I am in love with a married man...I actually took me to his house when his wife was gone..we didnt do anything but talk...but i was so nervous and i felt so bad! We habve more of an emotional bond than a physical one...I know..it is bad and i feel terrible steooing foot into their home...how do i get over him?!! Should i tell his wife or will that make it worse?
2007-07-31 10:33:37 · 33 answers · asked by lovehim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is the woman the homewrecker? He is choosing to be with you, so he must know of what could happen. Does he love his wife? Is he happy at home? Every situation is different and men/women cheat for different reasons....usually because of something lacking in the marriage. Regardless of anything, he is still doing the wrong thing. If he is unhappy at home, he should leave, then start up a relationship with someone else. It will be hard, but you have to walk away because you will end up getting very hurt. Maybe he is chained to a very unhappy marriage, in which case, he may decide to leave anyway. I wouldnt tell the wife.....I would have a talk with him, tell him how you are feeling and maybe add "look me up when you leave your wife". This situation is not good for anyone concerned and the wife will eventually find out anyway. Maybe he wants to get caught......taking you to his house was very risky. You have to walk away now to save yourself immense hurt.
2007-07-31 10:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you not worth more than this. He is sweet and fun because you are not a responsibility or priority such as his wife and kids. If he tells you he can't see you or why he's late, you'll understand. DDDUHHH. Don't let yourself be another side thing. So he's screwing you in the day and his wife at night. If he can do this to them then what do you think his morals are? He's telling his wife that he is not cheating to keep her faithful or prevent her FROM leaving. You are a side chick that can easily be replaced. We as wemon need to respect each other as well as ourselves.
Wemon always want to feel special. Feeling special is not being #2 trying to be #1. You think because he is nice and sweet " at the moment" and tells you how he is unhappy that you need him. Find someone that wants to be with you and you only. Flirt. Go out. Date. Getting to know new people will help you move up not down.
2007-07-31 10:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by moeschk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away from him. If you're having thoughts like that, then don't have any more contact with him. Isn't adultery against the 10 Commandments? Don't even think about telling his wife anything if all you've done is talk. Leave the man alone before you both regret it! And remember this - what comes around, goes around! Better keep your distance!
2007-07-31 10:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by gatorgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand by your principles on this. You know it's not right. Most married men want the best of both worlds. A girlfriend for fun and sex, and the wife for the LTR and family. I had a girlfriend in the same situation you're in. She fell in love with a married man. His wife found out and divorced him, his children were resentful and angry toward him AND her (they hated her). And while my friend and her man were together, she had to deal with the resentful teenagers. And when they finally did get married 15 years later (she was never able to start the family she wanted) - he ended up cheating on her with another woman. Firstly - once a cheater, always a cheater. Secondly - do you really want to waste the best years of your life on a man who is just leading you on? Most of the time - they won't leave their wives until the wives find out and divorce them. Then, sure, he'll marry you. But he'll step out to find the girlfriend first chance he gets.
2007-07-31 10:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG you must be my twin, I just asked this question like a wk ago, but my guy actually hit on me which made it ten times worst. After a constant struggle with myself over this same issue, i decided that I was better than that... Truth is, he is not going to leave his wife for you, if he pursues you its only because he wants sex. You would be consider a home-wrecker, with a broken heart.......and i know it hurts to see some else with someone you love, but trust me, if you make the wrong decision you will only hurt more in the end.
Please just walk away, do it for both of us.
2007-07-31 12:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him it's over and if he calls don't answer. It's really hard, but if you know it's bad, you need to end it. The thing is that he is not emotional with his wife because they live together and they have a lot of responsibilities to take care of. With responsibilities come arguments. You're his escape for now. If he leaves his wife for you, you'll be living together and will have responsibilities to take care of. With responsibilities come arguments. Since he didn't learn how to handle arguments with his current wife, he won't know how to handle them with you. So, he finds someone else. You get the picture, right? For your own sake, not his, end it. Good luck, darling.
2007-07-31 10:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him!
If you don't, you ARE a homewrecker. No one with any kind of morals would be involved in a relationship with a married man.
Sure...tell his wife. She has a right to know what you both are.
2007-07-31 19:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely that will make it worse. Resist that urge, you aren't telling her something she doesn't already know.
You are the only one who can set your standards. Decide that this is something that you find distasteful and you do not want to get involved with a man who is lying and cheating on his wife.
Woman who get involved with married men, do it for a reason, you might want to consider counseling to find out why.
2007-07-31 10:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is you have to get over him. I have been thru the same kind of situation, mine was a little different, they werent married, just lived together, I felt bad, but after a long while got tired of waiting for him to be with only me like he kept saying he was going to. I got tired of waiting then met my own husband. It will be hard, but do yourself a favor and find someone else.
2007-07-31 10:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your not a home wrecker yet but if you keep seeing him you might become one. SO think about it and maybe there married has been in trouble for a while and your not to blame. Telling her will make matters worse. SO think about it and move on and forget him. Not unless he's divorced.
2007-07-31 10:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋