When I was 9(4 years ago) my parents got divorced...My dad still lives at my old house and I live with my mom and my sis in a small apartment. I love Ravenna...My home town...and miss my old life style and friends..My dad invited me to live with him but I dont no wat to do I mean I dont want to leave my friends here. My pets live with my dad and I miss them alot to. I still get to see my dad every other weekend. But when Im with my dad I miss my mom and when Im with my mom I mis my dad...Please help.. I would do anything to go back to before the divorce....
2007-07-31 10:59:31 · 15 answers · asked by Christian W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My heart goes out to you. Divorce is not easy on anyone... especially the children involved. It's not going to be easy as you become a teenager!
My suggestion would be to visit your dad a couple of times a month (every other weekend). Just think of it as a nice little vacation a few times a month where you can enjoy your pets and your hometown. You can also spend a good portion of the summer there when school is out! :)
The reality is that there's no way to turn back time to before the divorce... I know you know that. You're going to have to keep your chin up and think: "Ok. How can I make myself happy with my situation." Count your blessings!
If you're upset, you can always talk to your mom or dad about it and see what they think. Good luck to you. This will get better if you stay positive!
2007-07-31 11:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Cochy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you and other kids have had to go through this. You need to tell your parents how you feel. Confused and missing the one that is not around. Perhaps you can spend more than just every other weekend with your dad. Maybe 2 weekends in a row. I am wondering whether you and your sis both visit your dad at the same time. If you don't it might be nice to have her around. If you don't then try it alone.
2007-07-31 11:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by isingmore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy, but you have to accept that it will never be the same again. I can't tell you who you should live with, but I will say this: think positive. What are all the good things happening now? You've made new friends, obviously, right? You still get to see your dad.
Whatever parent you choose to live with, think of it as an adventure. You have so many unexpected things coming your way. It's exciting. Your relationship with each both your mom and your dad will change, and you can use this as an opportunity to make it even better.
I hope this helped.
2007-07-31 11:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. Often parents think that their kids will be happy when they're happy, but it doesn't work like that.
I don't know what you should do now, but hold on to the idea that you can create a family that stays together once you're an adult. My parents were really unhappy, but stayed together, so I looked closely at every marriage I could from the time I was your age so I could figure out how to be happily married. I was really careful about marrying a man I thought I could live with, not just love. You can have what you want, just not when you want it.
2007-07-31 11:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 10 year old daughter goes threw the same thing as you. She is 4 hours from me and she lives with her mom also. I get her every other weekend and 1 month out of the summer. she just went home after spending 2 weeks with me. i could tell she was getting home sick the last couple days. which is normal. i spend quality time with her as her older sister does also. I f it would be possible ask dad and mom if it would be ok to take the pet to your mom's every other week. as far as your friends i know it is hard to be away from them . Just keep comunication open with them. Divorice isn't a good thing and it hurts children very much. both parents need to put their differances aside and do it for the children. I tell my daughter i love their mom for being their mom , but we just couldn't make our relationship work. Always be open to your mom and dad about your feelings and thoughts, and ask them to talk about them with you. Good luck
2007-07-31 11:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by whats the answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 03:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think parents realize how tough divorces are to kids.
And its not your fault for one thing.
If you do live with your dad, you can have the opportunity to meet new friends, and spend time with him.
And your mom lives with your sister and you've lived with them already so it wouldnt hurt to give something new a try.
2007-07-31 11:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by bite the dust 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seek a professional to work through thing's. It won't make anything go away but, you may find some insight's and way's to work through this. The more you can relate to other's in the same predicament, the more level headed you are likely to become. Think rationaly and not with your emotion's and maybe it will become easier for you.
2007-07-31 11:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parent Trap!
2007-07-31 11:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some times you will have to accept reality, specially when you can't change it ... just try to adapt and get the best of both your parents
2007-07-31 11:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by Luay14 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋