but they just said, "you've always been that way" - I always seem to do fine when I'm with people. I'm very people oriented, and I get energy from people. But since my wife died over a year ago I've been alone most of the time, since I've been on disability and I am still not cleared to work. Essentially I just get restless. I don't have any trouble when I 'm out with people, no anxiety anything. I'm assuming a lot of it is post-trauma and all from my past sometime. I've been seeing a Psychologist since November, and I've shared things with him, and essentially he has no idea about most of the things I've shared, pretty much beyond his scope, but I like him and he's good. Makes little sense to me.

I read the Betrayal Bond - and it said that this is common in trauma victims, nearly everything in the book was true of me. I seemed to have many similar issues. thanks.

volunteering - it's funny that people have suggested that I deliver meals on wheels- I'M GETTING MEALS ON WHEELS. Most of the things that there are volunteer positions for are things I can't do for myself. so how can I do that?

my church - nobody called nobody came over when my wife died, I'm not asking them for anything. I offered my help to them. I do participate in one volunteer group where we help people clean up after storms. they are ok with me providing comic relief so that works. It was once a week and now once a month. Not enough to meet my needs for fellowship.

Answer 1

Not everyone is cut out to be alone. I come from a large family and I was in the hospital alone for long periods of time so I have learned to love it. But not everyone is. Maybe what you should do is find some place to volunteer during the day while you wait to get cleared for work. That would give you something to do during the day which would also cut down on the time that you're alone, I also think that maybe you should get a pet so that you're not alone.If you like cats get a cat as they don't' mind being alone during the day when you go back to work. It has been found that pets can contribute a lot to the mental health of people who are a lone. I know that if the dog that I have now is not with us in three years when my youngest goes to school I will get one because I like being alone but not all the time. Try that it can't hurt.

Answer 2

If this is beyond the scope of your Psychologist. It is certainly not out of the scope with the Lord. He created you, he knows you, he will help you. Trust, Depend, Rely on him...your world will change.