Hi All :) .. Do you DERIVE more from a GOOD DEED, when YOU don't tell anyone you've done it? :D?

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Answer 1

I like praise and I love it when people recognize me for something I did especially if it was a good deed I just did.

Although I love praise and recognition.........there is something about helping others and not being recognized. When you truly have IT in your heart to help another. You put your best efforts forward and when you finally achieve what you set out to accomplish you feel great>

I feel the joy in helping others and the more I help them out the better I feel about myself..It does the heart good to help others from time to time. However if your goal is to really help someone then you won't really care about any recognition you get whether people think you are doing bad OR good.

Well I personally try not to tell anybody , I take great pride in myself when I help others achieve their goals.I know that I'm on the right track and I am helping others on the way..For me that is the best reward. We must fight for what is good even when everybody else is against you.............Sometimes you must even give up your dreams to do the right thing.

After all honesty, integrity , and love are the things we should spread the most

Answer 2

When I tell someone about your good deed, I expect a reward in the form of praise. That betrays a self-centered motivation; in a sense, I'm "in it for the money." The deed is good, but the effects only last on the side of the recipient, not the giver.

Once I allow that, I'm dependent on other people's opinion for what I do - rather than on my own judgment. The result is a potential cloudiness of my thinking. What happens if my judgment conflicts with what I know (or think) other people think? I'll be torn between what my conscience and my desire for approval. Looking at history, you've got to admit that even a large group of people can be mistaken as to the right thing.

That sounds pretty far removed from a simple matter of helping a child find her way home (which anybody would consider good), or beating the hell out of a would-be mugger (which wouldn't be approved by everyone). What I'm interested in is the *habitual* side of choosing: the more we do a similar thing, the easier it becomes to do. Doing good for its own sake brings with it ownership of the decision - you and you alone chose to do it, for reasons you ultimately decided on. That habit will show itself when people *are* watching you, just as the habit of acting merely for approval will show *itself* when people are watching.

I can't say I'm a perfect do-gooder. What I can say is, I've learned a thing or two - never underestimate the power of a habit - and am doing my best to make myself a little better for it. And hopefully other folks will learn from my mistakes rather than repeat them. That way they're free to make their own mistakes, and learn from those. That's the only way we'll learn.

Answer 3

My brother thinks that there is no such thing as a selfless good deed. Going on that idea, either bragging or keeping it to yourself is still selfish and cocky because you performed the kind act for any number of personal reasons.
As for me, I dont think sharing of something nice you've done minimizes or takes away from the fact it was done in the first place. I also don't think that sharing it should be a way you get your rocks off (so to speak) by getting praise.
I guess it depends on *why* you are sharing the story.

Answer 4

thats a really hard question. It is hard to give a 100 honest answer but i shall try... I think it would come from just my parents and making sure i didnt get in trouble with them. I really dont think i have any morals. Everything i do and dont do is because of my faith and my religion. Before i was a religious person i was a good person but did things that i would not now. So my sense of moality would just really be so i wasnt judged... if i even had any morals... im not saying atheist dont have morals at all here. Im just saying if it were me i have a hard time seeing me having morals if there were no God. So where do atheists get there sense of morality? Cause i know some atheists with great Morals!

Answer 5

The reward should be in yourself. You should have the satisfaction of knowing that you just made someone's day better or easier. If you go telling people the specific deed or basically bragging about it, it's like you did it only for the attention, which is nice, but almost defeats the purpose...

Answer 6

A deed such as that is done for the sure joy or happiness of helping others and not for a reward or praise. A random act of kindness can change the word.

Answer 7

yes. In your heart you know what you did and why so you can't help feeling good about it. But telling someone makes you seem like you did it for recognition rather than doing a good deed for the sake of a good deed.

Answer 8

Yes, you do derive more from a good deed when you tell no one about it. I believe that you get more spiritually, and it has a better effect on your karma. Also, it your good deed is discovered by someone as opposed to you telling them about it, you look better to that person. Anytime you tell someone about a good deed you've done, you come off as a braggart, no matter how modest you may otherwise be.

Answer 9

I think that doing a a good deed to help someone should be done because you WANT to help, because you want to see the other person happy and should not get a pat on the back for doing it.
i think that seeing the thankfulness in people's eyes and stunned face is enough!!

Answer 10

I've always believed that the only true "gift" is given anonymously. There are some people who insist there is not ONE SINGLE we do that hasn't a selfish motivation. That's a bit cynical & not true. Giving, "good deeds" are from a true, inner feeling. Any kind of "reward" would invalidate the deed.