My husband is a wonderful man who has never raised a hand to me or any of my children. However he don't know how to stay home. He is a carnival worker (he doesn't do drugs, drink, or play around on me) & he won't give up the life to be a full time husbasnd. The closest he will come to staying home with us is in the winter, when he's laid off or if he can find a full time trucking job ( witch means 12 days out and 2 days home). But I want more. The other part of my broblem is my ex-boyfriend (whom I still love) has decided he don't like what the hubby is doing to me and he has decided he wants to be my (new) hubby. He is willing to quit his job move half a state away from his kids just to be with me. He knows he can get his old job back, so the job part wouldn't be a problem. He wants to be home every night with me and the kids. I love the hell out of his kids and my kids love him, too. Problem, I am in love with two men and don't have a clue what to do about it. Help!!!!
2007-07-31 07:15:22 · 14 answers · asked by kooreilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As far as my hubby goes I HAVE talked to him about the problem several times over the last 5 years this is not something I haven't put a lot of thought into. And as far as the ex the only reason we broke up is because he loved his kids so much he took back his ex. and I respected him for that. He doesn't have much contact with his kids because of his ex's, and he could get the little bit of visitation switched to hear.
2007-07-31 07:36:18 · update #1
And I did find my hubby a stable job this past winter but the carney offered him $6 more a week But it costs more for us to live apart then for him to have just kept the job I found him. He hated the job and whined about it all of the time.
2007-07-31 07:44:14 · update #2
You made a promise to your husband until death.... so if you're really wanting to renig on that promise, you should at least tell him that you need him home more or you want a divorce. As for you boyfriend who is willing to leave his own kids for you and your kids..... well he's just an ***. He'll leave you too, when something better comes along.
2007-07-31 07:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-boyfriend picked someone over you and now you are okay with that. It appears that he lost her (his ex) and now he is coming back around to hook up with you since he got dumped. You were his second choice and since his first did not work out, now you are the backup. In your words, you called your husband, a "wonderful man". So what do you want to give him for being this wonderful man, you want to rip his heart out and leave him for a guy that left you before and will leave you again. If you honestly believe your ex will stay around, you have fooled yourself. The fact that you love his kids and your kids love him and he does not like what your wonderful husband is doing to you, just means you spend way too much time with him already and he knows way too much about the intimate things of your MARRIAGE. He see your vulnerability, he is a predator and he is using the fact that you get lonely when your husband is gone to break up your FAMILY. I know that nothing said here is going to slow you down, you have your sights set on your ex and you will leave your husband for him. I just hope that when your ex leaves you again, you will hear these words ring in your ears and I hope that your wonderful husband has enough sense not to even think about taking you back.
2007-07-31 14:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. He is your man and he needs to be home with you and your kids. If he cannot choose his family over his job, then the answer is obvious. I don't think that you should rush anything with your ex (he's your ex for a reason) but you do need to do what's best for you and your children. Don't be quick to start a new relationship with your ex because your husband may finally realize that his family is more important than his job and he may want to work things out with you. Just pray about it and WHATEVER you do, make sure it's the best thing for your family. Good luck and God bless.
2007-07-31 14:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married. Talk to your husband about him not being home enough. Shame on you for discussing your personal issues with an ex. Why would you want to be with a man that would move half a state away to be with you? His kids should be a priority to him. You can't possibly be in love with two men.
2007-07-31 14:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is doing all he can to take care of you and the children financially. He cannot do everything. Your ex-boyfriend is offering everything your husband is not. Why? Cut your man some slack. He deserves better than this.
2007-07-31 14:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is a very nice man, dont cheat him pls, its really very hard to find good men nowadays. You have kids and your first priority should be kids, if your husband is really good father, why should you move away, its no fault on him to have a time consuming job. If you have no flexibility then y do u get married ?
2007-07-31 14:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by sarp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He is a carnival worker (he doesn't do drugs, drink, or play around on me)"
First of all - I highly doubt this is an accurate statement !!! Carnie workers are required by federal law to engage in at least one of these behaviors in order to work in the Carnie busniness - at least that's been my impression over the years !
You need to go on Springer and at least get some money for your story.
That way you will have some $$ socked away for you and your kids no matter how this twsited tail turns out.
2007-07-31 14:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love two men, however you said your vows to only one man. You should sit your husband down and talk to him about how you are feeling rather then expressing your feelings to a bunch of strangers.
2007-07-31 14:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by girlajeepin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you truly love someone you are not interested in any other. don't take this man away from his children for your benefit. it is not fair to them. you may get what you want but it is not always greener on the other side. you knew what your husband done when you married him so why get angry now
2007-07-31 14:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-31 14:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Hunny B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋