All my life, I have tried to lie it as good a Catholic as I can, but after a divorce, Lymes disease, all my friends abandoning me, and now my son and daughter-in-law die. Why?
2007-07-31 09:46:20 · 10 answers · asked by catfishguy05 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
So sorry for your losses. Many things in this world are, though you may not believe this, the luck of the draw. You did nothing
to merit these things. Perhaps the beauty in your life comes from the grace and strength that someone else who is undergoing terrible trials,sees in you. Maybe that is why YOU are here.
2007-07-31 09:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by nutsfornouveau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your trials, especially the loss of your son and daughter-in-law.
It's a mistake to think that good things in this life are a sign of favor from God. After all, Jesus says that God makes the sun to shine and the rain to fall on the good and the bad alike (Matthew 5:45). Jesus fulfilled the Father's will perfectly, and even He couldn't escape suffering and an unjust death. Remain firm in your faith, no matter what trials lie ahead.
Remember that the rewards of the next life are more important than anything in this life.
2007-07-31 10:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by kcchaplain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open up the book of Job and you'll see it only makes sense in this allegory. Read Job for inner peace of imaginative problem solving and acceptance through this allegory.
First, everyone gets disease at one point or later. A lot of people divorce (60% isn't it?). I have no friends either. Dying son and daughter-in-law, I am sorry to hear and many condolences to you. Life surely doesn't distribute the sufferings evenly, but remember that some people have a mental break down with very few self-perpetuated illusory beliefs and one stressful event brought them down. Everyone's tolerance is different and mine is very very very low.
2007-07-31 10:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Pansy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most events in life happen for their own reasons without regard for how they are going to affect others. Disease is a good example, so is random robbery or a car accident. We can increase or decrease our chances of those happening but when they do, they do, and it's not in response to anything we did. It is a child's view to think all our events are consequences of some action we took. As paranoid as that would sound, the truth is far more grim.
2007-07-31 11:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by All hat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a firm believer in Karma. In my younger days I did some unsavory things and all the bad stuff happening to me later in life a thought it was from that. Well for the later part of my life I try to be a better person. I give people chances who I wouldn't, I donate to charity, I do volunteer work for the needy, and handful of other "good" deeds.
Some how, bad things always happen to me.
"Good guys finish last..."
2007-07-31 11:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an age-old question. I hope it comforts you some that everyone in the world has asked this at one time or another.
First, let me tell you, my heart breaks for you for the loss of your son and his wife. Please go to your priest and let him comfort you as he can. Join a grief group. It will help you not to be alone right now. I would recommend some counselling if you can stand it. You need to talk to someone who can help you handle your grief,pain, loss, bewilderment, aloneness, and anger.
I can't give you the Catholic answer. I was raised Catholic and left because it didn't help me answer this VERY question. I hope you can find refuge in your faith.
My answer is this: Life is what it is. Good things happen, bad things happen. Life is not GOOD or BAD--it is.
They are good and bad because of how we choose to "take" them. Of course, the things you mentioned would be nearly impossible to find "good" for anyone.
There is NO WHY! Things happen to everyone. It is random, and not INTENDED to punish you, torture you or make you nuts. When good things happen, they are not INTENDED to make you silly or careless or shallow, either, but they can do that, too.
We are back to the individual and how it lands on you.
If the only reason you are good is so you can have a hassle-free life- you have been had! It doesn't work that way.
Live a good clean life because it makes your daily life more pleasant. Live a kind, thoughtful life because it is important to take care of other people (and yourself.) Go to Mass, say your rosary, give to the missions-all that stuff that makes you feel closer to your god. If it doesn't, don't do it.
Things are going to happen-bad things and good. You have to have in place at all times, good friends, spiritual/emotional strength, faith in the basic goodness of people, and a desire to live well to get you from one bad thing to the next good thing.
I know you didn't want your divorce, but eventually, you may come to see that you also didn't want to live with a man who could divorce you-hurt you-leave you, etc. YOu deserve-as a woman-to have a man in your life who wants to be there. If you don't think so, you will one day.
I know you didn't ask for Lyme's disease and it is not a bit fun. It is painful and awful. Try to spend as much time on yourself-getting HEALTHY or at least healthier ASAP!
Frien d who would abandon you-for whatever reason- ARE NOT your friends. Do not let bad experiences with people ruin your abilty to reach out in compassion to others. Find a group of women your age or interests, and hang out with them. Find a new group of friends, and don't contaminate the new relationship with a litany of miseries. You are trying to get away form THEM, right?
Listen to others. Volunteer at a nursing home or homeless shelter. You will find others who are wayyy more beat up than you. You might find solace in helping them or going to committee meetings to fix their situation.
And I don't know the circumstances of your child dying and your d-i-law, but I do know the best present you can give them, is to not let life destroy YOU.
Please go see someone ASAP. You need to be with people. Isolating yourself and drowning in your own tears will do nothing for you or anyone else.
E-mail me, If I may be of service to you.
2007-07-31 10:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about your son and daughter in law, and your illness,,,,, bad things, i think, can happen to anyone, try to also think of the good things that have happened to you, even though i know at times its hard
your son lived long enough to marry, many dont get that, they lose their children at an early age
i am not sure about the why, of bad things nor good,
ps: i dont believe religion, or following one, protects you from bad things, but it can help you deal with them, and give comfort, when they happen
2007-07-31 09:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by dlin333 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Karma. Though you are a Catholic and may not believe in it. Jesus originally taught karma, reincarnation, and vegetarianism and no one goes to hell eternally. King Constantine added, omitted and misconstrued so many things in the Bible to fit his own desire in 324 AD. It was easy to do back then because only the higher ups in the church and government had copies and women couldn't read. He added Paul's teachings who never even met Jesus. Those who follow today's version of the Bible, are following the Roman governments version, not Jesus actual teachings. This is a fact and is proven.That is why their are so many Christian denominations today, due to this confusion Constantine created. Read the original New testament (The Gospel of The Nazirenes,and all clouds will go away and the truth will become very clear. Google gospelofthenazirenes.com following the original teachings of Jesus will set you free. One must understand karma, reincarnation, and no one goes to hell eternally to understand the unlimited mercy and love of God. Though their is a hell, but that is only for ones very bad karma. I can help -write me for details.
2007-07-31 10:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
because we think that there are such things as "good people" and "good things", an extreme oversimplification. There are people and their actions and the consequences to those actions, however we categorize those things doesn't change them. All we have as people is our own actions and attitudes. Its all in what you choose to do and how you choose to react to things, do waste your time dwelling on things that you cannot control.
and don't worry, theres nothing to be afraid of.....ever.
2007-07-31 11:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by renegadephilosopher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KISS MAT or qismat lol
2007-07-31 10:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋