my bf accuses me 24/7 that im cheating! im not i luv him a lot n i take a lot of his crap n i swear its like he hallucinates n like makkes up his own **** i hate it! but i wont leave him which is stupid! i shud but i wont i just want him to realize im not cheating. the reason i think hes like this is either cuz i used to b a player n hes stuck in my past or hes the one cheating n assumes i am 2!! i really luv him n wanna stay w him! any ideas on how i can possibly change him a lil or get him to trust me?! if thats possible!
2007-07-31 07:55:29 · 33 answers · asked by RoCkStAr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's not possible. He seems to have low self confidence. It has nothing to do with you. Leave him and find someone who believes in himself. Guys are bad enough when they don't appreciate you, they're worse when they're so scared of losing you, that they sabatoge the relationship.
2007-07-31 07:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by piratefancarrie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Instead of changing your boyfriend, maybe you should change. Make sure that you call him every 15 minutes to let him know where you are. Carry a GPS tracker so that he can confirm your movements. Cut all connections to your friends and family. Give up any type of work or school activities you do now. Take a lie detector test and allow him to dust you for fingerprints. You can shave your head, wear a potato sack and a mask whenever you go out so that no one will find you attractive and he can't accuse you anymore.
Sounds crazy, right? If you can't change who you are for him, what makes you think that you can change him to be what you want in a boyfriend? Jealousy and insecurities are not a foundation for a strong relationship. I hope that you will not become another victim of the "love" he has for you.
Someone needs to change in this relationship: You.
2007-08-07 10:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy like that. One incident I was working and he called my work and said that he had just seen me with some guy about an hour before that...funny because I had been working all morning. This guy was so paranoid that I was cheating on him that he "supposedly" knew when I was with some other guy because I "supposedly" smelled different. He was so CRAZY and paranoid!! I tolerated a bit thinking I can convince him that I really was not doing anything wrong but he was too much. I really liked this guy but there was no way I was going to tolerate a relationship with no trust. I ended things with him and a month later I found out he had a girl pregnant and she was 4 months pregnant...it had only been a month since we had broken up. So if he is that paranoid then girl..I am sorry to tell you but he is probably doing it to you.
Hope my story helps.
Good Luck ;)
2007-08-08 05:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honey, I'm sorry to tell you this but, your boyfriend is the one cheating on you. has he looked in your phone and called all your guy friends yet? if not, it's on the way. you really need to get away from him before he gets to be controlling and REALLY jealous. you won't even be able to go out with your girlfriends. know what I mean? You have to have at least a little trust in a relationship and if he accuses u of cheating 24/7, then I just don't think that he even has a little bit for you. No matter how many times you tell him, no matter how many times you beat your head up against a wall, he will never trust you because he is the one cheating and he thinks, if I'm doing it, then she is too. it's totally up to you honey but if it were me, I'd be outta there.
2007-08-05 21:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately most people today have zero teaching on how to act appropriately while in a committed relationship, and a lot of cheating is the result of not being careful. its a common belief that its okay to do what she's doing, but Im afraid she is wrong. You are feeling that way for a reason. She shouldnt be hanging out with other guys without you around. Not if she is committed to you. I'd bet you a million dollars that if she's not ugly, at least one of those guys already likes her and its only a matter of time before one of them starts making moves on her, and its only a matter of time before she starts flirting with one of them too. It doesnt matter if she's taken, that doesnt stop the laws of nature. we are designed to fall for the opposite sex when we spend time with them. it can even happen to us while in committed relationships if we arent being careful. sure we may have innocent intentions and say we would never cheat, we can have all the trust in the world, but a law of nature is a law of nature. its like saying I trust the apple never to fall off the table, but if you start pushing the apple, its eventually going to fall anyway. so you arent crazy, and you are worried for a good reason. she needs to find some girls to hang out with, she has no business calling or texting other guys. not unless you two want to have an open relationship where its okay to see other people and explore. and if shes not willing to stop her inappropriate behavior, maybe thats what you'd better settle for.
2016-05-19 00:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men who reveal a jealous characteristic tend to be those who lack confidence on some level. When men get jealous, it’s usually aimed at insecurity and the thought of losing the one they care about. If you believe that there is someone else who can make the woman you’re with happier than you can, then you could have some jealous tendencies. In addition, if you notice a significant dissatisfaction in your mates overall happiness in the relationship, it can also cause insecurities. These issues must be addressed in order to secure your confidence and prevent jealousy.
2007-08-02 04:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether u were once a player or not, don't let his insecurity be the reason to control over you. Talk to him which in most cases, they will not admit to their insecurity despite their disposition. So you will have to reason with him about "trust". And both have to make an effort on trust which is vital to a continuing relationship. Note, overly controlling partner can result to horrible life and situations. So don't get it started.
2007-07-31 08:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by Ai_22192 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have been cheated on before you,but he has to realize that trust is the most important part of a relationship,i think it is nice of you to stay with him,maybe you are the first woman who has not been unfaithful to him,i hope all works out it sounds like you will stick by him through thick and thin
2007-08-06 01:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda hard, and he has a point there if he doesn't trust you. It will forever be in the back of his head because once a cheater always a cheater. Maybe he has been cheated on before, and maybe it's time to leave if these arguments never get resolved.
2007-07-31 07:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like to me he's afraid to lose you or he may be on drugs... Well if that is the case you need to let him know that in a relationship it is critical to trust your partner. You just need to tell him that if he can't trust you then things are not going to work out and its going to be harder for you guys to do things in life. You'll just be stuck in a repeating cycle of making up and fighting over and over.
2007-07-31 08:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by levittman_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually the one accusing is the one who is actually doing it. if he starts saying who are you cheating with ask him the same damn question. sooner or later your going to get fed up with it. it will become like a broken record and regardless of how much you do love him you wont be able to put up with it. basically tell him if he doesnt knock this untrusting sh.it off your going to dump his azz. he has some trust issue to deal with.
2007-07-31 08:01:16 · answer #11 · answered by dwmmdm2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋