I have a good friend who is male. I wanted,on my end to be more than friends. As time went on, it just never came to that point. But it's fine because we are the best of friends. Anyways I hadn't seen my friend for quite a long time and we just drifted our own ways. This was fine too because this happens in friendships.
A year later, this friend comes by my job to say hello to me and to just talk a bit. Then again we part company.
I later run into another friend and tell this friend that so and so stopped by to see me. This person whips around and says "Oh! you know, he's gay! I saw him holding hands with another guy!"
My first reaction was that I was stunned, than I recovered and said to that person that no matter what, I will always be the other person's friend!
The person in question never told me that he was gay all the time that I knew him. Should I confront him with what I know or just let things be because he is still my friend regardless!
2007-07-31 10:27:01 · 8 answers · asked by December Princess 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd pretend you didn't hear it and let him tell you. That's not something you'd appreciate someone asking you.
2007-07-31 10:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you confront him? If your his friend and he's gay who care. I think that would be kinda hard to bring up in a casual conversation....oh by the way I'm gay....Eventually you'll see him with his bf or he'll mention it. Honestly who cares, one of my dearest friends was gay and passed away from aids a few years ago. I still miss him because he was even better than a girlfriend.
2007-07-31 10:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't interested in a relationship with you before this latest revelation so what difference does it matter whether he's gay or not?
If you do "confront" him your going to sound like a whiner and may as well cry "but I fancied you, you can't be gay!"
2007-07-31 10:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well now you know why. maybe this person is ashamed to being the way he is and still in closet. just let him know that you know and you still are friends with him and that is fine with you. he will appreicate it and come to really be friends with you and probably best friend you coudl have.
2007-08-06 14:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's your friend, should it matter if he's gay or not? He already gave you a clue a year earlier.
Enjoy and make the best of your friendship.
2007-07-31 10:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by D S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be. If he hasn't told you personally then he either doesn't want you to know, or he isn't actually gay.
2007-07-31 10:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by sashafan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why confront him..when he wants you to know he will tell you and how do you know that person isnt lying
2007-07-31 10:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by switchmistress 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'd tell you if he wanted you to know.
2007-07-31 10:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by sonrisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋