I'm not sure if this is wrong or not. I am 26 and I am starting to feel my biological clock tick. I already have one child and I'm afraid of waiting too long to have another one and dealing with getting my body back into shape. After I had my son, my body didn't bounce back and I slipped into a deep depression. Now I am finally back at a weight I can live with and I feel like it's an ideal time to have another child. My husband and I have talked about this and even picked out boy/girl names but he doesn't want to have another child until our financial situation gets a little better. I know he wouldn't be angry if I was to get pregnant again but I do know it would cause a lot of stress in my home. I would love to give my kids the opportunity to be close in age and go to school with each other but I'm not sure what to do. Would it be wrong and/or selfish to poke a hole in the condom? I'm not COMPLETELY certain that I want kids right now but I'm curious as to what you would do.
2007-07-31 08:14:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
It sounds pretty selfish of you to actively TRY to become pregnant if you know your financial situation isn't that great right now. It absolutely would be wrong to purposely become pregnant without talking with your husband and agreeing with him that it's time for you two to have another baby. If I were your husband and if I were to ever find out about that, that's something I would divorce you for.
2007-07-31 08:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i agree with the ladies answers before me, but you know, you should tell your husband all your reasons that you just told us, explain your concerns, and see what he says. Your husband trusts you so don't dissapoint him if you want him to trust you. You would be guilty afterwards, and probably end up telling him and he wouldn't be happy about it. Think of the consequences. Just talk to him and think positively, maybe you'll be surprised about the result and it will turn out better than you would have thought. Plus another thing is you are only 26 I'm sure you can wait one more year or two for your financial situation to stabilize and improve. I'm sure your whole family would be much happier when both of you will agree to another baby and will be ready for it. Plus how young is your son, I have a difference 5 years between my brother and me and it's not that bad. Good luck =)
2007-07-31 08:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by H Z 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its a good idea. I understand wanting your kids to be close in age but it will happen at the right time. If your meant to have another baby it will happen. You should really think about what your husband is saying. He wants a financially stable environment for your children. There is nothin wrong with that. Its about family and your husband should be involved with such an important aspect in both of your lives.
Please dont take into your hands like that. That is something you would have to deal with when the consequences come, and they will come! Be careful with that one. It may be repetitive but "honesty is the best policy."
Best of luck
2007-07-31 08:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by mandy5_0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would NEVER get pregnant without mutual consent. Talk it over with your husband. Explain your feelings about having the kids close in age. Also, figure out a plan regarding your finances. Maybe there are some things you can cut back on which can help with the baby.
If you both decide together, you'll both be happy.
good luck.
mari
2007-07-31 08:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by mari m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck no I would not plan a pregnancy without both of us agreeing to it!
And I would not resort to such devious actions as poking a hole in a condom.
2007-07-31 08:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes told u a gd reason why u cnt hve a child yet u cnt afford it
its spiteful to bring a baby into the world if u cnt give it the best life possible
your husband didnt say u cudnt hve a baby
2007-07-31 08:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your marriage is strong, your husband will not make a big fuss about having another child. If he says no, then you should wonder why he is saying that.
No, do not have one without mutual consent.
2007-07-31 08:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by Gentle Dragon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course not!
2007-07-31 10:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋