I stay with some of my friends in an apartment, but there is one girl is very close to me.. she has a boy friend but in another country.. we are so close.. and i can't stop thinking about sex everytime we are near and talk till late at night .. one day we kissed but i didn't do anything further coz i think it is wrong.. but how ? she is so attractive to me and we seem to like each other a lot
2007-07-31 09:56:55 · 44 answers · asked by NICK MCNITE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no its not ok because if she has a boyfriend in another country then she has a reason why they're apart.ask her who would she rather choose,her boyfriend or you.she should make the choice and if she chooses you then you can do whatever both of you want to do together,just as long as you use a condom or whatever you like
2007-07-31 11:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What about the boyfriend? In another country or not.. he still is her boyfriend. Also, is sex all you're gunning for?
If it's a relationship you want, then it must come from her to leave her boyfriend. Don't do anything.. yes. you've already kissed, and that's wrong, in terms of your relational status because she's hooked up. If you want, talk to her and ask her about it.. if it means anything.. because you can't go any further since she's still hooked up. Ask her what she thinks about that, and take it from there. I'd suggest that you don't kiss her again until it's made clear as to what your intentions are..and so with her intentions as well. _
2007-07-31 10:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by Rogee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, just be cautious with her. You're a man. And what I've noticed from your question is that u want to have sex with her. You think about having sex with her. NOT, being with her...NOT being her boyfriend. So be cautious. She is a woman. And sex for a women is sometimes more than just physical. Emotions may sometimes get into play. And she may want more than just a physical offering. U guys have apparently been friends for a while so I'm sure u know how she can get. If u are ok with this, go for it. But if not, this can hamper and complicate the friendship. Definitely not worth the quick nut.
2007-07-31 10:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't have sex with someone you "thinks" wants it - you should have their clear, verbal, uncoerced, sober permission.
I generally don't recommend sleeping with roommates or coworkers, because if anything goes wrong with the relationship you place yourself in a very awkward situation. Don't make a move on her unless you're willing to move out of the apartment.
Finally, show some respect to her relationship. It doesn't matter if her boyfriend is in the next country or the next room - he's always in her heart, and you have no right to interfere with that. By asking her to cheat, you show a profound lack of respect for both her and yourself. Wait for her to break up with him before you make a move.
2007-07-31 10:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a very thin line. I dont think you need to be thinking in terms of right and wrong but whether you could live with yourself if it happened or what it would do to the relationship if you'd got it wrong. If your as close as you suggest above, then try talking to her about it. It sounds like you have a fantastic relationship i'd be very wary about destroying it. I'm not saying this is a bad idea, just that you need to go slowly and talk to her to find out if your both coming from the same place. good luck
2007-07-31 10:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you have a good relatioship right now, so i would go any further because what if the boy friend comes to see her... it would be really awkward. Maybe if she breaks up with him.
Orrr you can talk to her, dont force anything.
But what if you had a gf, but she was having sex with another guy, how would you feel?
2007-07-31 10:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sushilove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one you wouldnt want to ruin a good relationship, i had a lot of best friends that were guys and we would have sleep overs and all that kind of stuff, but I never slept with them, I thought about it and I am sure they did to, but I would rather have a life long friend than have my best friend hate me because I did something wrong with sleeping with them and ruining everything.
But then again maybe she has the same feelings about you. But you wouldnt want to ask her and make things weird.
So my advice is to tough it up and keep your willy to yourself :)
2007-07-31 10:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by Keisha L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The operative word here is "friend." If you really care for her, then you will respect her and maintain some self-control. Once you have sex, it will be the point-of-no-return that you may regret.
Immerse yourself in some kind of constructive activity or hobby when temptation strikes.
2007-07-31 10:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by D S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult question. Don't have sex with Anyone if you're going to regret it in the future. Make sure you truly care for the person, and the same on their end. Hope this helped!
2007-07-31 09:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas L 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You hit and you two won't be friends for long. You will enjoy yourself though for a while but that ride will come to an end pretty quickly once she realizes you're just having your way with her.
2007-07-31 10:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋