leaving home cuz of a girl?

Question

My friend is on a very compex situation, he moved about 1 year ago to another city, finished high school and started college, but he is planning to move back to my city. He said he really misses us (friends) and this girl who he really liked. He said he didn't adapt well in school and has no friends and nobody to hang out. But moving will be complicated... let me organize on pro and cons


Pros
- he will come back and hand out with his old friends
- he might get the girl (which is going out with another guy, so i'd give 40% chance she goes back to him right away)

cons
- his father won't back him up
-he will have to work for the "extra" stuff like cooking and driving and living by himself

What do i tell him? Just tell everyone to **** off and go after his happyness? Or just stay where it is safe and confortable and try harder to adapt?

Answer 1

Frist off YOUR A DARN GOOD FRIEND!!! Not in the traditional disney sense no, but in the respect, integret, givin a hardcore sh!t type of way... With that said this guy might just need YOU. Really, life isn't about prusueing happiness ether I mean how many Braveheart/300/Last Samuria type moves have to be made before people realize you can't have happiness, ooo you can have a purpose, but happiness is something your stive for, but your should be happy finding peace. Ether way this comes down to the fact of weather or not you personally want to leave this guy to the traditional path ( education,marriage, kiddos, midlife crisis, retirement home, death) or something new and different. If your not prepared to maybe being this guys hardcore friend I say was your hands of him. Sorry to put it like that but thats the way of our world, the society is set up for us to have to live our own lives, it isn't fair, it isn't right, but if you not willing to take this to next logical conclusion. That in the end maybe it isn't his inablility to adapt as much as his ablility to feel. See there isn't anything right about striping away your family and friends for you own sake. Its a catch-22 any good friend, or family person doesn't do it for themselves and to ask them to all of a sudden do it for themselves is asking alot of anyone with a big heart. So in the end ether you let him take the path of his own selves destiney. Or you him, and everyone else you guys consider to be great friends fight for something common between all of you and live a selfless destiney. Becasue anything short of that is just taking away the resources he needs to live his own selfish life.... when man losses identy, purpose, and direction he no longer is a man, but an animal....