If you think about it there is a 60% chance the marriage will end in divorce. Most likely your wife with get half plus the kids, house, alimony, child support and your stuck trying to figure out how to eat! That's a heck of a gamble for any man to take.
2007-07-31 08:44:34 · 16 answers · asked by thomas c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Right on brother. I wish I had it all figured out like you do before I took the plunge into the abyss. I'm divorced now for nearly 10 years and am enjoying life much better now. Having a wife is a real drain on you emotionally and financially. That's why more and more men are rejecting the idea. Like you say...what's the upside?? There is none.
2007-07-31 08:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Marriage is what you make of it. Both people have to be committed. Some marriages will prosper and some will fail. That's the nature of the beast. What's in it for one person may not be in it for another. But it seems that we should all want to settle down and find that special someone, at some point in our lives. It's not all about the house, the cars, alimony, etc. Also, the man is not the only one who is being put at risk. What about the woman? If you don't want to get married, then fine, we can all respect that. But respect other people's decision to tie the knot and find them a lifetime partner.
2007-07-31 16:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one plan for the end when decided to start.
the legal system has evolved in such a way that woman is protected but not man. and sad to say no one bother to change this, looks like those can try are happy with it, and those who can't change, just follow it unwillingly....
if one really worry about the sad ending, then don't get married in the first place. not ready for it.
only when both willing to work together to make the marriage a successful one will move on in the desired direction.
it is just too complex to handle this in the legal aspect.
people got married mostly they model after their parents. it is right to get married and have the next generation, it is healthy. just the little risk that need to manage carefully.
for whatever reason, both are gambling, agree? not only man...
2007-07-31 15:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, with a negative attitude like that there's a 80% chance that your marriage will end in divorce. The divorce rate is so high nowadays because nobody wants to put in the effort that is needed to make it work! I have been married for 11 yrs. and yes there has been times I have wanted to walk away, but neither my wife nor I are quitters, and we love each other now more than ever. If you use your time to date wisely, you will know who you are marrying. A good christian woman won't ever believe divorce is the answer to difficult times.
2007-07-31 16:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by Scott S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could think of several reasons right now:
1) economical: to pay less taxes, to make it easier to move to another country (visa issues), to use work-related health insurance benefits, etc.
2) love: so that she won't marry anybody else
3) family-related: for better communication with children, to make your grandmother happy, etc.
4) social: so that other women would leave you alone, your boss would understand why you are not working during weekends and your buddies wouldn't drag you to the bar too often
Of course, there are a lot of reasons why you may want NOT to marry. It's your call.
By the way, I am not sure how credible is the argument "marriage prolongs life". It could be seen from another side: "the longer you live, the more chances are that you get married". Kind of like you can say that high education prolongs life because nobody with Ph.D. dies before age 20. Actually, you just don't have time to get your Ph.D. if you die at 19. It may be the same with marriage. Dying young is the alternative of getting married eventually. Besides, really sick people are at disadvantage as partners for the marriage.
2007-07-31 16:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Recently, the growing number of never-married, divorced and cohabiting adults has reduced the percentage of married couples in the population. Because people make decisions about marriage based on their views of what the benefits could be, social scientists should inform people of advantages suggested by recent research, said Linda Waite, president of the Population Research Association of America, who points out that the benefits of marriage far outweigh those of living together.
According to Waite, marriage can be understood as a kind of insurance policy that promotes economic and physical well-being. Among her findings:
_ Marriage prolongs life. In a study published earlier this year, Waite and another researcher found that for both men and women, marriage lengthens the life span. This benefit increases with the duration of the union. Married men live, on average, 10 years longer than nonmarried men, and married women live about four years longer than nonmarried women. Married men live longer because they adopt less risky, more healthy lifestyles as a result of the commitment brought on by marriage, and married women live longer due to improved financial well-being as a result of marriage.
_ Married people have sex more often and enjoy it more. Concern about sexually transmitted diseases may have decreased people's willingness to have sex outside of marriage.
_ Having children improves the chances that people will remain married, because having a family increases commitment to marriage.
_ Cohabitation does not increase the likelihood of a stable marriage. People who have cohabited may have a decreased commitment to the institution of marriage, even after they marry.
2007-07-31 16:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's not a 60% chance any given marriage will end in divorce. That rate drops significantly with age, education, and income.
Don't get married if you don't have any intention of working at it or staying together. No one says you have to!
Do yourself and the potentional children (which apparently to you amount to nothing more than a monthly check... do us all a favor and don't have kids!) a favor and stay single.
2007-07-31 15:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
On the other hand, you can spend your free time either wondering what to do, where to go, who to keep company with, or you can even date someone for a really long time and never make a commitment on paper which will eventually bother the woman who will want to know why you can't commit which will turn into arguments which will lead to her leaving you for someone who can and will make a commitment on paper, or you could just date a string of women, blowing your money on what they want all the time, never having one true-blue person who loves you for you and who will actually be there 24-7. Sure, it's a chance you take. Life is all about chances and choices. Or you could just give up now. Love only yourself, spend your money on yourself, and comfort yourself in old age. Buy a $12 mirror. You're set for life.
2007-07-31 15:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, 100% of people die...does this mean we just sit on teh couch and wait for the bitter end? Don't you want to enjoy yourself in the meanwhile? And the divorce rate is less than 60%, it's under 50%, meaning for every marriage that fails, another one survives...I guess you're just a glass is half empty kind of guy.
2007-07-31 15:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend and I are making a prenup agreement. We go in with what we had and come out with what we had. Also in the agreement will be if we have kids, it is 50/50 and we will live as close to each other as possible and if the child wants to visit either parent at any time, they are free to do so. We have also talked about not doing two Christmas' if we have kids.
2007-07-31 15:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋