im in high and with my friend we werent best friends but we were reallly getting along very well last year.this year she ddidnt said it, but she really hates me, and apparently thinks im annoying which is a problem bcuz we'r in same school and we have same friends. im not inlove with her but id like to be friends. but i dont think she wants that so what should I do bcuz this situation really upsets me. if it doesnt upset me, i wouldnt care at all. but it does and I wanna solve it. i sent her a msg couple of days ago, she ddint reply and i know that she saw it. what should I do? do i have ignnore her, and will ignoring make me feel better? cuz i wanna feel better, its not about her...
2007-07-31 08:28:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no not at all we didnt talk since the school is closes its the first time i mailed her in like 2 months!! its not about the mail anyway. by sending that mail im now certain that she hatees me. helpp
2007-07-31 08:37:12 · update #1
You should get over it. If she doesn't wanna talk to you, what's the point to get her back? Dont worry too much about this. This is normal. If she misses you, she will get back to you. If not, you dont need to care. I'm sure that you can find another friend who is much better than her.
2007-08-06 14:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I think: I think that almost every girl has had this problem or a problem similar to it. I think that you were right by sending her a message ... to let her know how you feel. But I don't think this is a problem that can be solved on the internet. I think that you should talk to her person. I understand how upset you are about this ... but you need to get her to understand. Sending her messages and messages might not solve anything ... it might not even help at all. But I don't know what kind of person she is ... so I can't speak for her. But she must be a good friend if you care that much to be friends with her again. When you talk to her ... or when you talk to her ... you should definitely ask her what it is about you that bothers her so much. Because once you find out maybe there is something you can do to fix it ... so that things can be better for the both of you. Just never give up ... okay??
--hope I helped
2007-08-08 07:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by lovexyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when one girl starts hating on another girl it's from envy--her crush likes you better or something of that nature.
Or maybe she thinks you don't really care about her and were just using her. Maybe because you didn't try to stay in touch with her over the summer?
If it's the first thing, you'll never be able to do anything about it.
If it's the second thing, you have to decide eactly how much you're willing to bend over backwards to get her to trust you again. Make sure that you're not trying to be friends with her again just to fluff up your ego. Be friends with her if you care about her.
You could ask your group of friends somewhere after school and make sure she knows she's included. If she goes, you'll know she felt left out of your life before. Also, you could ask one of your mutual friends if she thinks your hater is being envious.
About the ignoring, it won't make you feel better, and it's not really possible if you're in the same group all the time.
2007-08-07 23:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Beth Rorie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to hurt more as time goes by and you will lose your self-esteem for chasing after a friendship this former friend no longer feels for you. Give it up. I'm sure you're a caring and good friend from what I've read, so you will not have to go friendless. You don't have to be mean to her, it will be good if you can smile pleasantly, but not speak except maybe to say"hi there!"
2007-08-07 12:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lean on Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well did you do anything to this person? if not try and talk to her once and see if what happened can be fixed if not then just ignore her that is all you can do. i mean its sad when one is hated for no reason and you have same friends but be the bigger person and dont' drag her down. it will show shes a nut case n ot you and they will like you better.
2007-08-06 14:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your name reminds me of my friend. Ok right to the point have you been mailing much like about everyday or something tell me your intervals of your mailing to her
2007-07-31 08:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the summr to make this friendship work, ask her if she wants to hang out or if you can talk to her, she should at least be honest about her feelings towards you because you know you have to fix it because whether she likes it or not you will hAVE TO SEE HER BECAUSE YOU SHARE FRIENDS AND IGNORING HER WOULDN'T BE RIGHT. iF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND IT'S O.K BUT YOU DID YOUR PART BY TRYING TO WORK IT OUT, SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO BE YOUR FRIEND, JUST TELL HER YOU DON'T WANT TO BE HER ENEMY, GO STRAIGHT UP TO HER AND TALK TO HER IN THE EYES, NOT IM BECAUSE THERE YOU ARE AWARE OF WHAT YOU SAID.Good luck
2007-07-31 08:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by raidergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did you do to make her hate you hate is a strong word to use maybe one of your other friends told her something you said that was not true just ask her why she don't like you any more there's got to be a reason.
2007-08-08 06:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by shay love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a clue. She doesn't want to have anything to do with you, so get over it and find other friends.
2007-08-06 11:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by midgetme 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋