we been separate for 3 years,,sometimes we chat or talk by phone,i really love her,i suffer because i miss her and i cant get over her,i belive i can be with her again,but it would be nice to hear about your tips people!!.
2007-07-31 11:54:56 · 29 answers · asked by mickey z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Simple! You take the bullet!! Take responsibility for anything that went wrong before. Get the initial reason for separation resolved and then you can rebuild on a clean foundation!
Good Luck
C'ya
2007-08-08 10:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your ex have been divorced for three years, it is time to realize you don't belong together. You may be good friends still and love each other but you are not both in love with each other or you would have stayed married. Accept that she will always be special to you and move on. Learn from your mistakes and try not repeat them. If one or both of you were unfaithful, or had anger issues, or other types of destructive behaviors you should also consider counceling so you will be ready to start another relationship with all that baggage.
Good luck
2007-08-08 03:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by TERI Sexton 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three years of separation! Wake up! Instead of telling yourself "I can't get over her," tell yourself "I want to be with somebody that wants me. Why do you want to be with someone that doesn't want you, crazy man! The best advice I ever got was from a lady that worked with me. In one of our discussions about my upcoming divorce, she commented to me, "You can get over anybody." I didn't think so at the time, but that proved to be true. Stop the "pity party" and do the right thing for yourself. It's a tough thing to accept, but if you can't change it, then you must accept it. Quit feeding your subconscious with negative thoughts and start with the positive thinking. I'm sure you've learned something from this experience. Put it to good use, believe in yourself, and make yourself happy -- don't depend on someone else to do it for you. Usually, you can't make someone else happy if you aren't happy with yourself. You can do this. You need to try to meet someone else and take your focus off something that isn't coming back. Whether you realize it or not, it isn't very attractive to see someone following you around like a puppy dog waiting for a pat on the head. She'd probably think a lot more of you if you straightened your back and went your separate way. Go get a lawyer and get a divorce started. Talk about yourself with confidence. Feel worthy! If you don't, no one else is going to be interested in you either.
2007-08-07 00:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by ARIELLE 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation, bud. There are no easy answers. I still think about my ex all the time. I truly believe that you can only find one true love and maybe she is yours. It is hard living everyday with a heavy heart. But, you have to hold your head up, and keep pushing forward. I don't mean trying to forget her, i mean keeping a positive attitude and keeping your hope alive. Maybe someday there will be a knock at your door and she will be on the other side. That is what keeps me motivated and able to trudge through the daily routine of living with a broken heart. Someday she may come back to you.............good luck to you..............
2007-08-05 09:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to her about this? does she want the same thing? sounds like the 2 of you arent ready to let go if your still chatting and talking on the phone! do you go for coffee together/ are you seeing someone right now? if you 2 are still communicating why are you separated! i hope you 2 can work this out, be open and honest with her, thats the only way you,ll know!
2007-07-31 19:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by confused 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can only say that you need to keep looking forward. If you couldn't make it work the first time, for whatever reason, I doubt that it would work now. You two are still the same people. Just because you love her doesn't mean you are right for each other. Maybe friends are what you are meant to be.
2007-08-08 11:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three years is a bit too long to be thinking about going back.There are reasons why you are no longer together,I think you should move on and not waste anymore of your life or ten years may well go by and things will be where the are now.
2007-08-07 18:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Charlotte's Dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my husband 3 years ago and we get on better now than we ever did, but I would not go back to him, I love him dearly and we have 2 lovely boys , but I cannot forget the reasons that I left him so they would always be on my mind. Try to move on with your life as I doubt she will come back, enjoy her friendship with her but dont waste your life waiting for something that will never happen.
2007-08-07 04:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by juliewylie29 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and how she is the love of your life! Help her out with her finances,women love security. Ask her out for a date....Be very honest,no games! Try to have some fun and be thoughtful;women want to be reminded that they are loved! You really didn't give much background as to why you divorced,but best wishes.I would also pray about this!
2007-08-08 10:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by ana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what you can do is woo her back into your life lots of women like romance for example you can invite back your place for a candlelit dinner for and have rose pedals all around your house/apartment and have candles lit and have a fireplace have lit and if they don't work let me know at brenda94710@yahoo.com and I will see if I can come up with other ideas of romance for you and if she falls for the condlelit dinner you can spruce up your bedroom but spreading rosepedals all over your bed
2007-08-08 16:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋