we have been talking alot about beeing together for the rest of our lives. and we both feel we r perfect for each other. what age would be good to get married???
2007-07-31 08:53:30 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I like and agree with Poppet, do not be dictated by what society says, go with your hearts, and if you both believe you are ready, then get married.
Many many Blessings on you both whatever you decide, I know you have heard all blah blah blah, so God be with you both!!
2007-07-31 09:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by boopbaddabing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just asked this the other day - My opinion is that there is no "right" or "wrong" age to be married. It is really when you feel that you are ready - when you know that you can live on your own and support each other mentally, physically, emotionally.... all that - if you can do all that then you might be ready. I've known people who were married at such a young age (17) and until now at the age of 55 are still married. I also know of a couple who were married in their 40's but soon divorced after because they said they just weren't ready to be tied down. It is how you and your partner feels about the situation. If you are mature enough to tackle anything that comes your way then go for it.
2007-07-31 16:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by princessk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that at 19, you are way too young to get married. Not because you or he will lack in marital skills etc etc...but with marriage comes a huge responsibility and commitment. It's great that you feel you've found someone you can be happy with for the rest of your life...but the rest of your life is still a long ways.
I suggest finishing off college (if you're in) or start (if that's what your goals are). If not, then find out what you want to do career wise, if you want to travel a bit..then travel! This is the time to really figure out what YOU want to do with your life, and what memories you want to be able to share with others. Just because you don't get married now, does not neccesarily mean that you can't get married 2 years or so down the road.
I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 27, we're both in college...I'm earning my BA and he's in grad school. We've been together for over 3 years and he asked me to marry him. I didn't say no, I still think the world of him. But I just know that there are things I want to get done before I settle down. But utlimately it's up to you. Good luck.
2007-07-31 16:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best time is 30's. Finish college/university first! Have children later on! Living together is another story, this is very different from dating for 2 years! Don't get married, just live together in a apartment or something and see even more further! Every body has flaws, defects and imperfections. Make damm sure, U know exactly how the opposite sex's family lifestyle is like. Their mom, pop, brothers and sisters. I married a woman, who comes from an extremely lazy, very messy living life style of her brothers and sisters. So watch out! Good Luck!
2007-07-31 16:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 and my husband was 21 when we started dating, we are now married, and I will be turning 22 in 2 months. Its not about when( as in date and year) its about how much you feel for each other. I realized that David and I were meant to be together when I was watching the news and heard about a woman who lost her husband. Instead of thinking of David as my boyfriend and how sad I would be if I lost him, I immediately thought how devastated I would be if something happened to my husband. There is no specific age that is a good age to get married at, its all about if you are ready to spend the rest of you life with that person.
2007-07-31 16:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by miss_vixen_1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you plan to attend college I think you should do that first. If not, I say head on down to the courthouse and get hitched today. Some people on here may say you are too young but I've known people that married at your age and continue to be married 30 years later. On the other hand, I was married at 30 and divorced 7 years later. There are no magic numbers or formulas for success in marriage. Just go for it. Good luck.
2007-07-31 16:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still both very young. Most people that are dating someone at your age don't end up marrying them though. Both of you have a lot of growing to do and there is no rush. Statistics show that the highest divorce rate is those who marry under the age of 25.
2007-07-31 16:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married when you feel that u are ready. When u feel that you could take care of him if something happened tomorrow. If he was in a accident tomorrow and had to spend the rest of his life in bed. Would u still want to marry him. Look at the good and the bad that could possibly occur.Make sure that u are financially ready to get married.
2007-07-31 16:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by specialsuber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not be the same person 10 years from now, or even 5, that you are today. He may seem perfect right now, but in time, your ideals and prospectives may change. There's nothing wrong with dating long term. If you love eachother and still want to take the plunge a few years from now, then go for it. But give yourself that extra time to become who you really are before merging with someone else.
2007-07-31 16:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should make that decision for themselves. But...I changed so much between the ages of 18-24. I really was not as grown up as I thought I was at the time. Not to mention, men grow up so much slower then women. My husband of 4 years is 36 and still not quite there.
So my advice is to take it slow. You both have so much to learn about who you are. If it is meant to be, your relationship will only grow stronger by waiting.
2007-07-31 16:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by acherry76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋