Can you go to Al-Anon if you had a husband who was an alcoholic, but is dead?

Question

He committed suicide with a 5.0 blood alcohol level.
I have been a mess for the last two years. I can't sleep, can't concentrate and don't enjoy anything. I would really like to be able to talk with people who understand what living with an alcoholic is like and won't blame me for what he did, as most of his family does. But I hesitate to go to Al-Anon.

What can I do to get over the self-inflicted death of a man I'll never stop loving?

Answer 1

I feel so bad for you. You need counseling with a professional I think. Don't wait, seek it now, get your life back.
Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Alcoholic husband not fascinated in intercourse? Is the least of your issues. Yeah, looks such as you and a great number of others have tried to inspire your husband to get some help and he has carried out not something. nicely, so what do you do now you ask? supply up it. meaning,... YOU supply up IT! in case you have the monetary means, then merely %. your **** and get out. permit him marinate in his own distress. Oh, and don't difficulty dropping some time giving him an ULTIMATUM, merely go. you ought to MAKE the 1st pass! And yeah, he will probably cry and permit you be conscious of that he's sorry and that he will exchange. NO he won't, not every time quickly besides. So supply up dropping your existence away, and get on with it already. additionally, once you're finally aside what ever you do, do not tell him the place you have moved to, he does not ought to be conscious of. particularly each and every now and then merely check out go-examine him to permit him be conscious of which you're risk-free etc. merely permit him be conscious of that the only way, which you 2 can come back collectively (if that's what you quite need to do) after the separation, he ought to tutor to you that he's made and maintains make noticable transformations to proceed to be healthful in all factors in his existence, in any different case the marriage will ought to return to an end. be conscious: basically do all this in case you nonetheless quite love the guy. in any different case, supply up kidding youself, and merely end the distress already.

Answer 3

Al-Anon would be a good place to start. It's unfortunate that anyone needs to try to put blame anywhere, especially on you. Go to some sort of counseling, the sooner the better.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry, my husband is an alcoholic, and yes you can go to al-anon, even if he passed away.......... It is not your fault you did not stick the bottle in his mouth........
Try to get some counseling if you can also, there are all kinds of groups. I know what you went thru. Try to get yourself busy and into al-anon as soon as you can. God Bless You.
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Answer 5

Yes! That is what AlAnon is for (I used to work in the field) You don't have to stop loving him, you just have to learn that he was sick and it wasn't your fault. I am sure he loved you, but that disease is stronger than love... so the disease won. Find a meeting , DO NOT be ashamed or embarrassed, they are there to help you. A support group is exactly what you need. TRUST me (almost 5 yrs in the field) it will help you.. I promise..

Good luck

Answer 6

You can go if you want, but a group of people who's loved ones killed themselves might help more. Did you ask Dear Abby this same question?

Answer 7

yes you can,, they dont have rules that say you need an active abuser in your life. some i know never did, maybe they had other brands of dysfunction. the principals still apply.
though keep in mind the group is not likely to let you carry on about "him", its about you.